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Why I Hate Bridal Showers

Why I Hate Bridal Showers

Okay, so a little disclaimer before we begin, I'm not trying to shame women who love Bridal showers or all that kind of stuff, nor am I trying to shame marriage in general and I think it's a wonderful thing that I'd like to experience when I feel I'm old enough (I'm only 21). However, I really hate going to Bridal showers because there is a huge annoyance with them, and here they are:

1. It's Girls Only

Why I Hate Bridal Showers

I'm not one to go to places just meet guys, but I don't like places that are seen as "girls only" or "guys only" (with the exception of places like bathrooms and changing rooms for obvious reasons) because I feel that it's just kind of sexist and because I actually get along better with guys than with girls (I can't explain why, that's just always how I've been). And when you're in that environment, it's like you're talking about "girly" (for lack of a better word) things that you couldn't care less about and you just want to go back to guy friends to talk about more gender-neutral stuff (i.e. books and current events). It's also a bit annoying how there's no male equivalent of a bridal shower that the guys all have to suffer through and it's like I'm being punished for being a girl by being forced to go to one more party more than guys and to spend it with girls who talk about how they can't wait to get married and women who tell me that I'm going to be up there someday, which bring me to my next two points...

2. So Much Wedding Talk

Why I Hate Bridal Showers

Don't get me wrong, I'm very happy for the bride to be and I'm excited for the wedding. There is a line, however, between being excited about something and being the only thing that everyone around you talks about to the point where it gets so annoying, that you want to smash your head as hard as you can into a wall. When you go to the bridal shower, it's like your in a jail cell of wedding talk.

3. "You're Next!"

Why I Hate Bridal Showers

(I don't actually do this to old people at funerals, this is just the best picture I can find to give you an idea of what it feels like)

I come from a Christian family who act like it's the 1950s and the only purpose of being a girl is get married and have kids. At my oldest sister's bridal shower, my older sister (the middle sister of the three of us), is the second to last one (in front of me) to be single among our grandma's five granddaughters and our grandma is pretty much planning her wedding already. And I know that at my sister's bridal shower (should she get engaged) I'll be known as "the last one" and all of the old ladies will be like "You're next!", which I find a dreadful thought.

4. The Diet Everything

Why I Hate Bridal Showers

Okay, obviously this one doesn't apply to all showers (I guess the others don't really either, but this one especially), but it's the fact that when you go to a bridal shower, you expect to be there for awhile and that there would be a decent amount of food to eat so that you won't starve. Well, since there's an unwritten rule that states that the bride has to be as skinny as possible for the wedding, pretty much all good food (i.e. Pizza, chicken, potatoes, burgers etc.) are banned from the shower so that the bride won't be tempted to cheat on her diet and the guests at the shower have to suffer along with her even though we're not the ones getting married so you have to drive through Burger King to get some chicken nuggets, fries, and a soda and excuse yourself and sneak back out to your car to inhale that stuff and then get back to the party (true story). The only food that you can eat is the "best wishes" cake, which you feel guilty about enjoying right in front of the guest of honor because she isn't allowed to have anything that would lead her to gaining an ounce. While we're on the subject of "best wishes"...

5. "Best wishes" vs "Good luck"

Why I Hate Bridal Showers

I don't know if this common knowledge or not (in fact, I didn't find out about it until fairly recently), but you tell only the groom "congratulations" or "good luck" and you tell only the bride "best wishes". The reason for this is because the groom is considered the lucky one for getting the bride to agree to marry him. That kind of seems a bit rude to me, as if you're telling the groom "I can't believe you got this woman is clearly way out of you league to want to marry you, but you did it! Good job, bro!" And then you see the groom and the bride together and see that, and you tell the bride "best wishes, dear" as if you're telling her "he is cringeworthy and you made a crappy choice, but I hope you prove me wrong". Okay so this is less of a problem with bridal showers, but weddings in general.

Well that was my rant, and I do plan to have a bridal shower, should I get married, but I'm going to do it my way. With that said, thank you all for reading and have a wonderful day! And for all you brides and grooms out there, congratulations! To both of you! 😃❤️🍾🎂

Why I Hate Bridal Showers
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