Should girls collectively make guys wait… for marriage?

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I think that if women want to be taken seriously they should make men wait for marriage. I got married at 19 and my husband and I waited. We’ve been married for 20 years and have great sex and an amazing marriage because of it!! I see no GOOD reason not to wait

Lliam · Accepted Answer

That's your anecdotal experience.

What if you got married and discovered that you were sexually incompatible? Sex is important.

I always considered marriage to be the most decision I would ever make. It's a lifetime commitment and I didn't want to make any mistakes.

I think you need to know everything about a person before you can be sure that you can trust them completely and want to spend the rest of your life with them. And non-exual things aren't everything unless somebody doesn't care much sex. Some people don't. But I think it's important.

In fact, people who have never had sex don't know if they like it or not. I want someone who craves it.

How do I know if she has any libido at all unless she shows me? Sure we can wait and get to know each other really well before taking the next step (sex) in a fully committed relationship. But I would never consider marrying a woman who was saving herself for marriage. I wouldn't waste my time. It would mean that she 1) didn't trust me and 2) was using her pussy as a bargaining chip. It might also mean that she had some kind of religious or social hang up that would make us incompatible.

I never gave a damn about virginity. I think the idea of purity is ridiculous. I never asked a girlfriend about her body count and none ever asked mine. I personally assessed their current character, personality, ethics and values without any background checks. Everyone has taken their own path to getting where they are.

I think healthy people are SUPPOSED to live life, gain experience and knowledge. They are supposed to have boyfriends/girlfriends and experiment with sex. Sometimes they have several relationships before they grow up and have the wisdom to find a suitable match for marriage.

I met my future wife when I was 40. She's 2.5 years younger. We both had full lives before we met. Neither of us were virgins. We've been happily married now for almost 26 years.

The thing is, holding out on sex doesn't guarantee anything. A virgin hasn't experienced life. Once married, they can start wondering what they missed when they were busy protecting their virtue.

RavVid · Accepted Answer

I'd agree with you. Congratulations on your 20th anniversary!

I can understand girls wanting to have fun but men want to have some certainty that the girls baby is also our biological child. That is a fairly rock hard fundamental.

While this somewhat nasty what is the product differentiation between a party girl and a prostitute? Both have large numbers but the party girl hopefully is somewhat lower. On the reverse side, the party girl is more likely to have STDs and because the party girl wants a good time she'll be the more expensive of the two options.

Spongebobssocks · Accepted Answer

I dont think anyone "should" i think it all depends on what type of life you want. If you want serious marrige (usually religious) with kids then yes. If you rather just have fun and sleep around through your life then go ahead. Just dont try to turn to the other side once you've started down your chosen road. Cause it won't work EITHER way.

I mean their are plenty of people who lost their virginity before they got married and they are in very happy marriges. I understand why virginity is important to most men but thats not all it takes. And a lot of men would be fine with a marrying a good, attractive woman as long as her bodycount is below 3 from serious past relationships. Not all but most in my experience.

I'm happy your marrige is working well😊

LazerBean · Accepted Answer

Clearly.

AviatorTom · Answer

Trying to exert control over your partner is doomed to fail.. and so will the relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

If a girl isn’t serious about potential marriage with the guy then that’s not right. If he’s serious about buckling down and starting a family, meanwhile she has 5 other options she’s weighing. She should not make other guys wait months and months. Life is too short to wait for others. I’m sorry but I find girls indecisive. I understand she has to find the best one in her eyes but if two people talk, someone’s character is shown by the conversations, how they conduct themselves, what type of friends does he have and what his social media says about him. If she talks to him daily and asks “how was your day”, and he says — played video games and did some stuff, well, he’s probably not serious about working. So I don’t like when girls make guys wait.

There’s a girl I’m talking to right now. She added me on IG, I didn't know her, she went to the same uni as me, I DM’d her, she responds back and we hit it off. But slowly I brought up hey wanna meet. She’s like that’s “if” or “maybe”. I don’t have time for women’s games. And I’m a straight up dude, I’m not hitting on women to have sex but yeah y’all girls talk to bunch of dudes at once, so guys are allowed to talk to bunch of girls at once as well. A real person who’s serious will be willing to meet after a month and go from there.

I’m sorry but a woman can’t pull the ohhh I have trust issues with guys I don’t trust guys blah blah blah. I’ve tried to be a good human being who listened and tried to be Mr. Reassuring with some girls with a troubled past but it doesn’t matter all they did was scorn me or waste my time, and fuck that that’s not cool. This is not some angry simp rant, this is facts I’m calling out, there is accountability for males and females but women hardly take accountability. All I’m saying is people shouldn’t waste other people’s time. Even the girl I mentioned eventually I’m going to tell her, listen if you like other guys, maybe you should focus on them and not talk to me anymore.

