I'd think it ridiculous, and that'd be grounds for breaking up for me.
A late partner is someone to respect and remember, not attempt to erase. That tattoo is a token to remember them by - not something to be jealous of or erase. That's ridiculously selfish and hurtful of the fiancé.
I have friends who've lost their loved ones and have moved on, but the big thing for all of them is remembering and appreciating their late spouse. Their partners recognize the importance and effect of these peoples' memory on them and respect that they may need time to remember them on occasion.
If I lost a spouse, I'd move on after a while as well, but I would still like to remember the person I lost unexpectedly. If a prospective partner couldn't understand that, we wouldn't be together.
Tiktok? Sounds like bullshit to me. Anything related to Tiktok is getting people to do something to get likes. Too many people getting hurt that way. If she doesn't want to remove a tattoo, and that is a condition of marriage, than just walk away. Is her posting on it going to change anything or is it just for attention? Come to think about it, it sounds a lot like G@G.
I am not a big proponent of tattoo's , Don't like them as a matter of course. But since she already has it and it a show of in memory and respect I wouldn't have said anything and let her make her own decision, but I would secretly want it removed.
u If her husband is dead, why does it matter how many tattoos he had?
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Yes... ridiculous... but sometimes there is more to a story... she shouldn't remove it...
I Have heard of people still not over their deceased spouse ""enough " in that case she shouldn't be dated. .. but if she is not constantly comparing him and is loving him... I don't see why he has a problem with it.
If I was in love with a widow... maybe I'd feel insecure.. but will never ask them to remove... it is unkind and out of place..., I don't think widows are for me though
It's absolutely stupid. My stepfather killed himself when I was still in elementary. My ma got multiple tattoos with his name. She recently got in a relationship and when he said he wanted her to remove the tattoos she immediately broke off the relationship. I don't see why it bothers someone so much if someone has a tattoo that reminds them of someone they loved and lost.
thats an immediate skip.
i hate folks who act like their partners have to forget their lives before their current partner.
like if you date someone with a relationship/sex past, thats what you're signing up for.
That guy sounds weird or controlling or both. If he's dead it does not matter and in fact is better reason for it to be kept just out of respect and symbolism.
I guess it could be taken as a continuous reminder that you are the 2nd prize or if you're the religious type it would be mighty awkward in the afterlife "Hello, husband number one, meet husband number two"
I think it is ridiculous. He wants to honor her memory.
I’d be upset if put in that position. She lost a loved one, and wants to have that memory
Any control signs and they are gone. Controllers are as bad as cheaters. They deserve to be alone.
Well he's well within his rights to just not marry her. No biggie.
Would you marry a man who had another woman’s name tattooed on him?
I would not ask for it. It's part of the story of his life.
He demands she has to follow or else. I think figuring out who plays first fiddle in this relationship is his goal.
I think so. I would of ended the relationship he sounds controlling.
That's a good way to destroy the relationship.
Yes thats ridiculous
She should keep it
Yes yes it is
That's ridiculous
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