How can you be sure the person you marry will continue to treat you well 50 years later?
You can't be sure, but if you get to know someone you can see how they will always treat you. Life is a risk, if you don't try you can't succeed.
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You can't. That's why evaluating a person's character is SO IMPORTANT. I learned this by making that mistake!
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You can't be sure. You can make your best and most educated guess but none of us have a crystal ball.
You can't. Life takes risk.
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Meet their parents and see how they value marriage. How is their character, are they financially responsible?
To have a good marriage each has to be willing to suffer together, because suffering will produce perseverance in the marriage. When two people persevere together it builds their character. When good character continues with each person they have hope.
Marriage is a team and to make a team be successful each has to do their part to win. You bring down one person and make them feel less than you, you bring down the team. Lift up each other to their full potential. Sometimes a team makes mistakes, then you need a timeout, work together on what is feasible for both to achieve and get back out there and do your part.’
What happens sometimes to people are unexpected life events.
When each opens up to the other, there is a vulnerability and when they are vulnerable that is when they need to be loved the most otherwise one can destroy trust.
Men and women are two different people and need to take time to understand things from a different perspective.
Be willing to attend counseling before the problem gets too big and don’t blame the other just look at yourself and do your part.
Marriage is like a marathon it takes hard work to make it succeed long term.
Each person has to be willing to build upon the foundation for those 50 years. Wherever one person crumbles is where the foundation becomes weak. Each choice can be helpful or harmful. -
How can you be sure of anything?
There isn't any guarantee of anything in the world. But you can always mitigate disasters hy making the right choices. In the case of a partner, choosing someone of character, since actions speak much louder than words. I would take my time in getting to know the guy and observing him closely. Watch him during times of disagreements, watch him in complicated situations, etc.
And well, I hope he would he observing me too, so I also have to be someone of character (a definition I heard recently and I agree with: someone who does the right thing even when difficult). Which begs the question: who's to say I won't be the one to treat him badly 50 years later? How do I make sure I'm also a good partner in the long run? -
No idea! This is as real as it can get and no one has the answer. Can you guarantee your partner anything for the next 5 years?
I have been with my partner since 2009 and sometimes it feels we are in a loop, it's not that i don't love her, i would kill for her but i can't be as energetic i was 10 years ago, i show my love as she does the same for me, but we had about 60+ romantic dinners, we traveled about 20 times outside the country, we made many many great memories, we still do but not as often. -
Honestly, nobody can be fully sure that they'll be there for the long haul. Sure, there's signs that they can notice on both sides, good and bad, but there isn't a full certainty, y'know?
People lose feelings or break trust, and things like that can damage a relationship, sometimes to the point of disrepair.
But all you really can do is trust them. Relationships forged on trust and mutual interests, or made with plans that can live parallel alongside each other, or personalities and character that are compatible, and other stuff like that can possibly help, but the best you can do is trust each other and make sure that both of you feel like you love each other. (Not know, but feel. There's a difference.) -
There are no guarantees in relationships. You have faith in your decision and put in the effort to make your relationship work. Too many people just give up without putting g in the work when it gets hard and it will get hard at various times. My first marriage ended after 12 years because she wanted so ethi g different and no amount of work could work could change that. My current relationship is over 28 years and has had many ups and downs but we are still going strong.
I never thought I would ever get divorced whe I first got married as I was raised to not give up or run from a problem but it takes 2 people to make it work and i was only 1/2 of the equation. -
No one can be sure. One can only hope for the best. If you have good bonding with your partner, you will find one excuse to be with him, even if he gives you a thousand reasons to leave him.
Never create a communication gap, as it creates misunderstandings. Talk to each other. Listen to each other. Touch each other more often. Physical contact like holding hands or touching hand or back when passing by and giving a slight tap on shoulder while talking, will strengthen your relationship as physical contact binds two people emotionally. Address him with his first name while talking casually. It casts a positive deep emotional impact.
Do not overthink and be positive.
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in my opinion, most times, right in the beginning we can see red flags, often we just choose to ignore them. I think that the best to do is take plenty of time you find necessary to meet someone before marriage. people can change a lot in 50 years, but if he/she is willing to work hard in the for better or worse moments, I think that everything may go well, as long as there is a willing to always get better and adapt to very different situations.
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You don’t and can’t know.
the person you marry may be the best most amazing, kind, saintly person alive, then something happens and they turn in to a horrendous person.
Then you have stuff like Alzheimer’s where they try and kill or harm you. -
No one can be certain about that Miss, but no one can be certain about life too, you don't know how long you will live.
So, it's better not to think about too far away in the future and live your present happily.
Cause you can't change the past and you can't see the future you only have one life so live it in the present. -
Find out what they want in life. If someone wants a great marriage they most liking won't treat you wrong for any irrational reason.
It's pretty simple. Know who they are NOW and know who they want to be and what they want to have. They will either stay the same or be who they wish to be. Any other version you probably wouldn't want to be with, considering it would not be what you signed up for. -
First you should know who you are and what you want. If your spouse treats you poorly, you need to stop that behavior. Loving but assertive communication is essential. There are no guarantees in life, but things have a way of working out.
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It's called faith. If you believe that God created humans to his own image, you can understand the similarity that comes with this. This similarity is that you need to believe in God and you need to believe in people.
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Just like you can't predict when you'll die, you can't. But, to help, get to know each other very well before you get married. Date for at least 2 years (or more). Pre-marriage counselling I think is also a good idea. Personally I also think you should have sex and live together also before marriage.
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I'd say the biggest is each of you is willing and able to negotiate and compromise. If you can't compromise. Resentment will ultimately build up.
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You can't,
There is no garuntee,
My marriage lasted less then 3 months so there is nothing that can be said for sure in any marriage -
You can’t.
In fact, ‘some’ change in this metric is almost certainly inevitable.
That’s just how it goes. -
Every longer relationship has a crisis at some point. Usually 2-3 years after starting living together. If this coping with this crisis made your relationship better, you should marry. Otherwise it's time to say goodbye.
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The only guarantee in life is there are no guarantees!
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