Why Looks Shouldn't Concern You

[Whaler]

So lets be honest, we all stress ourselves an awful lot with how we look. Here's why i think we should stop that.

See, when looks are something you stress about, you allow yourself to be controlled by the opinions of others. You don't allow yourself the freedom of being yourself. Sure, if you enjoy to make yourself look nice, whether that come from pride or a boost in your self-esteem, then continue, do what you enjoy,. But the minute it become unhealthy then its most likely better to stop.

This is more so a personal opinion, and i don't want to tell others to do it, more so my reasoning behind it.

So, i purposely make myself look unattractive, in public at least. I personally believe that by portraying yourself as uglier you open yourself up to less relationships that are purely focused on looks over personality. Rather, people are attracted to your looks less and your personality. granted that can cause issues but i prefer it.

[Nivinxus]

I disagree with you heavily. Looks, believe it or not, is like a preface to what a person is, even if it is a facade. There is usually something on their person that they won't often disconnect from and reading that can give you a glimpse of who they are.

Sure it is shallow, but it's enough to give a preliminary judgment on the person.

[Whaler]

No, i can definently understand where you're coming from there. this is really just personal opinion and everyone is entitled to their own. However i can definently agree with your statement.

[Salmon4056]

Interesting take. Though I personally disagree on the idea making oneself look ugly or less attractive in order to get in the right relationship.
I believe It's best to be yourself and look yourself

[Whaler]

No, i can most certainly agree with that aswell.

[Sweetascandy1990]

Personality matters the most, but I feel more confident when I dress up. I feel more feminine and confident. I was depressed before and I dressed how I felt. Sadly, people treat you how you see yourself. I love fashion and God made me, so I want to love myself and look the best that I can. I'm learning to care less what people think... it's hard tho. But overall you are right, society should care less about looks and focus on people's character qualities :-)

[Inneedofusername]

Why looks matter: because we all want to have sex with attractive people and if you're unattractive your chances are oscillating near 0.

Here. That's the whole answer to why looks matter and why we should be concerned about them as long as we're not asexuals.

[Chthou95]

So would you say love is based around looks and sex then?

[Inneedofusername]

@Chthou95
Base is a good word. First always are looks. And then, if they fit one's standards/preferences, then love or sex might occur

[curiousnorway]

According to Darwin's evolutionary theory it's because of good looks symbolize good health, genes and offspring when procreating we cares about looks. Not because we wants to bully and be shallow assholes. I should definitively care less about looks, but I can't control it. It's not like I hate ugly people. I just don't want to have sex with them.

[Chthou95]

@curiousnorway Crazy how our brains work man

[Pulimuli]

@Chthou95 not only looks and sex if we are talking about love. But when we are talking about attraction and sex, looks>everything else

[ChocolatePink]

This is the 5ft post today I've seen about discrediting external looks MADE BY A GUY. I haven't seen any post like this made by a girl. I don't think they support your idea of caring of what's inside and ignoring the outside.
in my opinion both aspects are important.

[J2ohhhhh]

I would have a casual relationship with a less attractive person. I can enjoy myself in the company of less attractive people, but I'd know it is just for the moment. If things'd get super serious, family kids etc. I wouldn't pick the most attractive partner. I wouldn't like my kids facing bullying and shit because I picked someone with unattractive DNA.

[Whaler]

So love to you will only bring you to go so far with someone? and then looks take is place?

[J2ohhhhh]

Love is a massive dopamine hit when you find someone who you want and she wants you too. Look isn't about look. Studies show that attractive features are signs of higher intelligence. Have a look on Tesla or young Einstein.

Just because someone is nice outside doesn't mean they aren't nice inside. It is just overwhelming to co-op with the amount of attention, but everyone has a nice side in a quiet moment.

[Whaler]

Could you possibly link those studies? because I more than disagree considering most of today's celebrities and what others would deem appealing.

[J2ohhhhh]

Those celebrities are smart af. They see what pop culture wants and they give it to them making millions. We don't see who they are it's just a character they play.

[stormbreaker06]

since you purposely make yourself look ugly on purpose, if i saw you i'd judge you and assume your a crazy person and i'd stay far away from you.

You only got at least 10 seconds to make a good impression. Coming in and looking like shit I'd judge you and say you are shit.

[Whaler]

Good to know, people such are yourself are ones i tend to stay away from with friendships.

[Lance1965]

Personality can be the real deal-breaker for me. I can overlook average looks for a great personality but a bad personality is a instant killer.

[Piteka5]

It's totally true, tell me of one lasting relationship that went well because they looked good? It's all in the commitment

[smg99]

Maybe but I love power

[bhavy24]

Looks shouldn't concerned much

[Secretgardenblood]

Good take

[stormbreaker06]

bad answer

[Whaler]

@stormbreaker06 There was no question to be answered.

[ChocolatePink]

In discussions you are supposed to give your opinion.