Why do men see a problem with giving money to his woman but will ‘give’ a gift?

[Anonymous]

I told my boyfriend instead of him getting me Christmas gifts, I would prefer him just give me the cash of whatever amount he was planning to spend on my gifts. He got so mad and didn’t understand why I wanted the money. He said that was dumb & he never heard of that before… Mind you, the reason I said that is because his gifts suck and one of my main Christmas gifts he got me last year is still sitting in his trunk. I never got it. It came broken, he was supposed to fix it or return it. He didn’t. The company even refunded him & let him keep the item, he didn’t even do as much as just give me the money from the refund so really I had no good gift last Christmas from him while I gave him hundreds of dollars of stuff…

[481632]

I get the whole crappy gift thing. Some guys just aren't good at gift giving. I think I can give a little bit of insight into where his thoughts sit. Money is so impersonal. He's at least trying to find something you would like. He may not want to give you cash as the amount he's spends isn't important to him. It's the thought that counts. He may have gotten a great deal on something he thought you'd like/enjoy/appreciate. Giving you the $200 he spent on a gift that would normally have cost $1000 is kind of a let down and makes him look cheap. Why not give him ideas for what you want. Point things out when you're walking through the shops or looking at websites. Give him a list. Photos show exactly what you like. Stop comparing what you spend on him with what he spends on you. It's kinda rude. There are ways around the crappy gifts that use tact and grace. The way you're going about it sort of makes you seem like a shallow gold digger. I'm not saying you are one. Please don't take it that way. Just that the way you've posed this question makes you look like one to those who don't know you 🤷🏼‍♀️

[kylee2437]

Why are you giving him hundreds of dollars of stuff? Stop spending so much money. There’s no reason for that. If he’s lightly spending on you, it’s because he doesn’t feel like Christmas should be about expensive stuff, and maybe that’s all he can afford. Why not money? Because money is effortless and also requires him to give you a certain amount that maybe he just doesn’t want to give. If he gives you $50, to me it doesn’t seem like you would be remotely happy.


I used to be the girl that spent $1000 on my exes for Christmas, but the bottom line is, is it’s ridiculous and excessive. Stop spending so much money on him to prove that you love him

[Summeroflove]

I wouldn’t be angry about that. I mean that’s what you would rather have LOL. It makes no sense to get angry over this.

I would rather someone tell me the truth rather then someone lie to me. Of all the things he could be angry about. This isn’t one of them.

[Guy13]

Alright and a card SND I’m done ✅. Wish they were all like you…

[Asker]

😂😂

[Guy13]

🎅 Ho Ho Ho frosty ☃️

[Bethany22]

Maybe he doesn't you to know how little he paid for the gifts. Or he doesn't want you acting like a prostitute

[Anonymous]

honestly yeah if my partner just asked for money i would be a little upset... i'd rather he go with me to the store to buy what he wants instead. just a little cold and weird just giving money. like i'm some sort of bank account? no... so i would suggest that, going to the store with him to buy what you want.

[Anonymous]

You sound very shallow.