First I wanna say, "beauty is in the eyes of the beholder". I' m sure you’ve heard that quote before. Everybody defines beauty differently, but what one person finds attractive might be completely different than what another person does.
Has your friend ever liked someone and you're like: ‘What?!....But why?’ Though there are certain features or certain characteristics that many draw to you, there's not one exculsive model that defines beauty. That is what I honestly genuinely believe, that everyone is beautiful.
Do looks matter? To many? Ya they do. But sold with so many other factors, what's their personality like, what are their morals? Do they make you laugh? Do they have a talent? Can they sing? What is their intelligence level? How do they treat their family? How do they express themselves?
So many different elements play into what someone finds attractive. Are physical looks the only thing that matter? No, definitely not; unless that’s all the individual is after, and in that case I don’t believe theyre attracted so much to the person but more towards their body. Looks can't stand on their own. If you have someone who is very good-looking, but with a terrible personality, I don’t think anyone's gonna pursue them past looking at them. I don’t think it's someone's physical looks or physical features that make them attractive. It's all the treasures of the individual; what they stand for, their humor, how they react to live situations, their flaws, their gifts and everything that they carry as an individual.
You can't rely on the feedback of others to determine your beauty. One person's opinion of you makes no difference to the other person's opinion. Someone might find you unbelievably attractive, and someone else? Maybe not so much. You need to know your value and beauty for yourself, not based on what anyone else thinks or what anyone else says. You are beautiful not only for your physical looks, not only for your personality, but everything you carry as an individual.There is so much value in that. You are beautiful for being you.
Don't let anyone elses opinions determine if you're beautiful or not. What others think does not change the value of you. You can have a priceless diamond and someone might walk by and say, you know, I don’t like that diamond, that just wouldn’t suit me. But that doesn’t change the value of that diamond, irrelevant of what that one person thinks. It's the same way you can't base your confidence or security on other peoples opinions of you, cause then you'll feel like your worthless one day, great the next day.
You need to know for yourself the value of who you are and the beauty you contain and the person who sees that value in you; that’s the person whose opinion really matters.
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They do matter to everyone BUT what makes a difference is what they find attractive. If someone is picky when it comes to looks, that means he/she is shallow. I personally find all races equally attractive. I like guys with small and big noses, long and short hair, skinny chubby or fit, and with any eye color.
If someone is only willing to date skinny white girls with blue eyes and nice butt, that is shallow.
And yes you could argue it comes down to personal taste what everyone finds attractive.. yeah, but the person is still picky.
but you like what you like
yeah, but certain people are just picky. And usually reasons behind their pickyness are quite shallow.
Although at the same time it's not shallow when you want someone with a certain look. I mean if you don't like something about yourself you change it don't you because you want to look a certain way because that is what's going to make you happy. The same could be said for a potential mate you want a certain look because that makes you happy. I feel like if you aren't at least somewhat satisfied with the person you're in a relationship with looks then the relationship is going to go downhill. Sad but true it's just natural!
@asiag299. Well obviously it's stupid to be in a relationship with someone you don't find attractive. I never said anyone should do that. It's disrespectful and stupid. But I don't quite get what you mean with that other part? It isn't shallow to only want to date people who look very specific? How can someone else's look make you happy? It might turn you on, it might "satisfy" you. But that alone can't make you happy. Changing yourself is a completely different story. And yes it is natural to want to date people you find attractive, but if you are picky and shallow, then you'll just have to wait longer to find soneone like that who is willing to date you. And most people will think you are a prick. Sad but people have the right to think that.
I don't think I stated it correctly lol but I'll just say that I agree with your thinking You responses pretty much match my thinking so yeah I think we're on the same page :)