Whatthefluff · Answer

I think each individual/couple should do what they think is best for themselves. In my opinion, couples should have experiences together like live together before they officially get married because there are a lot of things you learn about a partner at this stage that will make or break the relationship.
I’m glad things seemingly turned out well for you. I have sort of a neutral opinion because everyone’s situation and personal philosophy is different. I don’t think you HAVE to wait before marriage. If I had a kid, I wouldn’t tell them what they can or cannot do. I would ask, if they could help it, to wait until at least 16/17 and be open with me. But I think that enforcing a rule on a young person that they must wait until marriage is authoritarian and may lead to feelings of shame or resentment. I think the important thing is to accept individuals and respect their decisions on a case-by-case basis. Let and let live.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

Let me tell you a secret… Marriage is something that men created…

While they are resisting to get married these days, in truth, that’s a better deal for them. Because they get a faithful woman willing to bear a child for him and take care of him in exchange of his love and protection.

If not marriage, 80 of women today wouldn’t exist cause they just aren’t hot enough…

It’s in their beat interests to get married.

As for a woman, many think female moans are the call of mating, informing other males, she’s having sex, she’s enjoying it and she’s open to mating, so come on boyos, fight of the male on top of me and let the sperm competition decide which male is fit enough to have a child with me.

Woman risks being vulnerable and even death through pregnancy, you might as well risk it for an offspring who’ll be fit and will surely survive.

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Sure. Here is the problem with that, not all women will be onboard with that. Because you see sex makes women money.. that’s really the only thing that lucrative for a women. Not saying that she can’t be a self made rich person by hard work in a respected field, but I’m saying it’s the easiest way for a woman to make money without having to do much of anything. So a lot of them would not do that. Personally, that’s cool with me, I’m a fan of making sure that I don’t give women the world as far as money and effort until we are settled down and understand what we both want and need and get into an arrangement of marriage. That’s when you truly see what a woman is there for.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Now we wonder why some guys cheat in relationships & with all honesty when it comes to some people if your not getting sex in a relationship it probably means you are getting it outside of a relationship.

What happens if the sex sucks or you aren’t getting enough after marriage?

Do you buy a car before you test drive it? Of course not!

Guys Sign Prenuptial Agreements If You Have To Wait.

SeriouslyFunny00 · Answer

Waiting seems like a nice thing to do, but sadly it's not for me.. I have to know if we're sexually compatible. People nowadays have different wants in sex, it is much different now that they have access to porn than before. We'll never know if they have a weird fetish or something.

Hulk_kitty · Answer

No marriage should not be a good indicate to wait for sex. But however people in generally should wait a good a while before having sex, not on the first few dates or one night stands.

I only have sex with a girl once I feel really comfortable with her, not on the first few dates.

Apple1996 · Answer

Nah its better for a couple to know that they are sexually compatible together before marriage.

Also I had sex with my husband before we even got serious dating and we are still together now after 10 years so waiting till marriage would have just been pointless

Anonymous · Answer

You're right. There is nothing wrong with making them wait.

On that same token If the person making the other person wait has also had a ton of sexual partners it's hypocritical to make them wait...

Statistically, women who have had beyond 2 sexual partners before marriage has resumed their chance of a successful marriage by 50%. The greater number of sexual partners the worse their chances become, for example at 10 sexual partners, that percentage drops to just 12%. I know I'm going to get some hate on this but the stats don't lie, women that wait to marriage to have sex have a greater chance of successful marriage than those that have multiple sex partners before marriage.

The same is not true for men though. Reason being is Men and women view sex differently..

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I think making a guy wait for sex is a good thing. I know most people would not wait till they're married, but at least make him wait long enough in a relationship to be sure his intentions are good.

I think it would filter-out a lot of the scumbags, just looking to get in her pants.

Those types of guys typically have little to no patience/long game.

Poppymarie · Answer

I wanted to wait, but I when I actually lost my virginity I realized that I had so many unhealthy views about sex that it would have just been traumatic if I had waited. No hate to those who did wait, it just wasn’t right for me. And I did find a man who loves me and is marrying me.

Lionman95 · Answer

I'd say yes if it's their interest or at least a group of you should raise a voice for it. Because from a guy's point it often seems like a small minority of women that don't like the modern hookup culture. It's sometimes seems like woman are more into that than guys.
I would therefore say yes go for it and make it a boundary or a limit. If you don't want to and test out sex go for that, too. But don't try to date that people that are the opposite concerning sex since that won't work.

