If you are fat, I'm going to call you fat, damnit! (Page 3)

[YourFutureEx]

I TOTALLY agree with you but insulting someone is bad thing :)

[oxzane86]

Not really because insulting people can also motivate them to better themselves and if they don't want to better themselves then they are welcoming it upon themselves. If they are welcoming it upon themselves, then they either don't care or deserve it because they aren't doing something to change it.

[YourFutureEx]

You never know whom you're talking to Mr. @oxzane86 the other person could get offended and insult or hurt you back. Being an honest person is a good thing but being a too honest person, you're just going to jeopardising your career and relationships. For a better survivability in the society, do more, talk less. If you really wanted to help them, you WOULD help them by suggesting them diet charts and exercises and even aiding them in doing these things. But you decided to ridicule them for their flaws and deriding their values. Nobody is perfect, he/she could harass you back.

[oxzane86]

@YourFutureEx

First off, I understand where you're coming from, but the point I'm trying to get is tough love. If you're good friends with the person, you need to be honest and subtle with them, yes, but they're not going to lose weight by themselves if you don't tell them. If you get insulted, you're not going to want to get insulted again, so you're going to change yourself and lose weight.

Also, if you get mad and insult someone back for being honest with you, that's pretty pathetic. I don't mind being insulted because if there is something they want to insult me about, then I'll fix it or talk to them about it like a mature human being, not countering them with childish insults that probably don't even in the slightest correlate to the criticism you gave to them.
PS:Insult wasn't the thing I was trying to get across all along. You're not going to go up to someone and say 'you're fat, etc.', but you can constructively criticize them. Construction criticism is a way 2 beter urself.

[YourFutureEx]

@oxzane86 you cannot expect from other people to take it as constructive criticism and don't get offended. I think you agree with me that we shouldn't call the strangers fat. Society has made some rules, manners, etiquette and functioning.

So you're taking about calling "friends" fat for their own good? Look, fat people know that they're fat. You don't need to do any special kind of revelation.
You will have two kinds of fat friends :-
#1. Who were already fat when you became friends
#2. Who became fat when you were friends.

Now you saw #1, the first thing you would do is to get to know them better and befriend them. You'd like them for who they are and would appreciate and praise them. Now tell me, how would they feel when you will call them fat out of nowhere after becoming friends?

The only way to constructively criticise people is possible in case #2 and you cannot use "you're fat" but "you're becoming fat day by day, do something". It makes a lot of difference.

[YourFutureEx]

You would be labelled as a rude person even if you were trying to help them because it is how the society function.

[YourFutureEx]

And by doing so, it'd only depict your superiority over them.

[Tarvold]

Thanks guys. But to be clear, my take didn't say anything about going up to randoms and just insulting them. All I'm saying is that I refuse to let people's insecurities stop me from using the fat word.

I tell my friends that they're fat all the time. They welcome it, and we have a good laugh about how hard it is to stay healthy. There's no tone of superiority there, just me speaking up because I care about my friend's health. The thing is, if your friends think you are rude for speaking up honestly, then they're either not your real friends, or you are truly an asshole.

[YourFutureEx]

I included this in my comments :)

[TeaHaychSea]

Yes yes all of this is good but the problem is that healthy food is much much more expensive than unhealthy food. This is why so many people who are less fortunate are also typically obese. You could either feed your kids for a few days with less than $20 dollars, or barely fill your children up with $100 worth of healthy food. It's terrible but it's the truth.

[FedoraTheExplora]

I really dislike Political Correctness.

Calling someone fat because they are just that shouldn't be a bad thing.


I get called lanky because I'm really tall and have long limbs, but that doesn't bother me at all.

If they don't like being called fat they should just lose the weight.

[LightsOff]

Ok so like do you think fat people have never looked in a mirror or something? I'm pretty sure they're aware of the fact that they're fat, so I doubt your "feedback" will mean anything to them. They already know. You're not helping anyone.

[Hannah591]

Trust me, a lot of people are unaware of how big they are. Fat creeps on so gradually that they don't notice how much weight they've gained because they're used to how they look whilst they look much bigger to others. Most overweight people I know are and were in denial of how big they were. My mother told me she didn't realise just how big she was until she lost three stone and looked at old photos.

[LightsOff]

@Hannah591 even if that's the case for some, you can't just assume that nobody is aware of how big they are and that they, therefore, need you to tell them that right this minute. Most overweight people are aware of the fact that they're fat, since it's most likely something they've known/heard since childhood. Doctors telling them. People bullying them. Parents telling them. Relatives telling them. Strangers telling them. Society/magazines/movies telling them. Even if it's something a number of fat people are unaware of, I would say the majority is aware of it, due to the constant pressure they receive from basically everyone, everywhere. And even if they're not aware, so what? Unless it's a voice of concern from a close family member, I think it's completely redundant to go around and tell random people that they're fat. A) they're most likely aware of it and B) even if they aren't aware of it, you will most likely achieve absolutely nothing by telling them.

