Do you think more people would get married if the WEDDING was automatically paid for?

[coachTanthony]

Yes

No

see poll ( Coach will you marry me )

[DaveJord]

I think more people would get married if divorce laws were not as they are, and yeah what's the point of a big blown out wedding any way?

Getting married in not about cementing your commitment or love for each other, they can divorce you at any given time for any reason and take 50% of your net worth with them for any reason they deem fit. Marriage is a legal contract that's what people fail to realize or grasp. You literally are signing away 50% of your property rights to everything you own or acquire. And divorce cost more then the wedding doe, and they do not have to own up to any of the promises they made to you.

[coachTanthony]

I just can't keep up with all these new influencers lol Welcome if you are new

[Cynicaldreamer]

I would hope people aren't that stupid.

Yes, finances can pay a role in some people not getting married right away- which honestly? Is more responsible than spending money on an overpriced ceremony, license, and clothes that may or may not last forever.

But to get married just because someone's paying for it, yet one or both parties are not emotionally and mentally ready for such a commitment? Or doing it because it's free? That's stupid.
It's like going on a trip because someone's paying your expenses, yet you don't even like the place you're going to: you feel obligated to take advantage of it because it's there; not because you genuinely want to.

[coachTanthony]

Yes I would hope not either... I am not saying to get married "JUST" because it's paid for. I am saying to get married instead of maybe just shacking up together because it's too expensive or they feel like it's out of their reach to do so. Sure you can go to the courthouse but a wedding would be much more memorable.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I'd hope not... People already put too much importance on the Wedding Day,and not enough importance on the relationship/ marriage itself.. the wedding is one day, the marriage is supposed to last a lifetime..

Besides, there's ways to get married without it costing an arm and a leg...

[delta50]

Definitely. I don’t think anyone would get married BECAUSE it was free, but plenty of people delay their wedding while they save up money for it. Some percentage of those people will end up cancelling the wedding during that delay, for whatever reason. Those delay-then-cancel people are additional marriages that would happen if weddings were free. So yes, it would increase marriages. Not necessarily stable marriages, but free weddings would increase the total number.

[OlderAndWiser]

I hope not! The decision about geting married should be based on everything that happens after the wedding, not the cost of the wedding.

[BlueScorpio]

Why does everyone keep thinking a wedding has to be expensive? I think you guys have looked at one to many celebrity weddings or reality tv weddings on TV and automatically assune a wedding must be in the high thousands to millions. It doesn't. You can have a cheap, affordable wedding all made up of your own.

You can go to the court house or you can have a beautiful forest wedding. I've seen what people have done, they get creative and doesn't cost them an arm and leg. I was to lazy to do anything so I just went to court house 😄 and we all went out to eat afterwards. Even my mom got married in the court house.

[LovingJo]

The price of EVERYTHING now, is obscene!!
Although it's a big commitment, I am 💯 confident that more people would. Just like, if people said "we will pay for everything your kids need, till they're 18" we would be EVEN MORE over run by the population, than we already are!! 😕🤔

[loveslongnails]

Nope. Free weddings wouldn't cause a noticeable bump in the marriage stats, in my humble opinion. If you really want to get married, it can be done very cheaply.

[coachTanthony]

I think some people see marriage as the wedding. A courthouse signage wouldn't be as memorable so I think people just choose to shack up.

[loveslongnails]

I'm sure you're right that some folks think that way, but I'm don't believe that there's a ton of people who think "let's NOT get married because we can't afford a big wedding". ?

[ChaseBee]

Nope, I don't think so. I think now people don't want to get married because of the financial implications of what happens if they get divorced. I also think marriage is becoming an outdated concept for a lot of younger people.

[coachTanthony]

Definitely becoming outdated for young people that is for sure.

[JaxiCats]

I don’t think it is at least for me

[es20490446e]

The lack of marriage is mostly due to the lack of commitment, or a valid candidate to marry with.

[coachTanthony]

Yes agree. I am more thinking of two people shacking up and saying screw it... if we can't have a cool ass wedding then we ain't doing it. The courthouse just isn't as romantic.

[es20490446e]

Yeap 🫠

[lilyanony1]

Weddings, birthdays celebrations that require a venue are expensive.
The point is its not the fee preventing people it's actually finding a decent partner!

[DrAdams]

It depends how big a wedding you have obviously if the state pays this the amount would be an minimum I can imagine many would choose to spend more to have a more trendy wedding.

[Jamie05rhs]

Oh, gahd no! This is the worst idea ever. Now even more people are going to get into crappy marriages.

I don't believe in expensive weddings, but at least that's one thing holding some people back.

[Anonymous]

No, It’s not the cost of why people will or won’t get married it’s knowing if it’s going to actually last and whether you’ll lose I have your stuff

[coachTanthony]

If a guy loses half his stuff then he is a sucker. Men need to get some balls and have her sign a prenup.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah definitely but sometimes a prenup doesn’t always hold up in court

[coachTanthony]

If a guy gets a prenup that doesn’t hold up in court again he’s a sucker. Get one that does hold up. There will always be “one offs” in life to everything but “one offs” shouldn’t be the rule for an argument or excuse. Thanks for the comments

[msc545]

Right, sign a prenup and then have a Judge invalidate it in court because he doesn't think it's "fair to her". Prenups are worthless.

[msc545]

The only way you can find out if it will hold up is to GO to court.

[Opinion Owner]

@msc545 Yeah that’s what I was saying

[coachTanthony]

@msc545 You act as if they are al thrown out. If you get your prenup off the internet cut and paste yeah it will probably be thrown out. Get one done from an expert and you should be fine. Like I told ANON they're always one offs in life... nothing is ever 100% so if you are worried about that then don't get married. To each their own.

[msc545]

of course all of them are not thrown out but enough tomorrow that it's a problem at least for me. And in accordance with your suggestion and in accordance with my own decisions of course I wouldn't get married.

[coachTanthony]

@msc545 Well shit I wanted to walk you down the isle man Ha Ha ha

[msc545]

Talk me out of ever getting married again should I slip, please

[NathanDavis]

probably yes... lots of people love a bargain and free shit, lol

[Mess96]

Marriage is a big, life changing commitment and there’s way more to it than just the costs

[Mess96]

Even way more than when you’re newly wed

[Justneedtokno]

Yes, to take the money they would not for love all the time the wedding’s gonna be very expensive

[msc545]

Sure, if someone would also pay the ensuing alimony and child support and make sure men didn't lose their property and money and children in the divorce.

[Bethany22]

I think people's reluctance has a lot more to do with anxiety about marriage than the cost. Also men tend to worry about the expense of divorve

[Anonymous]

My sister and brother in law got married at the courthouse with a judge. And they're still happily married after 28 years. You either love somebody and want to be with them or you don't. If the size of the wedding is the determinant of your love for somebody then you've already failed. You just don't realize it yet.

[dustybiker]

That’s over and forgotten in a day. Sooo many people focus on the wedding. The commitment/life together part is where you need to aim the lens.

[bamesjond0069]

More yes. Significantly so, no. People aren't getting married because of society and because of laws.

[RiseofArtemis]

More people would marry if the government gets the boot in its behind to not be part of the contract.

[Rania05]

Yes, free things are sweeter.
I'm sure the divorce rate would increase through