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Understanding Your Spouse: Tips and Advice



Understanding your Spouse

It is very true people are different and as such they have different qualities and attitudes. Problem arises when couples do not understand each other. This lack of understanding always result in partners acting in opposite directions, and trying to read the other person's mind. Statement like "I do not understand him/her" or "He/she acting so strange" and so on are often said in this situation.


In order to master anything one must learn to understand it. In a natural sense, in order to effectively use an appliance, for example a new electronic like a television, one must study and understand the functions.



Understanding is very key in any relationships, and it takes eternity to know everything about your spouse. One should not be satisfied with the first date or introduction, getting to know his job, family, friends. What makes an individual are they habits he/she displays daily. Lifelong learning about your spouse requires time, communication, persistence, imagination, and patience. Unless you create some space in your schedules to have these conversations, they won't happen.



Ways of understanding your partner



Ask questions: when you ask question, you are simply seeking to know. Asking is like knocking on a door, and waiting for the person inside to open and let you in. When you are in, you can explore how well built or damaged the person's heart is. If you can't heal, please let go. Do not add more damage to already existing one. A lot of us have gone through both emotional and physical damage in our relationship journey, so we need some form of healing. So take time and access the damage, also check ways you can heal. Stealing someone's information or past life and making mockery could also be damaging, so be confidential in whatever you notice in the life of people.


Understanding Your Spouse: Tips and Advice

It will also be balanced if someone opens his/her door for you, that you return same and open your door to them. Each week, set aside an hour or so to "check in" with your spouse, not for the business of running your home, or announcing your problems but to find out what the other person is thinking and feeling. For these conversations to be productive, keep the following in mind: Timing is important. You can't share your heart with each other when you're rushed or exhausted.



Distractions should be minimized. The TV should be off, phones out of reach, computers on sleep mode and kids engaged elsewhere or put to bed. Listening to the other person is very critical.


Open-ended questions keep the communication flowing smoothly. Do not be quick to judge, but examine every statement critically. Don't be discouraged by interruptions. Nothing works perfectly every time, so regroup and try again later.



Study



Study here means allowing your partner to act things out by himself/herself. The quality of a man is known when he does things by his own volition. People will act or do things that they believe in. A person who believes in you, will stop by to check on you or call you. Doubts arises in relationships when people do the opposite of their words. But if your partners acts opposite of what they say, do not yell at him/her take time to correct him/her. Make use of the right words. Correct without hate or ulterior motives. Be the example for others to follow.

Understanding Your Spouse: Tips and Advice
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