[LightsOff]

@Hannah591 so what I've gathered from this myTake, the take owner just has this holier than thou attitude that makes him feel entitled to tell everyone what he thinks about them. Unless a person asks, there's no point in going out of your way to evaluate their health or weight.

[averlinlovelace]

I don't know why people are calling you an asshole. There is a huge difference between being thick and being fat. It's stupid.
But yeah, I don't get how people can let themselves get obese. You don't need money to get in shape, all it takes is a daily walk and at-home excersized. Eating healthy doesn't cost much either. You can afford to cook your own food instead of fast food every night (to all the obese adults and teens who have families that can support themselves decently).

[Tarvold]

Thanks for the support.

[CasaNorba]

this isn't 100% accurate as there are a lot of people who are blessed with a fast metabolism and can eat as much junk as they want and still remain lean.

while in the other hand there are people out there who have health issues that prevent them from losing weight and staying in shape no matter how hard they train and diet

[NearlyNapping]

This isn't entirely accurate either. The first paragraph is irrelevant. Of course it is easier or harder for different people, but that doesn't change the fact that it's a lifestyle choice.

The second paragraph is misleading. It is used as an excuse far too often. There are very few medical conditions that prevent people from losing weight. They might make it harder, but not prevent it.

[CasaNorba]

@NearlyNapping i never said i was 100%. or did i?

[CasaNorba]

100% correct*

[baconandcheese]

I agree with this for the most part. But you need to be polite when you tell them. One thing that annoys me is that girls can be fat because there are more than one body type and they're all beautiful. But with guys, for the most part we are supposed to be muscular.

[SilenRose]

The pics are right and wrong to everyone arguing about it. Yes if you eat a lot of junk food you will gain weight UNLESS you have a fast metabolism. I would say I have a normal metabolism because I can eat junk and gain weight unless I exercise. Hence, I exercise and try to limit my junk food intake.

[DisastrousQu33n]

I agree too, and I hate this thing about people calling fat rolls curves and calling skinny girls "skinny bitches" when if I called somebody a fat bitch they'd get on my case.

[SantiagoRomero]

if you're fat it's because you don't want to stop being fat: It is false so the correct answer is noyone likes to be fat so what is the problem?-is lack of self volunteer and that is difficult to accept a lot less if you are young and you are suffering from depression and bulling in the school.

I tell this because i am in that possition.

[Anonymous]

You must remember though earlier I saw a post from a lady whom was skinny and was self conscience and lacking confidence because people commented on her size. Yes they may be fat but my motto is worry about yourself get your own health in order and maybe then you'll inspire them to live healthier, because when you start putting people down on their fatness it might just drop their confidence more.

[Dandeus]

"I never understood how much somebody else weighs has anything to do with me. "

That's because it doesn't have anything to do with you.

As such, your unsolicited "advice" (judgment) is unwelcome and counterproductive. If a person wants your help with their health, they'll ask you for it. Until that time, think about minding your own business.

[Scrambledagain]

I don't like calling someone fat. It's like me being called a nice guy. Yes I've made my mistakes and am paying the price for it everyday, I don't need somebody to come along and highlight something I already know. Just because I am what I am doesn't mean I deserve to be pointed out like some monstrosity.

[KidanisCortes]

Yeah I agree fat is fat but if you blatantly tell a person he or she is fat, guess what? they already know. I'm all about being fit and hot (wish I was damn it -.-) but if a person chooses to be fat and put all sorts of excuses not to lose the weight, it's their business not mine

[Kris85]

These MyTakes are becoming more and more ridiculous. Who cares? Their weight is none of your business. Focus on yourself. People like you are just sad.

[ichot]

The picture is misleading. One can lose weight eating only the mcdonalds menu.

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[Anonymous]

You do realize some bigger people are healthier than skinny people.

[WaltLewis]

You really have no right to say that. Tbh it's America's fault. I mean a fatty double cheeseburger they charge like a dollar or two but a measly salad bowl cost up to 9. It's like the health economy knows insecure people will pay through the nose to look good and be healthy so they'll charge a lot and make money. Knowing some people can't afford it they way they budget is they'll settle for the food that makes them fat because it cost less.

[LlamaQueen]

Well technically everyone HAS fat, does that mean we ARE fat? no we aren't fat but we do have it. Just some have more than others. Just because we have hair means that people who have more hair ARE hair? nope.

[Red_Arrow]

Like most words, fat has more than one meaning. To say we all have fat is to use the noun version of "fat", which refers to tissue containing fat compounds (glycerol, fatty acids, etc.) Another meaning is as an adjective, meaning having too much fat (the noun kind).

[CincinnatiRedsfan]

Usually when someone trolls with a MyTake, it's a good effort. But the title itself gave it away. Very weak troll attempt.

I'll say 1/10.