If a woman loves a man, the word "Marriage" will never leave their lips. True or False?

[Anonymous]

It feels more and more these days that if you get married as a man you are essentially signing away your freedom. I know a lot of people will argue its a case by case basis, but to me it sounds more like it's determined by how benevolent the woman of the house is.

I have even asked around to everybody who is pro-marriage if there is any objective benefit to marriage, and the only thing anybody could tell me was "Tax benefits" That's it. Everything else is just sentimental nonsense. There is nothing you could do in marriage that you couldn't accomplish by just living together, unless of course you just wanted to make sure they couldn't leave.

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[Vesuvius87]

Well both are giving up their freedom. Before marriage, both can do whatever they want as singles. I can play checkers all day long, travel alone or do other things nonstoppable that I wouldn't able to if I were married with kids. Just a boyfriend/girlfriend is nothing after certain time. If you can keep her as a girlfriend for 5+ years, might as well call her your friends with benefits. After all what difference does it make at that point? You already have a friend with all the benefits of the relationship (talking to them over the phone, saying your ''I love you'', the infatuation stage, all the romantic, sweet stuff) but no commitment, responsibilities nor tolerating their flaws.

By preferring your freedom, you're not giving any commitment at all.

[Vesuvius87]

Lets face it, dating is a trial period (verbal agreement isn't the same as a written vow through the courthouse if you're not religious... because some atheists do get married too) and you can always have your foot out the door any time. Unless there is a child in the picture, there is absolutely NOTHING bonding you with that person.

[Asker]

I agree dating should be treated as a trial period, nothing serious just seeing if something sticks.

[Vesuvius87]

Logic is different from emotions indeed. That's the cold analysis right there (straight to the point without any clouded judgement); it ignores ''oh the wonderful times we've spent together, oh but I'm in love with him, oh you're the love of my life, etc'' and those emotions, which in the end is pointless after a break-up happens, lol.

[Asker]

Unfortunately I've always been more wired to think rationally over things as I found those who let emotions get the better of them are very easy to manipulate. Needless to say this has caused me to butt heads with people on various topics including this.

[Vesuvius87]

Ever since my time got wasted for nothing twice, I've permanently changed. I wish I had that rational mindset from the start, instead of later on.

[Anemone978]

Well for me I personally never wanted to get married but then I just did because he wanted to marry me and his parents really pressured that shit for religious reasons. But I never wanted any of his shit, not even his money. When we first got together he was a pizza delivery guy.. then after 2 kids he is now a manager at land rover.. so he is making good money now. I wouldn't take off him cuz I am not a greedy cunt. So really just make sure you know who you are settling down with.. don't marry dumb bitches lol

[Asker]

You would be amazed at how good people are at faking shit until they get their prize. Happens with gold diggers, happens with playboys, some two faced people these days

[Anemone978]

I don't think they could fake it for years.. just don't rush marriage is all

[Asker]

I guess that would be a red flag rushing to get married after like 3 months or something.

[Anemone978]

Yes or even in a year its suspicious lol

[Summeroflove]

It is a case by case basis. Because you have to marry the right person. The same goes for women.



Yeah in a way you’re giving your freedom away. The Bible says your body isn’t your own anymore and her body isn’t her own so.

[Asker]

Too bad nowadays it seems like its completely one sided. Now a lot of women seem to want it so their body is entirely their own but not give that same credence to men. Like if there's no mutual exchange then what's the point?

[Summeroflove]

Sure some women are one sided and some men are too. You have to find someone who isn’t

Let them either be single forever or find someone that makes them as miserable as they make them…

[Asker]

Easier said then done.

[Summeroflove]

Asker absolutely it takes a lot of prayer to find the right person. As well as being a good person yourself someone like that would want.

It’s hard for good women to find good men too. It’s not a male or female problem just less good people in general

[OracleCassandra]

Marriage is EXTREMELY ancient, and is based in the difficulty of growing, birthing, raising, and taking care of human infants.

You're right - it's kind of a prison sentence for men. Much like how sex has extreme risks and responsibilities for women. It used to be that the two were then exchanged - she offered sex in return for someone to take care of her and her child. In return, she had to be faithful and, well, sexual.

Is that still a good thing? Huge question. I think so, but I'm not horribly sure.

[Asker]

That really seems to be the case, it was something of an unwritten contract between men and women. Men would risk their own wellbeing to provide protection and food among other things, in return the women would offer sex, maintain the homestead and bear the child of the provider.

If one side doesn't wish to keep their end of the bargain, then marriage as a whole loses all of its value.

[Anonymous]

Do the world a favour and NEVER get married. It is obvious you would make a lousy husband.

[Asker]

Sorry I'm not quiet and obedient, mistress. I know that's what a good ATM should be.