First time it was civil, but it was small and fun. I'd like a similar small and fun religious ceremony if there's ever a second time... The judge cried at the vows I read. it was icing on the cake!!!
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We had a church wedding.
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My wife and I got married in a religious ceremony.
We had a church wedding.
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It was a civil ceremony. We came from religious backgrounds growing up, but are not religious ourselves now.
Actually, neither.
My girlfriend and I will have lived together for 12 years as of next month and have three children together. She - and they - are the center of my universe. Yet the funny part is that when we started talking about marriage we found - to our mutual surprise - that it did nothing for us.
We love what we share. It is natural and beautiful and almost instinctive. Set against that, the idea of an expensive ring, a large ceremony and a permission slip from the state was artificial and contrived. It almost detracted from what my girlfriend and I have.
As I say, we were sort of almost surprised about the way we felt. We are actually otherwise pretty traditional and even attend church - although giving our living arrangements we do not partake of the sacraments of our church. (We are both Roman Catholic.)
It is hard to describe, but just being us, sort of doing what nature made us for, so to speak, gives what my girlfriend and I share such intensity and connection. To suddenly put all that falderal around it would make it seem tinny and brittle.
That said, we have never fully reconciled what we are doing with our religious views and if we were to get married - and if my girlfriend wanted it I would propose in a heartbeat - it would be a religious ceremony. Such ceremony has real meaning and value whereas a civil ceremony is basically nothing.
Marriage licenses are a dime a dozen. In fact, since the advent of "no fault" divorce, marriage is the one contract - legally it is a contract - that the government will no longer enforce. That even further diminishes its meaning.
Of course, if you have no religious views, then a church wedding is not just a show it is a fraud. Not sure that I would want to turn something that is supposed to mean so much into little more than a spectacle. Kind of a Hollywood production.
From a purely visual perspective, I can understand why a church wedding would be preferred. However, when you consider what it is supposed to be, having a church wedding just for the show would both insult the church and demean the marriage at its outset.I voted A, we were married in a church by my pastor.
A little bit of both. A good friend and a business partner of mine is an ordained Buddhist priest and he came over to my house and performed a "minimal ceremony" with just us and our three children present.
That would depend on my future wife and i. I would like a religious one.
Both. Civil marriage is obligatory to have a religious marriage in my country.
I perfer civil first because its very quick then a religous ceremony if she wants.
I'd prefer a religious ceremony
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I got married in a church.
I'd have civil ceremony. Religious would be weird
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