Should I just move on or am I overreacting?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have been in counseling for the last several months and been together for 3 years. We recently began talking about marriage and I said that I am ready and he said what was holding him back was that he didn't think he made enough money and wanted to get a better job and said he knew for a fact we get married one day. In another session I pointed out he can afford a townhouse with his sister but can't afford to live with me? He said being married is more expensive and our counselor asked if he had ten million dollars given to him right now would that make him propose to me and he said 'it will help' then admitted he was scared. Like it feels like to me he was using the financial thing as an excuse and I told him I don't want to spend the rest of my life with a person who is never going to be sure if he wants to be with me and I'm not going to wait forever. we been together 3 years and we don't even live together. I feel our relationship is moving too slow and bringing up marriage after 3 years together is not an unfair thing cause I want to know where we are heading and I only recently began bringing it up. I want to get married and have a family and I don't want to feel like I'm wasting my time with someone who I feel is being too chicken to tell me, or am I overreacting? Like I said after 3 years together that's when I started to ask where this is going because I want certain things like a family and it would be unfair to me if he is just stringing me along. but I wonder if I'm overreacting cause he said he did want to marry me but does he think I'm going to wait forever until he decides to ask.

[Chill_Thoughts]

Give him an ultimatum, "marry me or I'll move on" Sometimes that's what people need. Also if he says no, don't do stuff to forget during the next month or so. Yes you need to move on, but not having you can also make his mind up on it. So give it a month where you're away, but just quietly hanging on and then be done with it.
Good luck!

[Gent207]

Have you discussed with him the pillars of marriage: sex, kids, in-laws and money?

Does he want kids? (This mus be a yes or no it's non-negotiable) If so how many and how far into the marriage?

Honestly this single series of questions will tell you all you need to know. If he says anything other than a solid YES then leave him ASAP.

[LazerBean]

And that's why you don't waste time on men who aren't ready for marriage immediately. A man who actually wants to get married will know it and be capable of it.

[In_Trance]

Move on