Well, I see it first as a romantic gesture. You can tell her that you love her a million times and that you will be by her side for eternity, but words are words, and actions speak louder. You make that promise in the most grandiose manner possible and you've then got a wife. If you really love someone, you want to show it in all the best ways and, if you are sure that want to live with that someone for the rest of your life, then the answer is quite simple. I guess that's why most people do it and that's why I would do it.
Now yes, there are benefits to being married and some may or may not care about that. If you start a family, you have the assurance that your partner would be there to help raise the child. When your kid grows up, he/she would have a much easier time in life when it comes to legal stuff. You would not need special paperwork to take him out of the country, they would inherit your health insurance until a certain age, for free, or at least in my country that is. You are able to give him/her as much money or valuable objects as you wish, because legally they are family. Like if you buy him/her a car or rent an apartment, he/she would not have to prove the source of the income. Also, my father was in a military and because of that I have almost all of the benefits as he does, but if my parents wouldn't have been married I wouldn't have any. And many more such examples. From what I see, marriage is a paper that is most beneficial for your future child than it is for you. However I believe there are also benefits in terms of taxes for you, as well as the ability to take a larger loan or mortgage from the bank, because in the case of a married couple the house income is taken into account.
There is zero practical incentive for men to marry in the West these days, and there are a lot of disincentives. Let me give you an entirely plausible hypothetical scenario:
Man marries Wife, they move into a house together and have kids. Wife develops a drinking habit and Man later finds out his wife has been cheating on him a few years later and confronts her about it and they get into a heated argument with some yelling but no violence. Then they each get lawyers and go to the family court for a divorce and shit gets real for Man. His lawyer tells him that unless he has tens of thousands of dollars to spend and a lot of evidence against Wife's character he shouldn't even bother trying to get custody of the kids while wife's lawyer tells her to say that Man was "emotionally abusive" because he yelled at her when he found out she was cheating. It also comes out during the proceedings that the kids aren't his, but the judge says it doesn't matter, someone needs to pay for them, and orders Man to pay child support in addition to alimony to ExWife. He also has to give her half his assets including the marital home which he must still pay the mortgage on even though he doesn't live there. Also, because of the baseless abuse allegation he is either locked up if he's in the UK or loses his 2nd amendment rights if he's in the US. So now he spends a sizable chunk of his life paying for a cheating whore to live with some other dude's kids in the house that was his while he either has to move into a crap apartment with roommates or live out of his car.
Why would any man want to risk that for a modern woman who isn't even a virgin and probably doesn't know how to cook?
@Sarahr123 that is less than 5% of girls.
That is perhaps less than 2% of Western women but women from orthodox cultures who were raised in the West aren’t like that. You wouldn’t know about them because they don’t leave the house unlike the ones you do know of. Then also there are women who were raised in rural areas of Eastern countries - I’m talking about the Middle East and Asia. They’re very traditional and good girls who make good wives. Why do you think so many young men are going to the Eastern world to get married these days? They’re clever. They’re looking for good girls to marry. They do exist in the UK and USA but like I said, you wouldn’t know of them because of how private they are. Even their social media would only have family so they wouldn’t be open to speaking to strange men unless you directly went to their father and asked for his daughter’s hand. Yes women like that still exist. Just not in Western cultures.
@Sarahr123 very true which is why passport bros are a thing. Unfortunately, most men cannot afford to be passport bros.
I feel bad for men. Imagine trying to find a good girl in a country where almost all girls frequent hookah lounged and clubs when you just want a private girl who stays at home, is family oriented and respects her parents so will respect her husband. It’s sad. As my brothers get older I think more and more about how it would be good to marry them off to a good girl from a village in the East but luckily we do know of good girls because of connections.
Wow all the boys who are bitter because they are simply reaping the consequences of their actions sure ate this one up.
@Juxtapose If your marriage is a good one what would be the need for divorce?
@LazerBean Correct, the consequences are not entering into a terrible one sided contract.
Romance and stability. And plenty of athletes get married. But they also get divorced just as fast.
those athletes lose a lot of finances and assets in their divorce, the average man can only dream of. he can't afford to go through divorce like an athlete can
men are only falling for the romance lie based on what they've seen from movies and TV. women have their own versions of romance and when the two clash, the woman's dreams must come first hence she files for divorce more often than the man
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The only one I can think of is a visa, permanent residence and citizenship that cannot be obtained any other way
I think there is more to life than sex with multiple women. When you have multiple relationships you might not get the quality you’re looking for in the quantity. I think to share this life with intimacy with someone you trust is something more to be cherished.
Most mature answer I've seen so far
and what's even more impressive is that you're one of the youngest men here
There isn't really an incentive. It's something you either want to do or you don't. Thinking absolutely logically, no man in the current day would get married. As for men's inability to remain faithful, I think a Lot (not all) of that comes from women mis understanding a man's sex drive. Here are some hints if you're with a man less than 50 and it's been more than 2 weeks since you've had sex, he's getting frustrated. If you decide "I'm married now, no more blow jobs, he feels cheated. If you're "not in the mood" it does mean he isn't. Now some men will cheat no matter what, but some find themselves in a marriage that doesn't meet their needs.
