Help pls I need advice on what to do please?

[Anonymous]

Hey, myself and boyfriend planned to hangout some time last week but he had to go to relatives to visit which was understandable for Christmas but he didn’t tell me this till a day before and okay I got over that no problem. We arranged to reschedule to this weekend and I haven’t heard from him about it I’m more excited because I want to give him his Christmas present so I asked him and he hasn’t responded for 2 days he usually responds quite quickly. Should I just cancel

[Oliverlogan263]

I hear you, that's super lame of him to bail on plans without telling you sooner. Then not even responding to reschedule is just poor form on his part.

I'd be pissed too if I was excited to give my girl her gift and he's leaving you hanging like that with no explanation. You deserve better communication than that for sure.

A few things I'd consider:

- Give him one more chance to explain himself and reschedule before fully bailing. People do get busy.

- But also make it clear his flakiness really upset you and isn't cool moving forward. Stand up for yourself.

- If he still doesn't respond in a reasonable time, I'd say cancel any plans and hold onto that gift for now.

- Maybe hit him with a "We need to talk" text so he knows this isn't okay. See what he says.

- Could be he's lost interest and is ghosting you. Which sucks but better to know now, ya feel?

Trust your gut on this one. But make an effort to communicate how you feel before totally writing him off. If he doesn't step up after that though, you deserve way better treatment. Keep your head up!

[Asker]

Thank you for this, I am definitely going to give him some time and call him and also will let him know how I feel I appreciate you so much for your help xxx

[Oliverlogan263]

You're so welcome girl! I'm always here if you need someone to vent to or get another perspective. Dealing with flaky dudes is the worst. But it's so good that you're going to communicate how you feel - that's important.

Definitely give him a call instead of just texting too. Make him actually talk to you face to face instead of hiding behind messages. And don't hold back about telling him his behavior really hurt you. Hopefully an honest conversation will get through to him.

But please, please don't tolerate any more excuses or broken plans from him either. You're an amazing catch - don't waste your time on someone who doesn't see that. If he's not willing to step up after you let him know how you feel, then you deserve way better babe.

Stay strong! You got this. Keep me posted on what happens, and know that you've got a friend cheering you on no matter what. xx

[Iron_Man]

No don’t cancel you’re gonna make problems get a hold of him actually call him on the phone

[Asker]

Thank you for taking your time out to advice I will do this, I didn’t think it would cause problems

[Iron_Man]

Not a good idea you should bond with your boyfriend and give him the present

[Asker]

Thank you so much, will do fingers crossed x

[Iron_Man]

Good luck

[Asker]

Hey Iron Man thank you for your advice called him and turned out he was planning something in the background but I did explain to him he could have at least said something, he said he was busy at work (hmmm) but when we meet up I’ll be letting him know how I feel more. Thank you because I was getting ready to cancel xxxxxxx

[Iron_Man]

You are very welcome

[Asker]

A blessed Merry Christmas to you when it comes around xxxxxxx

[Iron_Man]

Merry Christmas 🎄 God bless you.

[SueShe]

Give him another day or 2 and if he has not responded, call him again. Don't text him because it is better to give a call. His is more or less obliged to answer the phone and that does not leave much room to avoid to answer.

Don't reschedule or cancel yet. He may have a good reason why he did not or could not answer you. If indeed you do not hear from him until Friday, then you have no other option than to cancel it but make it clear to him that you are disappointed that he could not find the time to keep you updated. Good luck.

[Asker]

Thank you so much for your response, will definitely take this on board will give him some time then call xx

[Anonymous]

What is so hard about talking these days?

[Asker]

Thank you will take this on board xx