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Should those Old Grudges be Forgotten and never Brought to Mind again with your SO in the New Year?
Some relationships are better ended.
And some decent people make mistakes, act in ways they shouldn't sometimes, and deserve to be forgiven. No one is perfect. Apologies are a small part of life, but go a long way on maintaining relationships.
If everyone eliminated everyone who they were mad at, at one time or another, no one would have anyone left in their life. So, yes, forget grudges. Mostly.
Oops I just re-read and you specified SO. Well that's a whole other ball of wax! I don't know! Case-by-case basis. Ha.
But yeah, if you want a marriage to last, you sure as hell better forgive and forget.
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Grudges are there for a reason. I do my best to move forward with people that I absolutely have to and ONLY those I cannot avoid. But if you made big mistakes in the past I’d be a fool to expect you not to repeat this behaviour sometime in the future.
Once bitten, twice as shy.
The only useful purpose of referencing past issues is specifically for trying to resolve a pattern of behavior that's harming the relationship. You're not making it about that time. Just using it as an example for something they recently did.
But harassing and painting a narrative about them based on this is harmful to the relationship and should be left alone. At the end of the day you forgave them and stuck with them. To bring it up and throw it in their face is really you now being an asshole, making you in the wrong now even tho you're talking about a time they were wrong
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Women never forget this stuff.
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Well old grudges should be communicated and get solved.
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That attitude should not be limited to New Year's Day.
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God wants us to forgive, just as He forgave OUR sins through Jesus.
He doesn't limit this to Jan 1. - 472 opinions shared on Holidays topic. u
yes they should... but personally, I never hold onto any grudges or I will have to carry them, and then they become my burden which can slow me down, and then I might sink and that will take me nowhere good but down and down, so nope... I have no time to hold any grudges
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This is impossible and not a good idea really I’m not saying you can’t forgive your SO for past issues but you shouldn’t forget if you forget it the issue can happen again and you won’t see it coming and won’t be able to do anything to prevent it but really if it’s an issue worth holding a grudge you won’t be able to forget it anyways because to many things will bring it to your mind especially if you’re SO doesn’t change
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Lol that kind of stuff is just like new years resolutions it's bullshit.
If people really want to get rid of old grudges and leave past mistakes in the past then they start every single day with that kind of attitude instead of harboring onto all that until the first day of the new year then deciding to let go. -
My SO? Not how I want to live.
if there are anything needed to be discussed, issues to be taking care of… it’s at that moment or soon…
Life is too short to do that to each other. Love is to forgive.
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I don't believe in holding a grudge. All it does is get you upset. The person you hold the grudge against doesn't care, so why hold the grudge? Put it in the past (you can't change what happened anyway) and move on.
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Issues will always be issues and if just " pushed to one side " they will become bigger issues , such things need to be addressed , to see if the relationship is to proceed.
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Yes. Old grudges should be forgotten along with the people you have grudge against. Forget they exist. And then forget the grudges because hanging onto bad memories does you no good.
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For those that hold Grudges will die a lonely bitter person.
Learn to let go and have a happy long loving life surrounded by people that love you
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Absolutely Paris! Hey, just a few minutes to the new year (I'm in Australia, and we're ahead of the rest of the world, except New Zealand).
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I don't see any point in holding grudges. Of course they should be forgotten not only at New Year but anytime. It just harms the relationship.
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It depends. Are they the result of unresolved differences and issues? Or are they from Johnny sneaking the last cookie out of the cookie jar?
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Absolutely! A new year, a fresh start!😊💚 Besides holding grudges only makes you feel worse and life is too short to hate on someone.
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„New York, with the politics. All the old beefs and grudges.“
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Depends on how they wronged you.
Why to hold a grudge when you can cut them off completely? -
What significant other? I've been blissfully alone for... Oh hey it'll be 6 years now! New record! Here's to another full year of being single! 🚬
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With SO,
it should always be like "the day changed, forget" rule
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Yes. Let them go! If you cannot do that thenket your SO go. Why be miserable? Love is supposed to be good notdrsg you and your partner dow to the depths of misery!!
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