Even if you're married, if sex is done against your will is still rape right?

[Anonymous]

Last week was the 2nd time my friend had this happened. They've been married for 9 years, have fraternal twins (a 7 year-old boy and girl) and are having issues.

Her husband is frustrated in only having sex 3-5 times in a month. It has declined since last year. He forced himself on her for the 2nd time and claims that since he's her husband and he had the patience to wait till marriage when he met her... he can now have sex whenever he wants to. She told him to stop and was crying and he said ''no, I'm your husband''.

Even if you're married isn't that still rape?

Yes

No

[Anonymous]

it is 100% rape. although they don’t have a lively sex life, that doesn’t give him the right to force sex on her. having children is a lot of work, and it keeps you constantly busy. he should understand that… since he is the father and husband. sometimes sex drives decline as you get older and especially when you have kids and it isn’t your top priority or concern anymore. he needs to be patient and understand that even if you’re married, that doesn’t mean you can have sex whenever you want if your partner isn’t feeling the same.

[Opinion Owner]

it’s also funny to see some men dislike the comments about how it’s not rape.
you’re not entitled to sex whenever you want when dating or married. it’s called boundaries and respect for your partner. learn it. understand it. especially when there are kids in the house.

[msmissydc]

Clearly it is and if it isn't legally, than thats just a morally wrong law. Imagine you are allowed to run down people on the street with your car because you have a drivers license.

[Anonymous]

Moral of the story, don't marry! Because even if you have coitus with your legal spouse she will call you a rapist. If you care about your self respect then don't marry.

If you want sex, it's available at a very reasonable price on Amsterdam.

Marriage these days don't favor men.

I'm myself getting a divorce soon. I have to pay her 30% of my monthly income as an alimony. I earn somewhere around $ 4000 a month so not only I'll have to now pay not only my taxes but also alimony.

[MzAsh]

Or just don’t have sex. No one will call you a rapist if you don’t have sex.

[Opinion Owner]

@MzAsh yes you're right! These days having sex can also get men in trouble.

[MzAsh]

If you don’t know what you’re doing or don’t obey the law, then yes.

[rosemilk]

maybe you should have just gotten a prenup before marriage...

[Opinion Owner]

@MzAsh yep!

[Opinion Owner]

@rosemilk still you can't escape child support.

Dislikers are unmarried bachelors, coz married men know exactly what I am talking about.

[ChrisMaster69]

In most places it’s classed as rape, however a few countries still allow marital rape.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marital_rape

[Asker]

She's lost at what to do. She still loves him but is shocked to see the man she married didn't care about her no nor cries to stop. She's been sad ever since he forced himself on her.

[ChrisMaster69]

There should be no loss of what to do, it’s rape.

[MzAsh]

It’s still rape. Marriage does NOT give one the rights to sex or their partners body.

[laurcar34]

No one is ever obligated to have sex with anyone else, under any circumstances.

[DarkCarousel]

He forced himself on her when she didn’t want to have sex. She said no. That’s rape.

[Sirenboobzilla]

It's a but of a gray area. BUT ultimately NO means no!

[SnakeBoop]

Yes. Marital rape is a big thing

[Asker]

She wants him to stop doing that. She's sad ever since he did that and is shocked to see how the man she once knew as caring and sweet turned like that.

[SnakeBoop]

then she should be telling the police.

[Brendan824]

Yes it's still rape and I'd suggest not only being there for her but suggesting to her to call the police especially if it happens again

[Anonymous]

a wedding ring or piece of paper does not excuse rape... yes it's still rape.

[clampfan101]

Of course. Marriage does not take away from free will, like setting boundaries. Nothing does.

[Anonymous]

yes it's still rape. file a divorce and file a police report and press charges on him for rape

[Cubus]

Yes - it's still a rape.

[Wise4myage]

That's still considered rape.

[Bluemax]

It certainly is rape

[Lyndsielee666]

It’s still rape

[tasleen]

Yes no means no

[lycanthrope3]

Still rape