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Looks don't matter that much. I've dated mostly very attractive men, sure, but the guy i've fallen the most in love with in the end and been the most attracted to on a level where i'm attracted to him in a way that can't be put into words... Well he's average at best. He's certainly not someone i'd care about if I saw him outside and didn't know him, but we have a connection and there's something about his voice and smell and the way he carries himself aside from the gentlemanly and kind personality that makes me very attracted to him. But if you only go by looks, yes, looks matter plenty. But then you'll most likely only have very shallow relationships too often because they're not based on much.
Of course looks matter that's what we are drawn to first. Guys are more upfront about it but its usually girls who pretend looks don't matter. No other mammals go for "personality" first. Its not like pretending looks don't matter make a difference anyway, we are naturally drawn to somebody attractive, and usually match up with someone attractiveness close to ours.
Online dating should've put an end to this myth by now.
For men, they can overcome being ugly by earning a lot of money, having fame or having a high status.
Haha, a little bit of a curse depending on how you look at it.
@UncleJessieRabbit Very true.
lol ofc you agree with that. Come back to me when you're thirty.
"We'd have to agree that personality tends to come a long way--someone who is less than average with a confident personality and takes care of themselves is more likely to have a bigger game than the person who had a greater potential in the first place but never utilized it."
Nah.
I think it definitely applies, obviously, to an extent. Someone who is extremely ugly may not have much of a chance of being more attractive... But if you consider a person who is a 4/10 and has high maintenance, good posture and confidence, and a good personality compared to a person who is a 7/10 but does not have any of those things, the 4/10 would definitely outshine the 7/10.
*I'm* the person who's a 4/10 in looks (2 and a half, technically), short (181 cm), has a small penis, and in has literally no physical positives or good traits, whatsoever. I dress okayish, have good posture (I'm always aware of my posture, given the height thing), and *I* think I have an endearing personality, even if I know some people won't like my sarcasm, sense of humor, or sass. With women, the 6'3", eight or nine out of ten in looks, bland lock of wood with ego guy will win over the guy who's a 4 or 5 in all physical categories (me), 99.9% of the time, with a.1% margin of error.
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Women (and likely men too, but especially women) are not as special and kind as you make them out to be. As the unattractive short man, this is my opinion.
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"When an unattractive man was paired was paired with the most desirable personality traits, neither daughters or mothers rated him favorably as a potential partner."
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THAT'S ME!
Let's say looks come first, but preety girl doesn't satisfy the man, so the man hangs out with another girl during a party, things got steamy and this girl was heavenly while having sex, they both do it so many times that this guy got hook. What will be the possible outcome?
That means that the man is just using the girls for sex, completely ignoring all personality factors, and is completely not worth to have a relationship in the first place. It depends on the interests of the person, I guess.
cute... admitting 3% of the truth in an attempt to seem honest.
The truth is that, if the guy is attractive, women don't care about any negative traits and if the guy is unattractive, then positives traits rarely matter.
But let a male reject a 250-pound unhygienic woman and women will scream about how shallow men are... while rejecting 90% of average men who approach them citing not having to "settle"
Why did you post this on anonymous?
@ThisIsMyOpinion Hate anonymity eh? What's your Name and address then?
Just wondering what are you embarrassed or afraid of.
There is a line from a play, M Butterfly:
"The sad truth is that all men want a beautiful woman, and the uglier the man, the greater the want."
I believe that to be true for the most part. People want what they lack as it compensates for what they're missing.
bullshit im fine af and i want beautiful women a lot lol
Personally for me its 50/50 when it comes to physical attractiveness and personality. You could be the most attractive person I've ever seen but if your a total jerk I'm not going to have any interest in you.
Lol nonsense. Looks dont fuckking matter to women. I refuse to believe it. I believe women would fuck any guy wanna know why?
We have ugly guys who just get money or clout and are banging girls that Normal men dream to fuck.
There are women who are fucking old dudes for money.
there's girls who fuck ugly guys for personality.
