How do I deal with my girls weight gain?

[Anonymous]

First let me say I think she's beautiful and I have no problem with the few extra pounds she had put on. That being said she's very unhappy and think she looks (get words) like an over stuffed sausage ready to split.

There is no junk food I'm the house. In fact there is hardly food in the house. This causes me problems as well. If we have food around she will over eat were I can have a bag of chips last all week but she'll munch on them all day then the bag is done.

I don't know what to do. She has gone to a doctor who have her diet pills but those make her a little crazy so I'd rather she nut take those. Plus those pills make her so wired she can't sleep well and that will start causing its own issues.

Any help would be appreciated!

Updates

+1 y

I should have added we do go for walks two three times a week. Also I do work out vidoes with her once or twice a week.

[GodLovePeace]

Aww well... I think your girlfriend has a hard time exercising self-control and I don't mean this in a bad way. Most American's (men and woman) have a hard time resisting food and many people over eat due to boredom or emotional issues/ attachments.

I think what can help your girlfriend the most is to adopt to her healthy living lifestyle. Dont have junk food in the house BUT introduce her to healthy snacks with lower portions.

You can make sugar free brownies or buy stuff like that.. there's a lot of Sugar Free deserts you can introduce her but the trick is DON'T bake a full pan only have one serving and the rest can go to the homeless (if you have any where you live I live in Vegas so there are tons here) or your neighbors. That way you are eliminating temptation out of her life but you are still helping her get a little desert.

I think for now you have to be patient until your girlfriend learns self-control.

My ex boyfriend ALWAYS begged me to eat better when we were dating but he didn't help he always gave in and bought me bad foods. So at the same time he was trying to encourage me to eat better he was enabling my addiction and poor eating habits. Don't do what he did. Do I blame him? No but I mean if he didn't buy me all those bad foods I wouldn't of gained weight. Sometimes you have to exercise tough love which means not giving into buying junk food for your girlfriend and not having it around for yourself.

You both should be eating healthy if you both want to live longer. Just buy better food choices and focus on smaller servings.

If you want your girlfriend to stay in shape sacrifice for her greater good she'll appreciate you more for it in the long run and I think you'll appreciate it to.

[GodLovePeace]

Like I said I don't blame my ex but now that I look back at it he was only encouraging me to eat with words but he wasn't implementing a healthy lifestyle in me he was enabling me and I ended up gaining like 80 pounds due to that. It was mainly my fault but at the same time he was the one who always bought the bad foods for me when I requested it. He would say "You shouldn't eat so much" yet he was the one who always bought me fast food and stuff.

I think part of being a good boyfriend or a good parent is doing what's right instead of what doing what somebody wants you to do.

It's kind of like equivalent to a drug addicted child. You may be the parent whose like "Aww honey please don't use drugs" yet you give them 50 bucks knowing good and well they are going to buy cocaine with it. While your kid may say "Mom it's not for coke!" you know good and well your addicted child is going to buy coke first thing. Just don't be an enabler do what's right.

[Asker]

Thanks for that. We do eat healthy for the most part. She is totally gluten free, I do the shopping so there is no junk food, and I've been trying to not give in when she asks for things like fast food.

She has said good is her drug. She's only at most 15 pounds over the ideal weight for her hight and body type.

I'll just make sure I'm in no way going to enable her. She's even talked about me being a lock on the fridge and cabinets but I think that's going a bit far.

[GodLovePeace]

Do whatever it takes to get her to her healthy weight. Trust me she'll appreciate it more even if it comes with a little pain. I wish my boyfriend would of stopped me I would of been pounds thinner :P good that you don't enable her though! You guys can enjoy just don't make it a everyday thing though.

[AndyWes]

A. If you're not married, break up with her.

B. If you're married, stock the house with high protein/low carb protein bars. You can find them at most grocery stores, or Walmart/public/target. They're about a $1 a bar, and 200 calories each or so.

[GodLovePeace]

Why leave her? lol that's going a bit too far

[Asker]

Yeah I'm not going to leave her.

[AndyWes]

Ok. Then keep in mind that it's a problem that's just going to get worse... and also, it's not just about some light walking. She's going to need more like 3 heavy workouts a week plus constantly eating light to help get those pounds off. Walking a mile and burning 100 calories three times a week is going to be undone by guzzling down one soda.

[Broncosfan21]

"Hey sweetie, would you like to go for a walk with me? I would like to spend some time with you." And I would advise to eat small frequent meals with lots of veggies and fruits. 3-4 small meals a day

[Dionysos]

Activities that are fun and require you both to move. Do them.

[shannon21]

Sex burns cals. And go gym with her

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

You should work out with her then and be suportive

[BrunetteNYC]

Gym. Go with her.