What do you think of a traditional girl as a wife?

[crystalline0909]

Doesn't like hook ups, only gets physical in a vulnerable relationship, doesn't like dancing on social media or tik toks, or posting nasty seductive or exposing pictures. Keeps a small private circle and is not friends with any single male friends, doesn't like clubbing, or dancing in the clubs or concerts, prefers to live in a traditional joint family, have kids, extend her bloodline, loves art, culture, literature, poetry, orchestra, gardening, etc.

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7 mo

Has her goals to earn and be self sufficient enough to provide for her future husband's wishes, very low body count but tongue sharp as a spade. Speaks only truth and truth only, even if it hurts. Very principled, phylosiphical, moral and ethically correct.

[dynamicyandere]

Generally speaking, I believe it’s ideal.


My fiancée pretty much meets 11 of 13:

✅ Doesn't like hook ups.

✅ Only gets physical in a vulnerable relationship.

✅ Doesn't dance on social media.

✅ Doesn’t post seductive or provocative pictures.

✅ Keeps a small private circle and is not friends with any single male friends.

✅ Doesn't go clubbing.

✅ Prefers to live in a traditional joint family.

✅ Loves art (she’s an artist), culture, literature, music, gardening.

❌ Has her goals to earn and be self sufficient enough to provide for her future husband's wishes. (I support us both financially, paying for both our apartments and all her living expenses. However, she does want to start a business together with me in the future.)

✅ Very low body count.

❌ Tongue sharp as a spade. (I’d say she speaks pretty normally, haha. But she’s able to assess different situations critically and we have end up having a lot of deep philosophical conversations over current events.)

✅ Speaks only truth and truth only, even if it hurts. (Pretty much. We have a open-communication policy. We work through things instead of pretending there are no problems if there are actually problems we need to resolve.)

✅ Very principled. Guided by morals, ethics, and values.

[TheSpaceGnome]

"Doesn't like hook ups" = good

"Only gets physical in a vulnerable relationship" = replace vulnerable with commited and its good (perhaps thats what you meant?)

"Doesn't like dancing on social media or tik toks" = good

Or posting nasty seductive or exposing pictures = good but doing that privately with a partner is ok.

"Keeps a small private circle" = good

"And is not friends with any single male friends" = bad, if she's into my hobbies, nearly all her friends would be male.

"Doesn't like clubbing, or dancing in the clubs or concerts" = good

"Prefers to live in a traditional joint family, have kids, extend her bloodline" = bad, I don't want any kids and I'm not a traditionalist.

"Loves art" = good, but she needs to also make art.

"Loves culture" = depends on which culture

"Loves literature" = depends on which literature, science, sci-fi and fantasy are good.

"Loves poetry" = bad.

"Loves orchestra = good

Loves gardening, etc.

Has her goals to earn and be self sufficient enough to provide for her future husband's wishes = good but 50/50 is fine.

"Very low body count" = Low enough is zero.

"But tongue sharp as a spade" I don't know what that means but it sounds painful so bad I guess?

"Speaks only truth and truth only, even if it hurts." = good but even hurtful things can be said nicely, so also bad?

"Very principled" = good if they are the same principles as mine.

"Philosophical" = Grey area.

"Moral and ethically correct" = good if science, logic, safety, anti-censorship, and fun based, bad if religion based.

[crystalline0909]

Sharp as a space means she will say it how it is without any sugar coating. After all the truth Is harsh even when said nicely.

What's wrong with poetry?

She makes art in very many different unbelievable forms.

She has male friends but all are super committed to their partners. She never makes friends with single men. She is paranoid about single men's intentions when not in commitment and only friends because she is afraid of situationship.

She is only committed to people she is vulnerable with.

Her morals and ethics are never religion based. She is spiritual not religious.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Nothing is objectively wrong with poetry, I just don't like it.

That sounds interesting, what kinds of art?

Spiritual is a type of religious.

[crystalline0909]

Anything and everything that comes under art. Interior design to fashion design, architecture. Craft, pottery, sketching, painting, sculpting, sewing, decorating, epoxy resin, everything literally

[TheSpaceGnome]

Thats huge plus,

Though... if she never befriends single men, how is she going to find a husband?

So for example I'd only date a female best friend, dating a stranger is a firm nope, so I'd need a woman to be friends with me for a few years first, or I'll reject her on lack of trust alone.

[crystalline0909]

True... other men might refer to her as their friend but she keeps her circle limited and only refers to committed men as her friend. Not the single ones. It is the nature of man... no single man is just friends with a girl or initiates conversation with the intention of remaining friends only, in the majority. Ofc there could be exceptions but i haven't seen one.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I dunno where you heard that nonsense, but I've had plenty of women I was just friends with, and it's very rare that I'd even want to be in a relationship with one of them, most women aren't my type.

You saw my requirements on your other question, the number of women who meet that criteria are very few, and of those few, only some of them are what I'd consider physically attractive.

Its so rare that some women who don't meet that criteria tend to get angry that I'm not even considering them, and they retaliate by making the absurd claim that what I'm looking for doesn't exist (despite me having seen it in single women from other countries, or here but she's taken, so yes, these types of women exist).

Its much more likely that she would be nothing but a friend, even if she's physically attractive, and I won't know if I even want more from her until about 3 years into the friendship, because a wife has to be my best friend that I do everything with and have everything in common with (short of sexual preferences anyway).

[DaveJord]

Where do you find single 40 plus year old traditional woman at? Just tell me where, and I am there!

