Would it be awkward if I asked a colleague for a picture of her because I'd love to paint her?

[Bethany22]

How should I go about it? Do you think she would be flattered? I'd borrow a picture of her in order to have something to go off of.

[NathanDavis]

my best friend used to draw portraits of girls he liked...

he is incredibly talented with it, but he is (was) VERY CREEPY about it, he would literally look at the girls from time to time, and then work on the portrait by memories and repeat/adjust as needed

first time I found out was because he said to me "hey look... who is she?" and I was like damn, that's so sick and cool, skilled... but the very next second I was like, wait... wTF? have you been staring at her and drawing her like a stalkerweirdocreep or something? lmao... and not only that, he was going to give it to her as a present and I said DON"T DO IT!!! but he didn't listen...

needless to say the girl was a bit flattered... but also creeped out a bit, he was no total stranger with her, so that eased the shock, anyway...

I told him that it would be better if he approached them first, say hi... and to bring his sketch book with him, so they can see about his talent, and he can explain to them first, and the suggest that since this is what he does... and he thinks that she would be a great inspiration for a portrait... then, the girls would be a lot less shocked and creeped out maybe and they would also feel more at easy to either accept or decline the request because then they are more aware of what the results could be...

uncertainty about these things will make people wonder and worry a bit, lol

[Xepshunall]

I think she would be flattered until she thought about whether your intentions are pure or purely perverted. It would be safer to set your phone in a shirt pocket and take a short video of her in high resolution so you can extract some frames for reference.

[Little_Bumblebee]

Depends on your relationship with each other. But my first thought is that is super weird and kind of creepy.

But if this is something you do in a non-creepy way, you can always talk with her about how you paint portraits of different people - showing her what you've made before, and asking if it would be okay to paint her.

Just respect if it's not a yes.

[melanieeeB]

Well since I remember a few questions from you where I got the assumption that you're not that close with your work colleagues... I would say no, don't ask, I would take it super weird if a colleague with whom I'm not close asked me that

[Emiliamazing]

Being forward and friendly will take any measure of creepiness out of it. Not everyone is an artist, so some individuals will not able to relate to your desire to paint a specific person or object.

[AviatorTom]

Just tell her you would like to paint her and ask for a picture. If she agrees, no problem., If she doesn't, just drop it. And offer to give her the painting when you finish it.

[Sixgunsound]

It would depend greatly on what thevrelationship is like. If you don't really know her that well I'd skip it.

[SnowedIn]

If they are a work colleague then yes, not only is it awkward, it would be horrifically inappropriate. It could actually be grounds for your colleague to go to HR and report you. Leave this idea in your mind and let it go no further.

[Bethany22]

Really? wow, I didn't know it was so bad. Thanks for the advice

[AviatorTom]

#SnowedIn I respectfully disagree. If she asks and the colleague accepts, there is no problem that HR would be interested in. If the colleague doesn't accept and she politely drops it, again HR would not be interested in anything. A simple request does no qualify as sexual harassment, which is what HR would be interested in.

[SnowedIn]

@AviatorTom... as always, you are the voice of reason. Well said, and I appreciate the rudder.
@Bethany22 ...@AviatorTom is right. Let me amend my what I wrote to add that I think there's risk. Here's why: people these days are way quick to take offense. Tom is right that if someone just says yes or no, the whole thing goes away. But if someone -- for whatever illogical reason -- gets offended or gets the wrong idea from your question, it could become a problem. So, again, Tom's right but I think there's some element of risk. Perhaps more openly, it's not something I'd do in a workplace. It feels odd.

[LiamJHayden]

It would depend upon how it came up in a conversation. If you were to just randomly ask, yes that would be weird. If you brought in a painting of yours and she commented on it, you could tell her that you think she'd make a good subject. If she seemed open then you could logically ask for a photo.

[Shy_Steve]

It could be a bit awkward but it depends when where and how you ask, Just ask when your alone with her and just say "This might be weird, But I do painting and I would really like to Paint you from a Photo".

[CarlosWoods]

The best thing to not be a creepy is to show your portfolio and then ask the person

[Charlesbrandonf]

No it’s not, I’ve done it many many times.


If they’re embarrassed let it go.

[Wish4UrB00ty]

I would say just open the conversation with the fact that you are an artist and the move the conversation around to how you could use a new model.

[Kelly6]

ask her to pose for you so you can paint. i used to draw and i also simply asked people to pose naked,

people loved it

[Annacarsimama]

not if your friends with her. If you have never chatted with her before, yea I think so! If its a friend no!! Not at all! It's not a sexual thing right?

[BJP21]

Not really, unless your doing a nude portrait of them.

[Mansearching]

Depending on the situation and how close you are to the person. Don't do it on clock. It could be awkward if you ask and if they don't like the rendering.

[loveslongnails]

What would you think if she asked it of you?

[Bethany22]

I wouldn't mind

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Depending on how close you two are.

[HaveNoName]

I was about to write, "Yeah... sure... Why not?" Then i clicked on the details and saw the last 5 words. 😂 Now i don't know what to tell you.

[cheetocandle]

Yes it would be but do it anyway. Be confident and know your why so you can explain it.

[Staximus]

Just say "hey I'm a painter and want to paint a portrait of you"

[AimeeKyle]

No, just be upfront as to why you want it and what you will be doing.

[Bklynbadboy12]

I just tell her I'm a painter and I'd loke to paint her you never know she might pose for you that's even better than a picture

[Revvl6pro]

Not if your sales pitch is right.

[EaterPeter]

Hey, how are you? Have you ever got portrait painted of yourself?

[Tracker1958]

Ask her out on a date. Tell her you are attracted to her.

[Mahmutboz]

Yes ! Definitely you should first make him/ her comfortable, talk about any issue, make him/ her laugh. in end you should ask for picture

[dancaps2]

Ask her if she wants to be painted first. Then ask if she has agreed

[collie22]

Maybe take your own photos with your phone

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

Not really weird

[FunkyMonkee]

Only one way to find out.

[AmeerX]

I don't think it is something weird.

[Debbie14217]

no if she knows your a painter

[CubaPirate]

Like they do in the Florida Keys lol 😆

[Figurine89]

No I don't think so

[jimmy2]

No do it she love that

[Summeroflove]

No not really

[misogynistic_pig]

Yes.