Have u married ur second choice?

[boulshyte]

are u not with the person you've always wanted to be with. maybe there was someone else u had in mind but u dont have a chance with because u messed up, or someone u wished u said something to but didn't, or someone who slipped away. do u still think about them? are u happy?

yup, he/she is NOT top of my list

no he/she is the top of my list

[Dreamweaver671]

My first and true love was star crossed back in high school. Truly a woman who caused music to play in heaven. Even today I melt at her voice. For some reason she never saw me in her life even though we dated in school. We are both divorced today but she does not want to be with me. I know I have changed from who I was then but considering what her life has been through, I have no idea how scared she is or deep her wounds go. I tried to break through but she only talked to me as a means of politely catching up on old friends. A block of ice when romantic or flirtatious conversations occured.

[Dreamweaver671]

Thanks for the honor

[pasoccer]

I messed up probably the best relationship I could have had. I ended up marrying someone else years later, but still wished I'd had the other girl. If the option arose, I would have left for her.
It took almost twenty years to get over her.

[LMNOP123]

In my case if I've had someone else in mind; but it didn't work out, then someone else comes along, he would eventually have become the top of my list if I married him. It wouldn't be fair to him if he would always be thought of as my second place. Bitch move there.

[Prettygurl12]

My fiance is the top of my list. He's the sun, the moon, and all the stars.

[boulshyte]

goals

[HikerDude]

I never settle. Ever. I make sure that I'm good enough to be considered girls' first choice, and I don't pursue girls as fallback options.

[drafted]

Of course you marry your first choice. Were you *right* or *wrong* in your choosing is the better question.

[blondfrog]

I think realistically most people do. I mean honestly who actually gets to be with the person they are most attracted to?

[Anonymous]

Even worse- I ended up marrying my third choice, with predictable results...

[Dreamweaver671]

I understand that

[doflamingo457]

i not marrying my sloopy seconds or the same for me its a insults and a downgrade im only settling for the best

[boulshyte]

r u married?

[doflamingo457]

No but I got rejected plenty of times and be asked out again like unknown so if I do encounter these people I won't even think about dating or marrying because they rejected me and they are past there prime..

[boulshyte]

wow if that doesn't rhyme with insecurity then I don't know what does

[doflamingo457]

well i saw this one girl i asked her out she rejected me then i saw her again then she said want toget drinks i said no, there isn't any insecurity at best i would said the hypocrisy lies in women feeling entilted and some not wanting rejection

[boulshyte]

or she has moved on and was beinf friendly? some people do that.

[doflamingo457]

No I rejected her actually she wanted to get some coffee I said no thanks, realize something okay, girls can get rejected to they are just scared too so they don't, also this is my story so don't say how it goes.

[wittymilf]

The first guy I imagined marrying died.

[weaponsdude]

She isn't even on the list.

[Wwwyzzerdd]

I am never getting married.

[boulshyte]

then y answer this question?

[Wwwyzzerdd]

Why write a non-inclusive take them grips when people don't answer the way you want?

You demand respect for your opinion while disregarding everyone else's.

[boulshyte]

y would u answer my question?

[Wwwyzzerdd]

Why would a 20 year old ask a question about marriage?

[boulshyte]

because im curious.

[Revolver_]

I have married my second choice

[100lbguy]

I hope I was you first choice

[Revolver_]

You were my first choice

[AppDee]

no i have not married anyone yet

[Flower-petal]

Second choice?

[shal_sta]

No...