Top 10 Rules to Finding Your Husband (Page 5)

[sixstring]

A good article, I have some comments though.

I can see your logic of the sandwich analogy, but you mistake not waiting until marriage with sleeping around.

If you have met the one, you two are in love, been together for a while, there really is no harm in having safe sex.

As for the marriage is just an institution and driver's license, your logic is a bit crooked. Nowadays men have a reason to be skeptical of marriage. That doesn't mean they won't get married when they meet the one.

[anon1111]

If women followed your rule (don't sleep with a man before marrying him) then they would consequently be virgins until marriage. Therefore they would have no basis to talk about what they like sexually because they would never have had sex in the first place and would thus not even know what they liked or didn't like. Two virgins talking about what they like in bed is like two blind people talking about what their favorite paintings are.

[TheChristian]

I'm not saying its easy but there are other ways to know if you are sexually compatible without having sex like...talking about sex...what a concept lol.Talk about what you like and don't like (and get specific about it lol). I didn't have sex with my husband until marriage and I knew from our first convo about sex that he was completely aligned with me lol. If you you're talking and she doesn't feel comfortable saying certain words that you are OK with then you know. On the contrary, if in one

[TheChristian]

but then they wonder why when they get married they are in debt because she is a shopaholic lol, you saw it before you married her but you were looking at the wrong thing. So as I said putting religion aside my feelings are the same. For women it is different sex is very personal so when we have sex we turn a blind eye to things that we normally wouldn't except then 2yrs into your marriage you wife leaves you because she realizes now that the honeymoon is over that you completely annoy her lol

[TheChristian]

serious relationship and longlasting marriage you need someone that wants to be with you regardless of how the sex is. You get older, things change, accidents in life happen, so what if you "test drive" and she is great but then you get married and something happens where she can no longer perform what did your test driving accomplish? The reason the divorce rate has gone up is because people are looking at the wrong things in people. Like men who look for women that are into the latest fashion

[TheChristian]

@anon1111...I knew that there would be one of you to say that lol. I am a Christian now but I was not always. I actually abstained from sex well into my 20s for nonreligious reasons and this is how I was blessed enough to see how men treated me differently. If you put religion aside I still felt the same way. What are you test driving? So if you relly like her and she is horrible in bed you would leave? If so then that is the reason I tell women not to have sex because if you are looking for a

[TheChristian]

@62893...thanks. My next article will be the tips for men. I encourage women to read it also. I find that men read a lot of articles about women but women don't really read a lot of articles that are written to men (notice I didn't say about men cause we read a ton of those but we don't actually read what men are reading for themselves to coexist with us lol). thanks again

[anon1111]

I stopped reading and started laughing at rule #3. I know you're a Christian, but get real: sleeping with someone before marriage isn't a sin - it's a necessity. You need to make sure that the two of you are compatible before you decide to spend the rest of your lives together, and part of that means being compatible sexually.

Do you buy clothes without trying them on? Do you buy a car without test driving it?

[relationshipDNA]

So women don't believe or understand rule #4. They truly do believe if the relationship isn't wrought with drama and stress that its either boring or not right. I have an easy marriage, fun and chill, and I feel if more people (guys especially) knew they could have easy, good marriage, they'd be more inclined to doing it.

[TheChristian]

@jay-man...sounds like you took my comment personally and the wrong way lol. First I was not saying anything was wrong with the internet lol I am aware I am on it.I was making the comparison to show how the internet is a newer phenomenon that has not been quite addressed in past law similiar to your example about why live-ins are being added to laws.like the internet its because people are doing it so now it has to be addressed.regarding the selfless comment I'm not certain how you took that

[TheChristian]

@jay-man...live-ins are like the internet. The law was not created to support it but because people are doing it laws have to be created to support it. Like I said, it all depends on what is important to you. Wills can be contested and in the situation I described to you that was also the case. Do you think that if you're not married and your will says to give everything to your girlfriend but your mom or sister don't like her and contest it that your girlfriend will get anything. Anywho as I

[TheChristian]

That stayed with her boyfriend, not married, the had a home, cars, bills etc. He passed away and she was left with things she couldn't afford. All of his money was awarded to the state and she received nothing and still had to pay for his funeral out of her pocket. She was able to contest it because they had a child but all the money was put in a fund until the child turned 18 how are her+her child supposed to live.I don't think that's how you show love.marriage is also an estate planning tool

[TheChristian]

@jayman...you see it that way because you don't want to get married lol. If you and your girlfriend don't have children after you are long gone it will be as if your relationship never existed. No one in the future for any historical research or data will say oh yeah jaymans girlfriend was xyz. Its record keeping just like a birth certificate. You may not find it important but your family tree stops at your branch.in addition not certain if it was you I was talking to but do know of a female

[TheChristian]

Itself is not the issue, its just a record just like a birth certificate. I personally would find it insulting if a man I loved said "guess what I love you so much and I'd do anything for you oh wait but marry I don't really want a record that we were together" lol. Its like being with someone exclusively for years but you not wanting to call her your girlfriend in public lol

[TheChristian]

Piece of paper for a birth certificate is exactly the same. Are you saying that women can't give birth without THAT piece of paper? The act of birth has nothing to do with the record of it. Just like marriage, that's exactly what that piece of paper represents...a record, hence why I don't see why people would have an issue with it and also why I say that the issue is not with marriage itself.the real issues for some people are monogamy, fear of divorce, fear of merging finances etc but marriage

[TheChristian]

@jayman...you are funny. I meant you can't blame it on religion with me.I dated and advised on dating this way before I was a Christian so these rules above had nothing to do with religion for me. These were decisions I made to make better decisions on the guys that should be taken seriously. Yes I do think cavemen and women got married.did they record it at a courthouse probably not but I'm pretty sure they may have had ceremonies and were monogamous and everyone knew who the couples were.the

[TheChristian]

@jay-man...nice try but unfortunately you can't blame religion for this though I know you'd love to. I felt the same way before religion so no need to break out the Bible verses lol but I'm glad you read it lol. Again everything you mention about arranged marriages etc are all things that "people" have done surrounding marriage that you may disagree with but how do blame marriage itself. You misunderstand what that piece of paper represents. Let's do away with birth certificates,just paper right

[TheChristian]

Argument only for marriage and monogamy but not for other things that are not natural? Why not go to work naked lol? Why drive a car when walking has been the natural means of transportation. My point is that most people use excuses when they're fearful of something. I don't look at the excuses I look at what they are using excuses against because its usually what they fear the most. Just my perspective.

[TheChristian]

Nature comment.my contention is never really about someone's arguments, I usually look at what they choose to use the argument against. Not to be gross but jus to prove my point, monkeys also throw fecies at each other so should we do that cause its natural lol? We both know that they're tons of things we could do that wouldd allows us to not have to think or be restricted or have to adhere to a rule or follow a law but you and I both know its not always what's best. So why use the nature

[TheChristian]

That have been created surrounding marriage on marriage itself. If getting married was free then what would the argument, if no one could get divorced and possibly get hurt then what would be the argument against marriage. Its people who take the negative possibilities from marriage and making it sound like marriage itself is the issue. There are no guarantees in life, zero.should everyone stop going to college because of the possility that they might graduate and not find a job? On the nature