That has never cross my mind.
nor was marriage. I am not the type who have my wedding plan out at a young age.
the Right time, right maturity, right standards, I met the right men who will want what I want.
looking back, the 4 serious relationships I had/have all wanted marriage with me and told me I am a marriage material. Not the type boys want to play with.
they told me I make a good mom. They saw how I cared for my little sister at that time.
my college wanted to marriage me.
didn’t work because he came from a culture that would not allow... so we had to end.
I took some years to grow. met my ex husband. 2 kids
didn’t work out. Took time to heal.
met my ex boyfriend. He wanted to marriage me.
a good guy from a good family but I can’t marry a man who is a functional drunk... don’t want my 2 kids to be in that environment.
no kids, I would have stayed with him.
now my boyfriend... soon to be husband...
long story... he was forever single till he met me.. now he regret not meeting me sooner in his life time... to have a family with me.
now I am done with having kids but, he changed his mind being single to wanting a family.
so no I am not a cat woman or to stay single or alone.
I will try to live the best as I can.
Well, I'm very lucky that my boyfriend wants us to get married next year (I'll be 22) even though he's redpilled af. He did vet me a lot which was exhausting but I understand why men don't want to get married because of trust issues. I wanted to get married as early as possible just because most guys prefer younger girls.
If let's say I never met him and I become older and no one has still asked me to marry them, I'd find that weird. Because, I date towards marriage, so obviously the guys who want to date for fun wouldn't be my choice at all.
I have been asked so many times and I said NO.
Here are my reasons... I grew up with divorced parents. Each side has gone through 3rd or 4th marriage 🤦🏻♀️. One thing that is still stuck to me till this day. He said "marriage is sacred, make sure to find someone who U can see urself in the future with for the rest of ur life." So far I see no future with any guy I'm with. Also, marriage is expensive, and divorced is also expensive. NO one can make u happy but urself, and no one can love than urself. I am happy where I'm at, no need to worry about anything and living my best life.
Live my life. Make my money. Buy a dog. Travel. Basically everything I'm doing now but the travel would be half as expensive lol
I've been asked a few times. I've accepted thrice and none of it worked out. I wish everyone the best nonetheless. There are no guarantees in life. It's pretty much a gamble as you never know the outcome. Personally it's their decision. If they're happy to be single and free of commitments thats okay, if someone wants marriage and commitment thats okay too. Either way, let people live their lives. I choose to be happy whether thats on my own, buying a farm with so many animals and living in peace or sharing it with someone. Regardless il make all my dreams happen and desires come true. We have free will. Whether we want to conform to societies standards or not.
Well thankfully for me, I don't want to get married, so that's not an issue for me regardless! LOL.
So if I never find a relationship- which is very plausible, I'm just going to continue living my life like I have for the past 35 years. That's it. A relationship status does NOT define me, or anyone, as a person.
I've been single all this time, thriving, and living my life just fine... and not to gloat, but I'm happier than most of my friends and coworkers that are married or in relationships! Why? Because I'm able to do what I want, when I want without stressing over accommodating a partner, or scheduling my life around other people. Is that selfish? Maybe. But that's my choice! So my plans are to just continue living life, work hard, travel, and enjoy being awesome.
Oh, and get a dog. I'm not a "cat lady," but I'll happily be a dog lady, LOL
Everyone should have a life plan. It'd be nice if you could find a longterm partner and do all that entails, but FIRST, FIRST, plan what you'd like to do on your own.
THEN, include the other person who might come along in those plans.
If no one comes along, you STILL have a plan for your life.
If someone arrives, they can share your joy in your life plan and meld your two plans together.
I've been married & divorced, it honestly isn't the end of the damned world to never get married.
I'm in a great relationship right now, & I would love to spend as long as possible with him, regardless if he asked me to marry him or not.
If I'm single, I'm going to live my life happy I can do whatever I want.
If I'm in a relationship, not be upset that he doesn't want to get married. Be happy with my life with him.
When i was 23, i had a pet fish!! I loved him so much. He was soo beautiful!!
If i never married... I would love to make close friends and see each other daily... Maybe even live together. We could travel together and hang out all day every day. I did kind of do that before getting married! It was kind of fun.
Living my BEST life and continue to make it meaningful like I am right now. Spoiled myself af. Continue to devote my precious time for my family & friends as I already do. Traveled around the world and volunteer across country. There's just so much more to life that I can say :) Definitely be a fur mama, turtle mama, and rabbit mama hehe.
What is the ”redpill”?
Anyway, I'm already in my 30's and I don't plan to marry or have children. I would only consider marriage if a right man would come along. I'm mostly focusing on health, career and hobbies and not forcing anything like a marriage in my life.
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