No no looks dont matter to u if ur doing stuff like this.
If they did that means u wouldn't consider fucking a guy if he gave u money or clout.
Plenty of girls call trump ugly but he married 3 times and is married to a model. It really shows wonders when women say "looks matter"
Its a lot of bullshit when they go around saying that.
Women dont care about looks period.
there's hot girls who are gonna bang the guy on the left if he had money or clout. Ill link a video of a deformed dude having a 3 some. Then we can keep talking about "women caring about looks"
Excatly them girls who went out with Trumph were doing it because they knew what a wonderful guy her were , and he have a great personality, but unfortunatly few think like them great women who been with that fantastic guy, your great President Trump , I wish I had been them, what a wonderfull guy
Got downvoted 2 times already. But its the truth. If a ugly guy is getting girls with money or clout so easily, then that said girl did not care about looks at the time.
Looks definitely matter to at least some girls. They matter to me. You won't find me banging no ugly dude for money.
Looks might matter, but it's never stopped me from getting the girls I really want. When I do strike out with a woman, its pretty much always been because of one of two reasons - either we got to know each other but didn't click, or I didn't get to really interact with her in the first place. But I've never been in a situation where I actually got turned down by a girl because she didn't think I was attractive enough, and usually these girls will go out with me even though they can get guys far more attractive.
This is all still so confusing. I’ve had girls pass me up when I was younger for shorter and unathletic guys because their game was tighter than mine. I got my fair share but still I was good at keeping a poker face if the girl wasn’t very attractive.
Oddly now I’m seeing more and more women act openly shallow.
That study is absolutely useless. You cannot use it gauge the significance of personalities role in attraction, because personality can't be reduced to three traits. Also, personality cannot be assessed by reading a brief about it on a piece of paper or technology. I agree with the overall sentiment of the post though.
What utter rubbish we live in a shallow materialist world where money and looks matter more than anything else. When was the last time you saw an ugly person get a big acting role unless they are the evil they are always good looking men and women that get the roles.
I think that it all just depends on the circumstances, but looks definitely bring more advantage than not being attractive. I did not intend to diminish other truths in my article. I definitely agree with you, though. My point is, though, that someone who is attractive with money would be even more prosperous than one who is not attractive. Get what I mean? :)
I don't know why i responded w my previous reply
seems like i barely even read ur response properly lmfoa
For me, her looks only need to pass a relatively minimal threshold and she can't cannot be obese. She does need to have a nice personality and be at least somewhat intelligent. That is non-negotiable.
That's literally what the majority of guys want. Male gaze is BS. Female gaze is real.
@errorgoodnameunfound: I agree. Eom2en actually place more emphasis on a guys looks than the other way around.
If looks truly matter to women then why do many of them date below average looking guys? Why do more men watch porn than women? Why is it well known that women are less visual than men are when it comes to attraction? Why do women rarely flirt first?
I’m sorry but I don’t buy into this notion that women care about looks just as much as men do.
I never really compared men and women, but I showed that for a first impression, looks can matter. I understand your position and completely agree with you, but I didn't agree with that or disagree with that in my writing.
because they have money you schmuck
You are a very bright girl. I liked your take. A tv show on Netflix actually confirmed your mytake
Wait, what?
Looks are incredibly important for the dating world, and it's one big thing incels/blackpill types are right about. My face is good-looking, but my one weakness was my height; that's why I took the initiative and solved the issue through surgery, growing six inches. And NO, I won't be telling women that I did it.
Don't have time to read all of this now, but my opinion is : Looks matter, but not that much. Everyone is attractive (most of people who take care of their weight and looks). Thing that matter is personality. If someone has great personality then it's most likely that i will start liking that person even more and catch feelings. If girl is hot but has trash personality it's most likely that i will fuck her then dump her.
honestly, looks get the attention. but in the long-run, it's the personality that matters.
Most definitely.
Looks 100% matter, I just think it's toxic when they're all that matters.