Why Do Women Have Affairs With Married Men?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Simple answer that grossly offends most people, but is widely considered true by people who study psychology and sexuality?

Because women seek some form of validation, from other women, that the guy they are interested in is "worthy."
A married man must be worth it. After all, he is married. Some other woman thought he was so worth it that she married him. Why go after the single guy, who has not proven he is worth pursuing, when you have a married man!
It is a combination of an unconscious consensus between women, where they agree and what men do and do not have worth, and an unconscious battle for social dominance among women, where they do just about anything to take things from other women, in order to not only elevate themselves, but also put those other women lower than themselves.

This is also why women accept promiscuous men, and avoid virgin men, despite claiming they want to be treated well and complaining about the promiscuity double standard.
A promiscuous man has proven successful with women, which means he is likely successful in bed, and so many women pursue (or allow themselves to be pursued) by such men, because of a combination of the assumption he is sexually skilled, and the simple fact that so many other women said yes, they assume he has value.
A virgin, on the other hand, is not only to be sexually avoided on the assumption he will be bad in bed (which by the way is an indicator as to the inherent sexual selfishness of women), but, because no other woman has ever been with him, women who could potentially be with him see the fact that he has never been with a woman as proof that other women see him as having no value. And because women judge each other so constantly, and so harshly, they choose to not go for him, even if somewhat interested, because they are afraid of the social repercussion that comes from other women, who will judge her, for pursuing a man deemed unworthy.

10dsw · Accepted Answer

Because a lot of single men are no challenge. Most single men (unfortunately) have absolutely no standards whatsoever as to what kind of women they are willing to date which means that most women, regardless of how ugly, can have almost any man they want.

The married man is a challenge. He's sexy, usually post 30. He's been screened - i. e. a girl wanted to commit to him for life, and he's unavailable. Complete opposite of most single guys.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I knew a women who used to only pursue married men. When i asked her why , she said to prove a point "that ALL men will cheat on their wives"She said "if it's offered on a pate , they will all take it". She also said having sex with another womans husband made her feel good because she knew she'd had slept with her husband, but the wife had no idea about it. It was a secret between her and the womans husband. Knowing another womans husband wanted her fed her ego. She also said she didn't have sex with every married man she pursued. She would lead him on, and when he took the bait she would start ignoring him. That was enough to prove her point and makes her feel good

weareallmadhere30 · Accepted Answer

I don't understand why a man woulf have an affair on a woman he claimed to love at some point if the sex isn't great say something and maybe it will help. If there's something going on communicate. Marriage is a lot of trust forgiveness and communication. My husband is my best friend and I would want him to come and tell me hey I'm not pleased in bed over going out and cheating on me

Jmcmanning · Accepted Answer

Either they don't know they are married (I have come across men that said they were single to find out later they lied and were married) but thankful i don't just sleep with anyone - so I haven't done this
or she thinks she can steal him away from his wife to come to her

Rissyanne · Accepted Answer

The question is... why is these married men having affairs?

Emz94 · Answer

Here's a question. What if it was the other way around? Where the married man starts flirting with you and propositioning you for sex? If you said yes regardless it would still make you a home wrecker but he was the first to initiate and straight to the point say I would love to fuck you.

WalterRadio · Answer

I have known some women who ONLY date married men. They tend to be mid 20's to early 30's and do not want the complications of an exclusive, committed relationship.

One married woman I know told her husband to get a sugar baby so he wouldn't bug her for sex all the time. He is 50, the sugar baby is 20 and a college student, and they are all happy with the arrangement. If the couple didn't have kids, the girlfriend might have even moved in with them.

Browneye57 · Answer

For a LOT of reasons. Mostly it's called 'pre-selection', if he's good enough for her she thinks she would be better and will try to 'poach him'.

And married guys that lie tell the other woman how bad their marriage is and that they're leaving it, so the other woman goes along with it just hoping.

Funny, married guys get hit on all the time. Divorced or single and it's crickets. LOL

ravedave · Answer

Because they're garbage whores with no morals, and are honestly barely any better than the men who are cheating.

jakeforfun · Answer

It's easier for them (IF they don't want "attachment", and/or relationship) - the man is already attached, "trained", and shown he has what it takes to attract and possess a woman (his wife).

maiave · Answer

Because they don’t care. They’re selfish, and like the thrill of it

Chaoseverywhere · Answer

because >30 all the good ones are taken. The only ones left are dick pic senders

thenatiewitch · Answer

Why are those married men out there cheating on their wives? Better question

Flotri66 · Answer

I heard it's because the man can't get committed, in turn she has all the power to end things much easier.

Harsh_5299 · Answer

Because, some get turned on by the idea that they can be attractive enough to even seduce a committed/ married man

opurba · Answer

Be sure... otherwise one girl in life enough hell to handle for a sensible guy.

CptNormalguy · Answer

Same reason some guys like married women. You love knowing you can get something that's already claimed. It's like a power move.

Just_Me89 · Answer

Because they're selfish and only care about getting what they want and getting it right now.

SomeGuy965 · Answer

Because it's so much hotter! I'm fucking the shit out of this married chick! It's awesome.

doflamingo457 · Answer

smash and pass, using guys and makig excuses, they dont have self worth, a affair is not the answer nor a act it shouldn't be done ever

Anonymous · Answer

Why are we blaming the women instead of the men who are the ones who are 100% aware they are married and cheating?

sexcrazed123 · Answer

because they find them interesting, and wanting. and they can if they want

SunaNo · Answer

Becauae they are sluts

CrunchingSneaker · Answer

Cuz they're bitches that's why. Fuck em!

boggboss · Answer

Some don't mind being part of destroying a family

Anonymous · Answer

Because some of us like married.

Chaz269 · Answer

Because they're insecure pieces of shit.

LegateLanius · Answer

Because they are scum.

Anonymous · Answer

Why do men have affairs with married women?

eatadic · Answer

Because married men have qualities women desire.

BOUNTYGUY9 · Answer

bad girls do that sluty

HereIbe · Answer

Because they're stupid.

CT_CD · Answer

Women like men who are taken

AlexDelux · Answer

Because makes life more interesting

rogermclain · Answer

Because variety we all want it Right ladies

isweatergawd · Answer

Uhhh

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