What are your criteria for your future husband/wife?

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Who is your dream spouse? What are the characteristics that you see in a person that would make you go "I will marry that person."?

Grond21 · Accepted Answer

These aren't all equally important, and some things would just be nice to have while others are more important. Its also not exhaustive.

Emotional: Emotionally mature. Aware of her emotions. Values her emotions, but is not ruled by them. Able to engage with her emotions and know what they are telling her. Able to connect with others emotionally and understand them.

Physical: Long curly black hair. Dark brown eyes. Fine features. Darker skin, or at least the ability to tan. Athletic. Slender. Busty. Clear waist to hip ratio. Curved hard tight bum. Strong but small feet. And most importantly, a smile that lights up her face.

Spiritual: A practicing Roman Catholic. She loves God more than me. Wants to raise our children to be good and holy people. Has an active prayer life, and a devotion to a particular saint.

Political: Conservative, yet with an open mind.
Able to debate and understand political arguments and trends. Likes the socio-political trends. Understands the deep ideologies behind what's moving the culture in the world.

Relational: Empathetic. Seeks a very deep level of connection. Respectful. Wants the best possible relationship. Values relationships and the work it takes to maintain them. Loves to tease, and is very playful and fun. Likes conversations, and exploring each other's thoughts and minds. Values good communication and high honesty and integrity

Family: Is open to a large family. Likes kids. Wants to be a stay-at-home mom. Wants to homeschool our kids. Is relatively clean and tidy. Wants to work out a system where we support each other well.

Personal: Driven. Oriented towards self-improvement. Likes staying physically and emotionally active. Adventurous. Loves trying new things. Is always learning and growing

Sexual: Committed to a one-person relationship. Ideally a virgin, but not necessary as long as she is willing to wait until marriage. Initiates, and is open to spicing things up. Understands the power of love and connection through sex.

I am lucky enough to be dating a woman that hits almost all of these

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I don't have one besides the obvious. Because 1. I'm not even seeing anyone right now. But, 2. Because you can't put expectations equally on everyone. Everyone is different. If you're not ready to compromise on some things right out of the gate then you shouldn't even be contemplating marriage.

It's best to just keep a short list of non-negotiables. And then compromise as you go. But it's important for each person to know thier boundaries. No healthy relationship can exist without them.

Darkrainbow · Accepted Answer

After reading some answers, I thought that to be more ideal, they should also add "döner" on top of the ideal women they mentioned 😂

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

Loyal, honest, trustworthy, caring, strong willed, supportive, empathetic, family-oriented.

r4nd0mus3r · Answer

good listener similar interests and values intelligent and able to think critically. by intelligent i don't mean a degree at (insert school)  able to separate emotions from facts low body count. doesn't have to be zero but double digits is an immediate no and yes I hold myself to the same standard.  her friends HAVE to be respectable. if all her friends have poor morals and are always going out every weekend either she's already doing it with them, or the friends will try to influence her decisions.  least important but still worth mentioning i have to be at least somewhat attracted to her. she doesn't have to be a supermodel but that physical attraction is important in a relationship.

Berethor · Answer

Virginity, I really rather not marry a non-virgin woman, and there is many reasons for why.

Nick1976G · Answer

She has to be honest, caring, trustworthy, understanding, and there has to be chemistry. A woman that has similar interests so we can do stuff together, but enough difference so we can still be individuals. Attraction is a definite must, but that is in the eye of the beholder... your version of beauty won't necessarily match mine. Just someone I can see myself with as we grow older.

Billlewis · Answer

I want her to be fairly demanding and only let me worship her feet and butt, and make me lick her clean after she's had sex with another guy.

stepyo99 · Answer

My only criteria is that she didn't get the mrna clot shot during the scamdemic. If she was smart enough to avoid that garbage, then she's probably level-headed enough to conform to the other qualities I would want out of a wife.

NathanDavis · Answer

smart, interesting and funny... and of course, willing to... lol

DextroShade · Answer

I am already married, but here are my criteria that she met: Fit Feminine Friendly Cooperative  Submissive  Childless Not a hoe

gothbxtch · Answer

loyal, caring, we love each other, similar political views to mine, wants kids, i find him attractive

Staximus · Answer

This is going to be a long list. My friend said my standards are "higher than a yeti on top of Mount Everest"

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Must be a born again God fearing Christian woman. Must be latina. No addictions. Smart. Honest. Loyal. Trustworthy.

Minahh · Answer

• spiritual • adventurous • submissive in bed • dominant in life • patient  • loyal • courageous • caring  • wise

Anonymous · Answer

Financially educated Intelligent Not liberal Older than me  Sexually dominant if they want anything like that

Anonymous · Answer

Smart Conscientious Aggressive/assertive Funny Supportive Young

Anonymous · Answer

She simply must be submissive and must have a good university degree.

Anonymous · Answer

Good question! I wanna see what they say😌

Kelly6 · Answer

Open minded loyalty trust

LiamJHayden · Answer

One criterium. Loyalty.

dudeinohio · Answer

Compatibility. No arguing.

Luopio27 · Answer

Never gona get married.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

I don't ever see that happening

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