How do marriages work in different countries, who pays the bill? Bride and groom or their parents?

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In my country mostly parents pays the bill but i think it's bride and grooms thing so only they should pay. What do you think?

harryish · Accepted Answer

In India: There are two kinds of marriages.
1. Arranged Marriages: The parents choose a partner for their son/daughter with the help of good references from the families i. e. relatives, friends etc. It involves a meeting of parents of both the parties, before marriage and also a casual meeting of the boy and the girl. After everyone's consent, marriage dates are arranged according to Hindu Astrology. The whole expenditure of the marriage is the girl's side responsibility like booking a venue, food, snacks. The girl side acts as a host and boy's side acts as a guest. The boy, along with his friends and relatives, comes to the venue (on a horse or chariot) to take the girl with her to his house ( generally on a vehicle). The girl's parents give the boy or boy's parent some cash, jewelry, sometimes a car or any vehicle and many more useful household items as a gift for their daughter and son-in-law to spend rest of their lives comfortably. This gift is called as dowry. The girl's friends and relatives bid her a goodbye which gets emotional every time because a part of their family will not be with them anymore.
2. Love Marriage: All the things are same in these marriages except that the girl and the boy choose each other as their life partners not needing any permission of their parents. Most Indian parents don't like such marriages as it doesn't involve their consents. So, the boy and the girl do efforts to agree their parents to give permission for the marriage.
3. Miscellaneous: Sometimes the parent doesn't agree. So the boy and the girl left their houses and live with each other separately after getting married in temples.
In some marriages, both the boy family and the girl family take the responsibility of the whole expenditure of the marriage. and in some marriages, there is no dowry given to the girl by her family.

0112358 · Accepted Answer

It's changed and changing. (North American, British roots).

Traditionally, the groom paid for the wedding itself (i. e. the church, the minister/priest, any musicians, etc) and for his clothing.

The bride's parents paid for the reception (party afterwards) and her dress.

The reason for this is that traditionally, of course, women didn't really have a lot of money. The man was expected to have some in order to support a wife. So he paid for the actual wedding. Then the bride's family (who she was assumed close to, while the groom is more assumed to be independent and perhaps have moved off from them to make his fortune) would throw a party to celebrate, to which they'd invite their friends and family, and kindly include his family as well.

As couples have gotten married later, and women work more, more and more couples pay a larger proportion of their own wedding, while also dictating how they'd like things to be.

However, we still see a lot of immigrant communities that have massive weddings funded primarily by the bride's parents.

In regards to your comments, I actually... half like the old way (less the male/female split, but the married vs family split). The couple gets married. Their family throws a party in their honor. The party (reception) is NOT THE WEDDING.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Where I come from, Iran, the groom and his family pay for the entire wedding expenses and the bride's gown and her hair and make up.
The bride's family provides a complete dowery which included every item the a house needs sanse TV. So basically they are supposed to buy complete bedroom furniture, living and dining room Furniture which also includes bed sheets and curtains, every imaginable kitchen item from a complete porcelain service to different types of pans and cooking pots to vacume cleaner, iron and fridge and refrigerator and many more.

Rcjh1987 · Accepted Answer

I recently got married last month, We are American, Bride and groom , my dad and his wife, and his parents helped. The Atendeeds paid for their dresses/tuxes. My mom had the nerve to try to tell our photographer want kind of pictures to take (thankfully our photographer didn't do anything without asking me first as she said she was going to do) when she didn't contribute anything in the whole process from planning to any of It then expected to add cost 2 my bill for hair and makeup for my niece to get makeup ( I put an end to that )

Sara413 · Accepted Answer

Depends on the couple and their families. We will be paying for most of it ourselves with a small contribution from each set of parents. I think that's a pretty common way of doing it these days. I know several couples who paid for the whole thing themselves tho and other whose wedding was paid for fully by one or both sets of parents.

ladynight · Accepted Answer

In my country, India, too the parents pay the bill. The bride's parents pay for the wedding and the groom's parents pay for the rest of the ceremonies.

devi13 · Answer

in my country (indonesia) , the grooms should give a money when they want to do engaged, it's seems a grooms wanna buy a daughter of our parents. then for wedding usually the grooms pay the bills but sometime share the cost. then guests will bring money when they come

IndianGuy34 · Answer

In India, bride's parents pay the bills but I think this tradition should change!! Both Bride and Grooms should share it equally!!

Sha84 · Answer

Taiwan: The groom's family will pay for most of the wedding in Taiwan. Hong Kong: Traditionally, the groom pays for the wedding. The groom also gives money to the bride's family. Philippines: The groom's family pays for most of the wedding day expenses.

moni11811 · Answer

Lebanon here, uh i would say with full confidence the engagement is held by the brides parents which is a party in it itself and the groom pays everything from her dress to the very venue and hotel afterwards lets not mention the honeymoon 😂

Chanel1981 · Answer

In the USA it's customary for the bride's parents to pay for the wedding and the groom's parents to cover the rehearsal dinner but I think it also depends on the age of the bride and groom.

Gypsy_x · Answer

In Australia the couple will generally pay for the wedding, and wedding guests gift money to them. So it kinda works.

Anonymous · Answer

It's always the bride and groom that pays the bill where I live. The parents can just relax and rest assure. :)

Rjsurya846 · Answer

In our country both the families spend money because we think getting married to someone means bringing their whole family into our life.

Slam_10 · Answer

Well im my country its up go the male to pay the bills and provide fr the family. If a girl wants yo help sur gi ahead.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

I think the Bride's family pays here. Which means my family is screwed coz we are 3 straight girls.

DesiBeautyLover · Answer

I know in South Asian and Muslim countries, the groom's family usually gives something to the groom's families. But I don't know how it works elsewhere.

metalsucks2 · Answer

In my country the groom pays the brides father in the form of cows.

Markella95 · Answer

With Greek bride family the groom some pay for honeymoon.

lollipop431 · Answer

They split the bill, Slovenia

monaba · Answer

Spain: shared mostly

cupidkisses · Answer

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