Why do single women engage in affairs with married men?

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Amy10223 · Accepted Answer

They engage in affairs with married men for the same reasons that single men engage with women who are married. Some because either party may be unhappily married with no other options (partners don't want a divorce, or will make it hard for them to), or they are tempted, or they just fall out of love with their partner and are seeking love elsewhere. They can also be seeking an adventure because of the thrill of it. If I had had an affair, I would not bring it up, but I would try and end it as quickly as possible. I would not relieve my guilt by telling the person and then hurting them in the process.

Jazzy54 · Accepted Answer

Both parties are equally guilty. The married man isn’t the poor, innocent victim.

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

It feels safer to steal what another woman has proven of value rather than go looking to find and build something on their own.

In short, they lack morals, are needy for the essential fulfillment of life, and don't care about hurting others... selfish.

and it isn't just single women...

coachTanthony · Accepted Answer

They are bored at home with the same ol same ol.

AviatorTom · Answer

A few reasons... 1. Unhappy married men are easy to find 2. The woman knows there will be no commitment, so the affair is safe

sage2021 · Answer

Because she is a lowlife homewrecker! She needs to keep her hands off of him.

She is with married man because sometimes, they want a guy they can play with, but doesn't want to keep him.

She can't find a single guy.

She wants a sugar daddy if he's rich.

She is a narcissist and doesn't care if his wife finds out about their affair.

Who really knows?

milesy67 · Answer

They don't want the responsibility or commitment of a full-blown relationship, and married men usually give them that. Or they are insecure and don't feel they deserve someone to want only them. So they look to be somebody's side piece in addition to another woman, as that's what they think they are worth.

Or, they like/love the man and are selfish or naive enough to engage with someone who already has a partner. They hope and believe the man will leave his wife for them... that they are different somehow.

Or they like the power they feel when they take someone who is already in a serious commitment. They feel special and in competition with another woman. They like sneaking around behind another woman's back and it gives them a rush; this type is less common, but in this case they tend to be narcissistic or sociopathic to some degree.

Don't put all the blame on the affair partner, though. Most of the responsibility goes to the cheater in the marriage.

Quigly · Answer

Cause they are single, They didn't make anybody any promises. They aren't breaking your vows. In many cases, the single person isn't aware or is being told a lie by the married person. They will say things like the marriage is over and it's all mutual between both partners. When, in reality, the spouse doesn't know a thing. This is a problem for the single person too since they are making an investment as well. The real question is why do many married people not value their marriages. Why is marriage in decline overall. You can't really blame the single person for your married problems. The married person is the adulterer, not the single person. This is why religion doesn't consider the single person the sinner in such situations.

OracleCassandra · Answer

Honestly? Married men tend to be more mature, emotionally capable, and have already demonstrated that they are capable of keeping a woman satisfied in a long term relationship - not just sexually, but in virtually every respective way.

Essentially, the wife did the work for us in finding a suitable mate.

(Note: I am NOT a supporter of cheating, just stating the psychology).

msc545 · Answer

From the woman's point of view, she has a lot of control over his behavior based on the fact that she can ruin his life just by letting his wife know about the affair.

Some women need and want this amount of threat potential, and this is a good way to get that.

Spongebobssocks · Answer

Cheating is caused by narcissistic behaviour. People who lack empathy tend to do it. So no matter what their excuse is, that's what science tells us so far.

Anonymous · Answer

Because they want to be home wreckers. Those are the women who thrive on drama, who don’t take accountability, who will point fingers at others and not herself, who have daddy issues, who think this world owes something to her. She sees a happy couple, sometimes by seducing a guy or man who can’t hold his urges and cheats or the men who aren’t faithful in the first place and goes after women like that. Stay away from women like that.

Anonymous · Answer

Why do married men engage in affairs with single women? I would suggest that they are both guilty here. Your question is not only one sided it's mildly sexist.

jshm2 · Answer

Experience. But it can be naivety.  Stolen chocolate cake tastes better than bought chocolate cake, so to speak.

Nikki1989 · Answer

You know men lie, right? We don't always know they are married.

Miristheiss · Answer

They have no character and they are broken humans.

annabananna · Answer

Some want the life the other woman has and some fear commitment and know a married man is already committed so won’t want to commit to her.

Guccigabbana18 · Answer

Usually they’re just selfish. That’s the main reason

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

They know they can't get the man they like so they do it to make themselves feel sexy and worthy...

LiamJHayden · Answer

Those who do so might have different reasons. 1. No strings attached. 2. She doesn't know he's married. 3. She thinks he will leave his wife for her.

RingOfFire · Answer

I think it gives her a feeling of power because she both literally and figuratively has him by the balls.

Mallic00 · Answer

So from what i understand single women go after married men because since another woman has already claimed them they are considered "Worthy" enough to go after as they have already proven themselves to someone else.

Anonymous · Answer

sorry i am not judging anyone but this is morally not good. And every single girl is not like that.

aquamarine321 · Answer

Only a female can answer this question why they want married men

In_Trance · Answer

For the same reason single men engage in affairs with married women

BLP11520 · Answer

If I guy wants to cheat he will and younger women are attractive

whistlingwh0res · Answer

married men are attractive because they have Responsibility

robocop666 · Answer

ego boost. they do it to priests too for an ego boost.

Paige90 · Answer

One word... money

FreyaRed · Answer

Some women love dramas.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

They want to feel powerful.

Gabboorino · Answer

Because she's a filthy home wrecking whore.

SxcSierraa · Answer

Because it's a fantasy they want to play out

riverrat3 · Answer

To play with no responsibility or restrictions

Anonymous · Answer

They have been pre-vetted by another woman.

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