How would you react if your mom wore white on your wedding day?

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I've had that experience happened to me back 4 years ago. My mom is a narcissist and she loves the attention all for herself. Not sure why but on my wedding day my mom choose to wear a white gown on my wedding day. I was very disappointed non of my friends and family agreed with my mom's behavior. I always wonder Why, I was told one time once a narcissist always a narcissist. So much drama , Now I just want to enjoy my peaceful life. How would you react if your mom wear white on your wedding day?

Pasiton5 · Accepted Answer

Honestly I would not care at all long as she didn't come drunk or naked or taking about how my wife to be is no good but white do what what is a color but dye, what's more important is she is there to support you now how she fell about your dude it's in the eyes, I'm kidding look you have you while life ahead of you your out of you're bunk bed and on your own with dude, how you not in bunk beds, but hey it's no big deal and anyone who says anything about ask them where is it written in stone by Gods fingers that white ain't rite to wear at yo wedding, and she's a narcissist nah she isn't our she would have said to everyone there hey everyone all eyes on me, how do I look it's a Dior cost more than any of you make in a life time and even if you did won't look as good on your as it do me let the shin dig begin, or something like that she would have said, and I say to you congrats have many anniversaries and kids and don't worry be happy, I miss my mom

t-8900 · Accepted Answer

Sometimes mothers dont have our best interests at heart, I'm sorry to say it. My mother left me at a liquor store when i was 11 and drove off. I'm not going to tell the whole story again. But listen, some parents are just shit. Some parents want to drag you down so you can't live they life they wish they had because of their own shitty mistakes. Keep your distance from her and make sure she doesn't try to wreck your family. Be strong for your husband, your children, and yourself. I wish you all the best in your marriage.

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

Well, as much as I don't know about wedding traditions, I for one would not sweat over that. My late mom was and always is a lovely woman. And if she wanted to wear white, heck if anybody wanted to wear white, what the heck? It's just a wedding day that I would want to share with my husband. I am not sweating over all of that superstition stuff. If my marriage is blessed by God, that is all that matters unlessGod commanded me to be so not to wear certain outfits and what others should and shouldn't do. God is in control and I would listen to what my heavenly Father has to say on the matter. What he says, is how it goes. Period.

However, forgive your mom. We don't know why she was a narcissist towards you. But holding on to that won't solve anything either. That was 4 years ago. You move on with your husband and be at peace.

Siren777 · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't care too much what she or whoever else decides to wear. The day is about you & your beloved and those who love and celebrate you. Narcissist only want attention and a reaction - this validates that they still get to you. That you need their approval and it's mere their projection to get you riled up. When you ignore a narcissist and move on with your life - not giving in to their games they become crazy. So let the world see what type of crazy they can get without having done nothing. I know it's hard since she is your mother but don't give her that power over you and you give her that power by still thinking about what she did years ago. Stay far from her and don't engage in her games. True colours always show.

Ez-Bri-Z · Answer

My wife and I wore a mix of blues and whites and so did everyone else. We were mostly worried about their comfort so any clothes really were fine, even blue jeans. It was a Texas summer and outdoors. We just didn't want people to collapse from heat exhaustion lol

nella965 · Answer

I would kick my mom out or force her to go home to change before the wedding starts. You need to take charge on your wedding day. I’m a feisty lady and I’ve always taken charge when needed

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah my is also heavy conscious-less narcissist and compulsive liar with heavy inferiority complex, plus she hardly can think for self. All worse than worse and than previous. So yeah, my heart goes out to you. Sad person, what to say. At least now you have your own life.

Sarairocketship · Answer

I don't think my mom would wear white. But if she did, I don't think her dress would be as extravagant as mine (I'm one of those girls that wants a traditional wedding dress. So pretty), so I wouldn't care and would even encourage her to wear white. I love my mom and just want to see her happy and if that's in white, then I see no problem with that. White is the best color (someone will probably correct me. Is white a shade? Lol)

NamerOfStars · Answer

Truth be told, I think the bigger attention-grabbing part would be the whole "rising from the dead" thing, but that actually kind of sounds like something she'd do. She'd probably be too busy playing with the grandkids she never got to meet to interrupt anything, though.

But you don't want to hear depressing answers. Knowing me, I'd probably insist on having a second wedding, where the dress code would stipulate that EVERYBODY has to wear a white gown. That'll teach her!

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Some people will have laughed about your Mom. She shot her own foot.

Anonymous · Answer

People wear black wedding dresses these days. Would that have been better? A wedding day is a brides day. It’s their choices of everything that makes them happiest. It’s sad people are so compelled to nitpick others happiness. Especially if it’s your mother. She won’t always be around. So much other crap in the world to worry about.

Dorothy83 · Answer

My mom did it was 13 years ago i divorce a year later.

SaoirseS · Answer

I don’t know how I would react. I thought it was a matter of etiquette and tradition to do nothing that would upstage or take attention away from the bride on her wedding day.

edgey · Answer

Never knew that was something one was not supposed to do. Is that worse than wearing a red dress? If she is single, and a narcissist, you should not be surprised.

ZackBan · Answer

I'm confused, what's the issue with her wearing white?  It was your big night and I doubt there's anything she can do to overshadow it.

DizzyDesii · Answer

I want all my guests in white tbh

ToastyOats · Answer

Well you weren't a virgin when you got married right? That's what white means. If you can wear why can't she?

Babygirl_S · Answer

I won't mind as long as nobody wears red on my wedding day. White is pretty boring for a wedding. They can wear it if they want to look so drab 😌

Jansetta · Answer

I don’t care, my mom wouldn't do anything to hurt me though

MrJMM · Answer

I would grab her and make her take a nice blue or black colored outfit... Because white is one of my least favorite colors.

Anonymous · Answer

I would ask her what she was thinking? Why is she trying to antagonize my wife?

legalboxers · Answer

Id tell her Im done with her...

Paulychicago10 · Answer

How did you get married at 16?

Iron_Man · Answer

She can do what she wants to do

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