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If you have never been married before, is it ok to refuse to date someone who is a divorcee as you want your first wedding to be their first wedding?
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u It's okay to set whatever parameters and qualifications you want for a prospective spouse. The more restrictive those parameters and qualifications become, the more likely it is that you are significantly reducing your odds of finding someone.
I understand that you want to find the perfect spouse. Stop looking! A perfect spouse does not exist. You are not a knight on a white horse and she is not a princess waiting to be rescued. We all have our flaws and imperfections and you will be happier in life if you accept that concept.
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Ultimately it’s up to you. On the subject of dating and marrying divorcees, scripture has some important information on this subject.
“And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.””
Matthew 19:9 ESV
Meaning, in God’s eyes to divorce and marry another except for cause of adultery is in and of itself an act of adultery.
If someone has not divorced on biblical grounds is not eligible to date and remarry. Dating someone who hasn’t divorced according to what the scriptures command is partaking in adultery.
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As long as you're okay with the limited dating pool you're creating, any standards or stipulations you place on that pool is fine.
Like if you say that the only people you'd consider dating must have X, Y, and Z characteristics and you're okay that those characteristics are only possessed by like 2% of the population and you aren't bitter that no one you meet have those things then shoot... restrict that dating pool all you want.
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I’d be ok with it! No hate towards the people who have been divorced. I think I’d feel better marrying someone who has never been married before just to avoid problems with his ex (I know because of my mother , my dads divorced and his ex still tries to meddle in our family).
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Everyone has a personal choice.
if that’s the case, if you meet that perfect girl who clicks with you perfectly, then find out she was married from 18-20 and divorced because he cheated. You must walk way and dump her.
My personal view is you are being fucking stupid at an age of 30-35 to base love and a relationship on a piece of paper.
You are artificially culling your dating pool, your almost first question is, ‘have you been married before’, if you explain why you are asking it, even if a girl has not been married, she’s likely to think ‘weirdo alert’.
Also you are walking in to spending a huge chunk of cash. Having asked a girl if she has been married before, explained how you want it to be special for both. You now have to pay for a large cathedral wedding, with all the trimmings, large wedding party and amazing honeymoon. -
Marriage is a very Unique and very Emotional experience. I personally wouldn't want to marry a girl who already was married. I want to have an unmarried girl where we both can experience this ones in a life time opportunity. And the best part is, there is absolutely nothing selfish about wanting that.
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Yes it's fine. I would only date a divorcee if the reasons for divorce were that the guy cheated, beat her, or was threatening or tried to kill her. But if they got divorced because she got bored or she's the one that cheated, or some other shallow reason then hell no I wouldn't even take her seriously
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Well it will limit your dating pool while still probably not save your marriage. The best way to avoid divorce, if that is what you are afraid of is not to get married. Keep them on their best behavior.
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That was my motto.
When I was single I would never have dated a divorced woman or a woman with kids.
Single girls... no kids... never been married... those were the only type I dated when I was single. -
If that is your preference then yes that is ok , everyone has their own preferences on what they like and what they are into , so you have your reasonings and that is fine, don’t allow anyone to determine your choices in life
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It's your choice who you date and what your criteria is for a partner, there is no right and wrong, and nobody else can dictate to you what your choices in life should be.
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Do what feels right to you! I want the same thing but for the right guy it wouldn't matter if he was already married. Id take a premarried guy over an asshole sorta thing.
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No, you'd be missing out on the opportunity to meet many women who could be the perfect match for you. Why would you want to do that?
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It's their choice. I understand it, and I'm divorced.
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Yes it is completely fine to do that.
It is completely fine to refuse/reject women with children as well.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. -
why not?
Apart from this there are so many other things to reject someone for.
Religion, height, looks etc. -
It's OK to use whatever standards you choose when selecting who to date.
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Yes I would never date a divorced woman seriously. Casual only.
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Sure you can refuse, but you could be missing out of the best relationship you ever had.
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yes as long as it makes you happy
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At your age? Well, you might not ever marry then.
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You are entitled to your preferences.
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yes it wouldn't be as special
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Thats makes you a cheater
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