[Giddyup]

Their married, hence the traditional. If your single and 47, I'm guessing you want to have a fun girl.

[crystalline0909]

🤣🤣

[DaveJord]

😆 🤣 So true... by my age all good ones are married. I said that 100 times myself.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I think it depends on what kind of person you are.

I'm approaching my 40s and still single and a virgin, but to me most of the good women my age are also single and virgins, simply because they are glued to a screen at home all day and are stuck meeting no one just like me lol.

[CalmUntilAbused]

I mean... Any body count higher than 0 is too high for a perfectly traditional girl (though I guess finding a girl with the body count being zero is an extremely tough order these days, as people are weak and even an angelic girl might have been led astray at least once).

Dancing in concerts is fine, as long as they are rock or metal concerts, as these genres usually signal a more mature and solemn attitude (unless the music is something like TNT or Thunderstruck by AC/DC - I love these pieces, but I am more than aware of the negative moral value of the lyrics) and the dancing itself is most likely perfectly fine, with no sexual implications.

Also, I'd find it troubling if She was aiming at self-sufficiency. I mean, I would be prone to feeling useless in such a relationship, You know. I'm perfectly ready to provide for a woman as long as she fits all the other requirements and the economic landscape is free of any imminent and potentially deadly threats.

[Giddyup]

Nearly everything you say sounds great... I think there are many men that agree as I do. Much of what you mention are things I would say about myself as far as sex, social media, family and friends.

With that said, I'm a guy that likes to let lose some too, not in breaking from my morals, but I like to hit a dance club and get down. I take a lot of solo cruises, never hookup, etc... but even solo, I am always at the night club letting lose on the dance floor. I still like to have fun.

[colaman94]

👀👀 for me it's alternative lifestyle that, I don't mind a wife or girlfriend someday, unless she and I disagree on: I don't want offspring. That's a deal-breaker as much as features or qualities I'd like in a woman. I don't settle for less 🫠🥳 so I for one can afford to be picky me 😁 and I use socials, a modern man. I don't know if I'd like a woman who's not, playful (light hearted) and embraces modern living (tech, trends and a breathe easy lifestyle). ✌🏻👀☮️👌🏻

[colaman94]

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[colaman94]

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[crystalline0909]

Playfulness, and application of modern tech has nothing to do with traditional lifestyle. You can have boundaries, respect for privacy, some rules and principles and still be playful and fun. It's more like instead of being a whore i prefer to be the one. Instead of being with everyone.

[colaman94]

Hmm I suppose put it this way. I have gone on a long journey throughout my 20s and I used to be a prude or coffee snob man. And I for one now and especially between ages 26 to now 29, here's another aspect: I love smartphones, and if I my date woman or my girlfriend didn't share "my thoughts" about being open to, for fun and faceless, having a light hearted open to recording lovemaking or even for publication online for just fun, or being left wing politically or being easy-going and light hearted with life and groovy man groovy ☮️👀☮️😋😈 like my taste in emoji's, then I'd think she's too much like "old stuck up me" and I like the current me so much better at 29 versus 20 year old me even. How I've grown 🤔🙂 and wiser every year. And older 😆

[RavVid]

I think that is the type of girl we would consider wife'ing. :)

[crystalline0909]

I need to talk to you. If you'll add me. Don't worry, I'm not talking about marrying me

[RavVid]

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[genericname85]

i think there's nothing wrong with "liking" hookups cause that means you're having a good sex drive. actually having hookups is bad, cause that means you're low quality in character. i think it's fine to have social media as long as you're not uploading 100 revealing selfis every day. the rest is completely ok.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I don't consider those things you mentioned traditional, just personal preference and those are fine at least to me.

Traditional women are more like hold themselves to the standards of society and what is dictate to them and that ish I don't like because it these type of women don't have a mind of their own.

[crystalline0909]

This traditional woman has her goals. To stand on her own feet, be self sufficient not dependent. Question is updated

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Your personal definition of traditional women differs from the standard of traditional women.

When you say traditional women, most are going to assume the following

You stay at home 24/7 to cook and clean, wash clothes and serve your husband and small kids around the clock.

You dress like a nun and you don't question your role that society has placed on you. That's a traditional woman.

[crystalline0909]

Traditional women in this age is more so defined as her practicing a traditional form of relationship and not the current age trend. Being cultured, learned and sophisticated instead of being unmannered, casual, leaning towards the delusion of a fun goal-less lifestyle.
For her, the respect of her man, his feelings and efforts matter to be recognised and reciprocated how a division masculine and feminine are supposed to do from the beginning of the human life as it is meant by the law of nature and not by the law of society.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

What laws of nature are you talking about?

[Flatmanlewis]

Personally, I like it. Especially the aesthetic of the trad-wife culture. My wife has a perfect blend of traditional and modern woman. I like it.

[Anonymous]

I saw nothing mentioned about God / Jesus Christ. Without that, nothing else mentioned matters...

[CalmUntilAbused]

Oh, that can be arranged for, I guess. If She's philosophical and morally correct, She can definitely be persuaded to become a Christian if She isn't a Christian already.

[Unit1]

I don't want kids and i don't want to feel like my purpose is being someone's personal ATM.

All else is fine by me.

[crystalline0909]

Read the whole details. She is financially independent enough to even provide for her husband

[Unit1]

"Traditional" is universally connotated with the man being the ATM. Your description deviates from it. I have not missed it.