In your personal opinion, what are “the right reasons” to marry someone? (Page 2)

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I see why a lot of people aren't all for marriage anymore. I’m torn. Honestly my main reason to marry (outside of loving that person, being in love with that person, and wanting to commit to only that person) was the fact that i didn't want to have sex before marriage. After that fckup, my next reason was that I didn't want to sexually conceive with someone outside of marriage. I’m not saying i’d marry for the sex and kids but i wanted to be married before having had sex or kids with them. Now a day, i realize... If i decide to actually go through with something like a sperm donor, in vitro, surrogacy, or basically something that doesn't consist of conceiving outside of marriage, then I probably wouldn't marry. Sounds bad but I’ve come to that realization. Marrying at a courthouse would disappoint me. If i marry, i want a nice outdoorsy wedding. But see, if it wasn't for me wanting the wedding decor and conception after marriage, I probably wouldn't marry. And if i did, A PRENUP would be involved no matter how rich/broke either of us is at the time. I’d be more than happy just dating the same guy forever because i love him and want to commit to only him. However, not many guys would want to marry a single mom and also not many guys would want to date someone forever if they can't live with them. Yea thats right, if i dont marry the guy, we’re living separately... period. I dont wanna shack up. Then i remember that even if we dont live together, I’d like us to be having sex. But i dont like the thought of having sex again while unmarried. I don't know. I realize my way of thinking is out of sorts. I didn't even realize i thought this way until this moment honestly.  
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exitseven · Answer

I had to read this over a couple of times. I think that you marry somebody firstly because you love them but also because you can see yourself spending the rest of your life with that person. With me, I was sick of dating and all the games and me screwing over girls and girls screwing me over. I found somebody that really was the nicest person I ever met and I was just ready. I was 25.

Jesus_is_the_guey · Answer

If both people are on the same page if both people are benefiting from each other and I don’t mean materialistically if there’s mural understanding respect and maturity if both people are convinced this is real and will last and if both can without a doubt say they truly can live their rest of their lives without anyone else but the one standing right in front of them

JayParris · Answer

Being married doesn't have to involve the government. People were getting married eons before governments ever existed, and non-governmental marriage still happen every day. To be married in the eyes of God is all that matters.

I think that's the root of the modern marriage problem: people only care about marriage as a legal status, and the spiritual aspect is reduced to romanticized wordplay.

HawkPerception · Answer

I would marry someone if I trust them 100% to the point I could leave them with a bunch of dudes and I know they wouldn't do anything behind my back. That and I have great chemistry with them (similar interests, views, way of communicating, sense of humor, etc).

loveslongnails · Answer

The basic premise is simple:
You would marry someone because you want to spend the rest of your life with them, and they feel the same way.
But, it's not that simple. Things like goals, kids, careers, etc, change the landscape. Also, I think kids do "better" in a devoted 2 parent family, and the more helpful relatives the better. That's not to say it's the ONLY way, as many other ways have worked, and many 2 parent households have failed.

legalboxers · Answer

To me.. I want to marry someone because if I have been dating them for a while, marriage would be the next step. They are my person. They are my soulmate. I would be a dumbass not to marry them, to make them my world and my life. To wake up next to them every day, to have children (if they want or can adopt) start a family.

and I know some dumbass mother fucker will downrate this because thats how they get off

Grond21 · Answer

That sounds very frustrating. All these different desires conflicting, and the thoughts of what you think is practical versus what you desire conflicting as well.

I think you're right. You do need a mental reset on what you want and what is good to have. So that your desires and the practicality can get in line with each other

CalmYourTits · Answer

For me, it's about taking the vow of commitment under God. That is why I want to marry a Christian. He would understand. Non religious people or atheist even spiritual people don't really get that part. Which is fine. Just not for me.

TallAnon · Answer

If you want to spend the rest of your lived together and this either pleases one of you or it's convenient for paperwork. My parents married for free at the courthouse and just signed some papers, so I never grew up valueing it much either. Never actually been to a wedding, surprisingly. For me it would be more of a decleration of commitment.

Adam1978 · Answer

There is none, you can love someone without marriage, you can commit to someone without marry them. The only thing you can't do unmarried is divorce. Everything else the couple can do fine without a marriage. Want a big party that cost you tons of money, you can do that, want to go on a trip, you can do that, want a fancy dress you only plan to use ones, you could do that but it's dumb. There is only the divorce and that's for gold diggers. If you don't care about taking what you haven't earned yourself. You have no need for that.

Laciandmaci · Answer

Many of reasons! Love, trust, they treat you like gold, they respect you, they are loyal, you both are financially stable, not having pre-marital sex, not living together in sin, so on and so on. You should only marry if you TRULY love and CARE for the person, never marry just to get married, to say you made an accomplishment. Marry only when you are ready and when you love the person and you want to spend your whole life with that person and that person only! What do you think @iron_man

nawtee_me · Answer

So, the only reason to get married is to commit to only one person and to have sex which leads to having kids with the one person you are committed to. Right? Sounds good, do I need to get down on one knee? I know, I know... I am to old and might not be able to get back up if I get down on one knee... lol ;)

loves2learn · Answer

You are too hard on yourself hun. I’d been having sex with then boyf, now hubs for 5 years when we got married.  Take a deep breath. Do what feels right to you. Trust your gut. 🥰

Wiredone · Answer

I married for love and commitment. I was tired of the dating scene. I found the the most compatible woman and I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her.

NathanDavis · Answer

If my "right reasons" do match her "right reasons" then they're all absolutely right, no matter which they are.

Agape93 · Answer

For love and if you can see yourself as monogamous and dedicated to that person. If you can’t do that, then don’t do it. You’d be wasting everyone’s time and money and effort

sheikalana · Answer

You both have a great connection and you want to live the rest of your life with that person and share as many experiences with them as possible.

princeofromance · Answer

The right reasons to marry someone include: 1. You have a connection with one another 2. You truly love one another 3. You want to share in the experience of having a wonderful family together

ScottSummers · Answer

Iam trying to think of one but whatever i come up with its same as a long term relationship where partners live together. I guess there is no reason other than people having that *married * status I don't know

Anpu23 · Answer

I can tell you why we married this last time: Insurance, my company wouldn't recognize our domestic partnership so we got married.

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