I'm the one who postponed it by one more year because I feel it's still a bit too soon. I think I'll be ready by Nov-Dec 2023.
My now fiance had proposed by early Oct 2021 and even though we had talked about wanting kids one day, it wasn't exactly a sooner date. He invited my our parents, friends and others by surprise. So you can imagine my confusion when I returned home and found all the guests there. By the time he was doing his speech, I already knew where it was leading.
For several seconds, I felt like screaming and getting out of the room. Deep inside I was thinking ''(His name) what have you done, did you had to include others... get me out of here''. I said nothing and let him continue his speech. Then he proposed and I said yes after a couple seconds. I didn't want to hurt him and not in front of them. I felt I couldn't say anything else.
Is it ok to be in an extended engagement if you're not ready for marriage yet?
Instead it being my moment of happiness, I felt kind of trapped in that room.