I got fired from work yesterday, because I was being too upfront and honest about the things I don't accept and it seems my manager didn't like it.
Anyway... that's not my main problem tbh.
There is something much worse about it. I got into a relationship with a coworker an year ago. Cannot really tell if it was a real relationship for him, but was certainly pretty much that for me. He was hot and cold all the time. One day he would offer me to move in with him, the next he acted like I'm just a random person next desk.
We were first friends and then started dating, but things got nowhere. He started saying he is very irritated, tired and made excuses.
I was basically going to work bc at a point in time that was the only place I could be with him.
And he seemed to play mind games with me all the time... would hug me in front of others, would drink from my bottle to make sure everyone knows we are "a thing", would eat my leftovers in front of other coworkers And many more, but in fact he wouldn't even ask me out anymore.
Anyway... just a day before I got fired... he wasn't feeling okay at all. Would ask me "you should buy me medicine"... like I'm his wife, bc honestly that's what I did usually. I asked him "text me when you get home safely"... In fact I didn't expect him to reach, but he did. He did text me "I'm home" at the exact same moment he reached the house. But now...
Yesterday I got fired... and he said he is shocked and will talk to the manager, and cannot proceed things. And promised to call, but didn't.
And I guessed I never meant anything to him anyway.
So do you think I should just stop doing anything to reach back to him. Honestly we don't work together anymore and that was pretty much the only place we were meeting recently, so I guess that was it.
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Man, what a crappy situation you're in. Getting fired is bad enough, but having all that weird relationship drama with the coworker makes it 10x worse.
Honestly, I'd say it's time for you to move on from this guy. He clearly didn't treat you right and was very hot and cold the whole time. Playing all those mind games is super lame and not how you should treat someone you actually care about. The fact that he basically disappeared right after you lost your job says a lot. He was probably just keeping you around for the attention and convenience while you worked together.
I know it's hard when you had feelings for this guy, but you deserve way better treatment than that. Don't waste your time trying to reach back out - he had his chance and blew it by not following through like he said he would. Now is the time to hold your head high and move forward without him. Go No Contact, hit the gym to clear your head, and start opening yourself up to meeting new people who will appreciate you for who you are.
You'll get through this rough patch. Just don't let some jerk live rent-free in your head. Believe in yourself - you got this!
Sounds like he was just using you. Maybe even unstable. Were you having sex w him?
Nope, only made out a few times... maybe I should be thankful that I didn't.
So yes he probably was just using you. So yes it was a good thing you didn’t sleep w him. Probably why he’s acting the way he is cause you didn’t give it up.
You mean... he feels as if I rejected him and is taking revenge on me?
Maybe. If a man is just out to get paid, he knows the game isn’t always going to payout. So he knows rejection is a possibility that he won’t take offense to it. It’s ok game over onto the next girl. But it is possible that he could be doing that as well. But you already said he was hot and cold so it may not be the case since he was already like that.
I haven't rejected him though... I just simply couldn't do it based on his hot and cold behavior
I can understand that. Maybe he’s just got something wrong w him mentally.
He sounds mentally unstable
Maybe he is... I detected many narcissistic traits over the months.