To separate the relationship from just being a boyfriend/girlfriend. Being in a serious relationship where you’re bonded with them to a level that’s beyond ‘just dating’. In a worst case scenario where your significant other is in the hospital you can go see/visit them as much as you possibly can because they are a spouse and not just ‘a boyfriend/girlfriend’.
The government recognizes your relationship with them and that reflects in your insurance, when you file taxes, and circumstances stances where it’s only legal for a spouse to be there for you.
It’s a lifelong commitment dedicated to each other and not just one way. Commitment can be seen as some of your rights taken away though it’s also benefits given to you.
That’s how I see marriage. Interesting question!
Well if you're talking about athletes that's a completely different ballgame (pun not intended). For an athlete image is everything. First of they're not typically marrying loving wives. These women are starf***ers. Just like athletes want to secure big contracts these women want to lock down big incomes. Much like an athlete they have a very short window of being most marketable and in thier prime, and they want to make the most of it. And having kids are like bonus incentives to an athlete. Not only can she take half his wealth when his career starts to wane. But she can come back for more through child support. And believe me this women are working just as hard honing thier game to bag the biggest name they can. And since to athletes ego is everything. It's very easy for these women to get thier hooks into them.
Now if you want to ask what the NORMAL incentive for a guy to marry is I can answer that as well. But athletes is a whole nother explanation.
For men, none, but the detriments are huge. The biggest being family court system where the laws are heavily stacked against him; alimony, child custody, division of assets, domestic violence laws, etc. I do not advocate men getting married nor doing more than the bare minimum for society.
Honestly, nothing really. They say men live longer when they’re married but how many of us want to live longer especially if she’s a pain in the ass lol maybe a tax break on being married. Let’s see. Hmmmm, not much. Aside from sex, unless he’s into men, women don’t offer much in the way of what men need or want. We can do everything women can, maybe even better. Men built the infrastructure we live in. So aside from sex there isn’t too much, oh, having kids.
for men? tax benefits
for women? tax benefits, divorce and child court systems that heavily lean in their favor.
assumed incentives:
men: less sex after every milestone (marriage, house purchase, kids, etc)
women: time, energy, money, attention
Half of your stuff, if you get divorced unless you sign a prenup, otherwise. Kids. The bible says "you're not supposed to have kids, outside of marriage".
If you believe that or not, i dont know but thats what a lot of "christians" and I stress the quotes, CHRISTIANS, claim
For men it's love. Men get cheated on or divorce because a woman needs to go find herself and then spends up the man's money on sleeping with other men. It's not a good deal for men at all. But men care about women and are capable of love so that's why men get married. Women do it to use the man for money even so the guy still loves her. It's sad but that's the reality, but I don't expect you to understand even though you are the caring and empathetic gender as they say.
There is no logical incentive to state sanctioned marriage. It's just a tax on the poor that is given to the state for a license and a bias legal framework that is used to manipulate men.
Any muslims here? Men you are describing are fucking rich, handsome and chads (athletes). Why wouldn't they use their status if every woman just sticks to them?
From securing finances to dedicating yourself to one cause and lineage.
If you need to ask, you don't have it in you to really marry. You can only "Britney marry"
For me, marriage itself is the incentive. I strongly gravitate towards the romantic ideal, and I seek that committed lifetime relationship with my partner whom I deeply love.
1. Love.
2. When you find someone you are compatible with, you have to claim them as yours, because the odds of finding that again is shit.
People get married because they don't think they have enough problems of there own. Lol
For women - Status, security, finances, provisions, assets, resources.
For a man - Nothing
Why should there be any incentive to marry a polygamous man in the first place?
Who said anything about incentive to marry a polygamous man?
I meant what's the incentive for people to marry PERIOD
Basic literary skills are required
There is none. If you can't commit without the paper then you can't commit with the paper, and all marriage is, is a piece of paper.
My incentive, if it ever occurs, will be to pass on my assets to my heir without her having to pay inheritance taxes.
There are other mechanisms/legal structures which essentially accomplish the same thing. Get married because you want to, not because you feel you have to to benefit a third party (your heir).
If a woman truly loves you, the word marriage will never leave her lips. In many cases marriage is just another form of slavery where the woman holds all the cards.
Love pure and simple. 👍🙂. I only wanted one girl, and needed one girl 👍🙂
If a guy asks this question, he is ridiculed. And if a girl asks the same question, her question gets selected as a Great Question.
WTF? Why this double standard?
when we get emotional and in need of a woman who deeply cares for us, we ask her to marry us.
It is a test of commitment.
@anonymous Kind of an unfair test. One side get bombarded by countless options daily the other side has to bust their ass just to have one option.
Tradition and legality.
False sense of security
Tax breaks and a shiny band
Nothing
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