They engage in affairs with married men for the same reasons that single men engage with women who are married. Some because either party may be unhappily married with no other options (partners don't want a divorce, or will make it hard for them to), or they are tempted, or they just fall out of love with their partner and are seeking love elsewhere. They can also be seeking an adventure because of the thrill of it. If I had had an affair, I would not bring it up, but I would try and end it as quickly as possible. I would not relieve my guilt by telling the person and then hurting them in the process.
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Both parties are equally guilty. The married man isn’t the poor, innocent victim.
It feels safer to steal what another woman has proven of value rather than go looking to find and build something on their own.
In short, they lack morals, are needy for the essential fulfillment of life, and don't care about hurting others... selfish.
and it isn't just single women...
They are bored at home with the same ol same ol.
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A few reasons...
1. Unhappy married men are easy to find
2. The woman knows there will be no commitment, so the affair is safe
Because she is a lowlife homewrecker! She needs to keep her hands off of him.
She is with married man because sometimes, they want a guy they can play with, but doesn't want to keep him.
She can't find a single guy.
She wants a sugar daddy if he's rich.
She is a narcissist and doesn't care if his wife finds out about their affair.
Who really knows?They don't want the responsibility or commitment of a full-blown relationship, and married men usually give them that. Or they are insecure and don't feel they deserve someone to want only them. So they look to be somebody's side piece in addition to another woman, as that's what they think they are worth.
Or, they like/love the man and are selfish or naive enough to engage with someone who already has a partner. They hope and believe the man will leave his wife for them... that they are different somehow.
Or they like the power they feel when they take someone who is already in a serious commitment. They feel special and in competition with another woman. They like sneaking around behind another woman's back and it gives them a rush; this type is less common, but in this case they tend to be narcissistic or sociopathic to some degree.
Don't put all the blame on the affair partner, though. Most of the responsibility goes to the cheater in the marriage.
Cause they are single, They didn't make anybody any promises. They aren't breaking your vows. In many cases, the single person isn't aware or is being told a lie by the married person. They will say things like the marriage is over and it's all mutual between both partners. When, in reality, the spouse doesn't know a thing. This is a problem for the single person too since they are making an investment as well. The real question is why do many married people not value their marriages. Why is marriage in decline overall. You can't really blame the single person for your married problems. The married person is the adulterer, not the single person. This is why religion doesn't consider the single person the sinner in such situations.
Honestly? Married men tend to be more mature, emotionally capable, and have already demonstrated that they are capable of keeping a woman satisfied in a long term relationship - not just sexually, but in virtually every respective way.
Essentially, the wife did the work for us in finding a suitable mate.
(Note: I am NOT a supporter of cheating, just stating the psychology).
From the woman's point of view, she has a lot of control over his behavior based on the fact that she can ruin his life just by letting his wife know about the affair.
Some women need and want this amount of threat potential, and this is a good way to get that.Cheating is caused by narcissistic behaviour. People who lack empathy tend to do it. So no matter what their excuse is, that's what science tells us so far.
Because they want to be home wreckers. Those are the women who thrive on drama, who don’t take accountability, who will point fingers at others and not herself, who have daddy issues, who think this world owes something to her. She sees a happy couple, sometimes by seducing a guy or man who can’t hold his urges and cheats or the men who aren’t faithful in the first place and goes after women like that. Stay away from women like that.
Why do married men engage in affairs with single women? I would suggest that they are both guilty here. Your question is not only one sided it's mildly sexist.
Experience. But it can be naivety.
Stolen chocolate cake tastes better than bought chocolate cake, so to speak.
They have no character and they are broken humans.
Some want the life the other woman has and some fear commitment and know a married man is already committed so won’t want to commit to her.
Usually they’re just selfish. That’s the main reason
They know they can't get the man they like so they do it to make themselves feel sexy and worthy...
Those who do so might have different reasons.
1. No strings attached.
2. She doesn't know he's married.
3. She thinks he will leave his wife for her.You know men lie, right?
We don't always know they are married.
So from what i understand single women go after married men because since another woman has already claimed them they are considered "Worthy" enough to go after as they have already proven themselves to someone else.
sorry i am not judging anyone but this is morally not good. And every single girl is not like that.
I think it gives her a feeling of power because she both literally and figuratively has him by the balls.
Only a female can answer this question why they want married men
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