Top 10 Rules to Finding Your Husband (Page 6)

[TheChristian]

@jay-man...I enjoy it also. I like people who can discuss articulately without insults and name calling lol. Anywho regarding your points. The assumption is control. Yes there are plenty od plans devised to make people part with money but no one is making anyone do it. No one physically takes money out of your account without you authorizing it. I got married for less than $500. We had money but we bought a house instead and had our wedding in it. My point is that I feel people put issues

[TheChristian]

@transgressionista...thanks for your comment.I am sure you are taking the approach your are because of my login name but these are lessons derived before I became a practicing christian. .regarding stats,this is not that kind of article.this article is based on experience and conversations I've had with males+females in my personal and professional career that I have just chosen to share. If it helps you great if it doesn't and your way is working for then that's great and I wish you the best.

[Transgressionista]

"what is currently happening as of 2012 is not working for most females" so you know most females? also how do you know this? are most females not in fulfilling relationships? were there polls taken and studies done to show statistics of how women are struggling in their relationships? please site. These seem to be very church influenced, and they may work in small church communities, and it might be good advice for teenagers, but once you hit the grown-up world of dating, its very different.

[TheChristian]

@jay-man...lol again with your assumptions lol...if you knew where I was from you would find your own comment about Brits quite funny. Anywho, you win...you continue to come back with celebrity and TV references lol. I deal with everyday average people who don't have the benefit of the outcomes that celebrities get. I stand by my point that people do what they WANT to regardless of stats or odds against them. You have pretty much agreed so not sure what you are refutting me on. I respect people

[TheChristian]

@Transgressionista...thanks for reading. I truly appreciate it and I thank you for leaving a comment. I respect your opinion but I never came on this site to say my advice was the answer for every woman but what is currently happening as of 2012 is not working for most females so I provided advice on what worked for me and most the women I know who have come to me and followed my advice. If what you have going is working for you then go for it. Wish you the best and thanks again.

[Transgressionista]

Wow, these are absolutely horrible rules to follow! Sorry, but the advice you gave is really a road to disaster in the long run. There really is no one formula that works for everyone in finding a wife or a husband, no matter how much we would like to believe.

[TheChristian]

to do with any stats or celebrities or other reasons other than what you stated last which is you just don't want to because you want your freedom, which has been my point all along.Men will do something if they WANT to do it. So my advice to women is that if he is already telling you he doesn't want to and you want marriage then you shouldn't stick around and hope and even if you where him down lol he's already showing you where you fit on his importance scale which doesn't make a good husband.

[TheChristian]

both start out together with nothing and they build it together.Why should the male walk away with everything.Again I think maybe your judgements are being formed from TV and it helps that you don't want to get married anyway so you believe everything that you see. For example what happened with Tiger and Paul McCartney men that done make that much just see the number but don't realize that for those men its not even a third of their net worth nor does it compare to the money they will continue

[TheChristian]

in the same position, female executives regardless of what race (including caucasian) are considered as minorities in diversity charts. NO men complain and say well that's not fair to women so I am not going to work for this company lol. You only take a stand when it is something that is not in your best interest lol when the world is one sided for everyone depending on the situation. And I don't know wher you are getting the half the assests from that is for specific cases where the male and

[TheChristian]

that you just declared that your reasoning is selfish and that you love yourself more etc and you will still get a woman. Whereas if a woman wants to get married its really not up to her if the man does not want to. My opinion is that the world favors men and women for different things but most men only want to complain when its a situation they are not favored but you don't have anything to say about situations where women are not favored, companies still historically pay women less than men

[TheChristian]

affirm or disaffirm every case. If you watch any other judge show you see all the men that pay minimal child support if any at all so does that mean women should not have kids because of the possibility that could happen to them. There are also plenty of women who get told that though your man sat at home with no job and you paid for everything you chose to do it so tough luck, does that stop women from getting married or being in relationships.Please this is still a man's world, the same way

[TheChristian]

@jay-man...as I said before you seem to have a lot of assumptions and go based off of self serve. I am not a Yank either lol so I am not sure why you are talking to me as though I am lol. In addition you have proved my point. Regardless of what stats you have or what you see on TV its just not something that you want to do and my advice is for women who want to find a husband not someone like you so maybe that is where you are seeing a descrepancy in our thoughts. Again there are scenarios to

[TheChristian]

Afraid, both parties have risks, both parties have something to lose but because its important to you I care enough to make you happy and protect my family. So I know you're sold on your beliefs and I'm not trying to change your mind just trying to understand reasoning and to date no one (including you) has been able to give me a reason other than third party info, wanting to hold on to your money or past baggage/hurts. I really appreciate you discussing with me though its helpful for what I do

[TheChristian]

With you now but every time she's at work, or with her friends or family and she can't say husband instead of boyfriend its going to start to hurt. I had an uncle that had the same premise as you and his wife went along with it though she told me privately she's just waiting for him and it hurts her but she pushes it out of her mind they ended up getting married 30yrs later because he finally got it that regardless of how you feel about it marriage is a selfless proposition. Both parties are

[TheChristian]

That even gay people are fighting for because they understand the importance of the legal ramifications of having that protected right. Wills can't even protect as much as a legal marriage can. I haven't even gotten into the arena of caring about what's important to your girlfriend.most girls want to be married (wedding or not).the premise is that you're saying that you love me but guess what there are a few things you're bot important enough for me to do for you. Yeah you may think she agrees

[TheChristian]

Get your money but if you don't do it you are taking certain risks as it is a recognized protected right by law that you can drive if you have a valid license. Without it yes you don't have to spend your money, yes you don't have take your time in the dmv but if you get caught there are no legal means to protect you so its just something that people stay on the safe side and do. Legal marriage is more than spending money on a wedding. I got married in my home. Marriage is a legal protected right

[TheChristian]

Mortgage and lifestyle she couldn't afford and all of his money was originally awarded to the state. She had to contest it to get money for his daughter, she won but the money was put in a trust until the daughter turns 18, which was no good to her then. So to me that's not a way to show someone you love them.so ic an equally come up with scenarios where you theory doesn't work in your favor.hence my comparison to a drivers license.don't you think registration, licensing etc is just all a way to

[TheChristian]

Still have to represent yourself, which may be worse lmbo. Like is aid we can agree to disagree. I just think that most people (and no one has proved me wrong yet including you) has any reason other than stuff that happened to other people, taking a man's money or past baggage and I still say that when its something a man really wants he will do it. Estate planning is a factor, I also know of people who lived with someone unmarried and unexpectedly passed away and the girlfriend got stuck with a

[TheChristian]

Friends that spents much more for their weddings that have way less money than I do but that was their choice based on what's important them. I also hate to break it to you but maybe you should watch judge judy a little lol cause pre-nup, lawyer or not now because so many people are trying to circumvent marriage judges are now making relationship dissolution judgements for people who lived together for 7yrs in common law states and other states judges are winging it so no lawyers fees but you

[TheChristian]

@jay-man...good luck to you with that cause that's life lol. Hope that means you don't buy cars, go on vacations, buy video games or anything of the sort cause those are not necessities either and designed to make you continuously spend your money. Again, you have preconceived ideas from third parties. I got married for less than $500, one of my best friends got married for less than $1000. You've been sold the TV weddings that have nothing to do with you. Don't get me wrong I have