Berethor · Answer

It's a good idea if the woman is a virgin, I don't think that a non-virgin is worth the waiting.

Friendlybro79 · Answer

I'm not saying people shouldn't do this if it's right for you... but you're saying you don't see a good reason to have sex before marriage? Lol. Come on. The good reason is the sex lol. But that's me just poking fun... I can understand why someone does and doesn't wait.

Smashingdoozy · Answer

No why should I let a religion I don't believe in dictate my life?

DevikaButts95 · Answer

I would never wait for marriage, you have no idea if you're even compatible that way unless you do it before marriage. It would be like marrying someone before you figured out if they even want kids or like anything you like.

art84 · Answer

My dad married in his 20's and got his marriage annulled by the Catholic church. He later met my mom in his 30's and she was in her 20's. They been married for 40 years and been through a lot together especially with my dad's health. Me personally I don't know at my age especially with today's girls unless she was religious and believed in waiting for marriage to have sex.

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

Until the spiritual delusion of sex as a right is eradicated from civilization, there will always be impatient men and women alike. That means that men need to believe in the cause equally, or the effort will always be half-baked.

AmyHew1tt · Answer

It's everyone's choice, but I definitely wouldn't. I'd want to make sure we're sexually compatible before spending the rest of our lives together.

VikingWarLord · Answer

I know many who waited and now they're divorced.

It doesn't automatically work like that.

Look up what happened between Jessica Simpson (who was a virgin) and that Nick dude. She saw his D was too small and she divorced him

Anemone978 · Answer

I think it is a good idea but not very likely.. I had sex before marriage but he always told me he wanted to marry me and we did a year later..

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

Luckily I've mastered the art of seduction, so I've never had that problem with girls. Even the ones who swear they're not the type of girl who gives it up right away. Ha! We'll see about that... 😈

lightbulb27 · Answer

yes, that chance the world.  have to make sure of compatability sexually and such, how you do that without don't know. at minimum... get a ring.

HighValue · Answer

Only if the women wait too and are virgins at marriage. People just need to not be hypocritical and only have the same level of expectations of others as they live up to themselves.

richardcory · Answer

What if you wait for marriage and then discover you are not compatible in bed?

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

I'll surely wait for sex till marriage cause i believe that there should be no sex before getting married...

slatyb · Answer

You got lucky. Waiting is a good way to end up in an incompatible marriage.

BCRanger10 · Answer

I am a firm advocate of waiting until marriage to have sex. I have yet to hear a single good reason to the contrary.

Nikki1989 · Answer

No, you are setting yourself up for severe disappointment if you do that.

baseball_del_tuono · Answer

You have an amazing src life because you’re ridiculously hot for your age or any age if you were a 5 your husband wouldn’t nearly be as horny for you as he is with you being a 9.5

LovingJo · Answer

No. Plus I wouldn't wait until marriage anyway. You don't buy a car, without test driving it first...

Anonymous · Answer

you got married at 19, you hardly waited for anything... like.. come on. that's extremely young. what waiting did you do?

LiamJHayden · Answer

Perhaps, but there is no realistic way that you will get a consensus, and the percentage who will not go along, at least 50%, will make your proposal unviable.

Unit1 · Answer

*whistle high to low* THAT would make prostitutes and transgirls prostitutes rich enough to drive Ferraris.

Grond21 · Answer

I think men and women should both equally hold the standard that waiting for marriage is best.

Christoff92 · Answer

Yes. Why not 😁

jamesgoldman · Answer

Sounds like a recipe for a lot of divorces, which is good for business so I say go ahead

Greenbean27 · Answer

No this will create men and women that get married just to have sex. That would create a ton of divorce.

clampfan101 · Answer

Absolutely. Waiting for marriage makes so much sense. I know I’m waiting.

TallAnon · Answer

The fun part is that many women don't want this themselves.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not waiting for shit. The average girl wants for an emotional connection. That's why if you do talk about sex early on it has to be in a joking way that builds rapport.

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

They honestly should. It would be so much better for the rest of society if more women waited

DermalPunch · Answer

Yes. Yes. Yes.

Iron_Man · Answer

Yes they should do that

YaseminSirketikli · Answer

well its their choice

Guardian45 · Answer

That worked for you. It wouldn't work for me.

Miraçaydn · Answer

why would they do such a thing

dinojames22 · Answer

Most woman can't wait that long

soe11 · Answer

Agree

HaveNoName · Answer

Much Respect !!

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah.

Amur8711 · Answer

I agree!

Anonymous · Answer

Absolutely

Anonymous · Answer

Of course

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