Bipolar Romance?

[Anonymous]

I've recently rekindled with this guy from my youth who is absolutely an amazing man. (I'm 22 he's 23) We have so much chemistry and are able to understand each others humor. He asked me on a first date and is traveling to see me (I live in a nearby state). (but we've been talking for a while now)

He mentioned to me he is medically diagnosed with Bipolar 1 but has more Bipolar 2 depressive tendencies. He takes his meds and has someone to medically talk to. However, I never met someone with bipolar disorder and after watching a couple videos online and doing some readings I'm really really nervous it might become a big issue if we do end up getting into a committed relationship. I completely understand its the illness not him but I'm scared a bit about it because I've never dealt with it.

Does anyone have bipolar disorder or is in /has been in a relationship with someone who had it? What was it truthfully like? (be as blunt)

Thank you so much :)!

[RavVid]

I'm sorry to say I have know a few bipolars. They have ended up going off their meds and doing some violent things. One of them invited an acquaintance to breakfast at a cafe and brought a kitchen. The stabbee is lucky to still be alive. I was also on the list of people he was carrying in his pocket. Even his own girlfriend was on that list.

While the stabber was on his meds he was well regarded and liked.

The other bipolars weren't that extreme but still did shit you wouldn't want to be around

I am stigmatizing I know, but from my life experience I would advise getting out from under. I cannot say in good faith 'its all ok'. If you continue then manage his meds.

[Asker]

Thank you for sharing your experience I appreciate it! its definitely something ill consider. Although I haven't seen any of the bipolar side of him I feel a bit scared when I do it'll be something I can't handle.

[RavVid]

Just realized I missed the word knife after kitchen. I hope I did help a little. I don't like to have disparage a whole group of people who are perfectly fine with appropriate medicine but the stabbee just had more surgery last week to overcome ongoing pain. So it has to be said however reluctantly.

[Asker]

Thats honestly so horrific. Hope the stabee feels better! Don't feel bad you just were honest with your experience which I appreciate. I don't have anyone to talk to about it and definitely don't wanna risk anything especially since I once dated a guy who was crazy as hell (he was definitely hiding a mental illness from me ) . It's sad but it's important to talk about it. You definitely helped :)

[RavVid]

Thanks. There were multiple tragedies in this. The stabee will never be the same. The stabber lost his house and his career and I think his marriage as we know his wife left suddenly and abruptly a while back. The cafe had to close down because no one went there anymore. Worse of all he was such a proud devoted dad - quite possibly limited access now. His daughter was a beautiful little girl so how she will fare is worrying.

I have trouble remembering to take blood pressure meds so can understand a bipolar forgetting and possibly they aren't nice. There are subcutaneous versions of oral contraception so hopefully at some point subcut bipolar meds might be possible so tragedies like this don't happen. Probably not enough money for pharma to do I guess.

Stabber was discharged into his new girlfriends supervision and she is a very lovely girl (bearing in mind she was also on the list). But sometimes relationships don't last for ever... At least there is a 20 year court supervision order.

Yeah lots of tragedies in this. Thank you for listening as that has helped me also.

[Beardedman1996]

Depends on the level of severity, I have it, take meds for it, stress is normal, but mostly I revert instead of lash out, depends on him if you see out bursts and a little fliter of violence leave, because that little flitter is a sign that there’s a bigger flame

[Asker]

Thank you for your advice! 😊