Yo, that's a fucked up thing to do to the kids, man. Like yeah the dude cheated and that's wack but taking the kids away from their dad is too far.
Those kids gonna be super hurt losing their pops like that, you know? They didn't do nothing wrong. Plus the little kids probably real close with their dad.
It's selfish as hell for her to make the kids pay for what he did to her. She should be thinking bout what's best for them. And keeping the dad in their life as long as he treats the kids good is what's best.
I mean, talk about messing up those little ones for life. Give them trauma and daddy issues. All cause she can't get over herself. Like damn, co-parent and move on lady.
If it was me, I wouldn't sign no contract over shit like that. You never know what happens in a relationship. She bugging to try take his kids like that if he screws up. That's just wrong.
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She sounds selfish as well as I’m immature. Regardless of what happens that’s between them,. The kids, even though the father would be a POS for cheating, shouldn’t suffer. Especially if he’s a good father. Well too when I think about it, w that type of attitude shit I wouldn’t blame him for cheating. So maybe if he did cheat it had to do w her as well as far as her attitude, maybe she’s changed since they got married. So I won’t blame the man completely if he did cheat based on what she said she’d do if he cheated.
I believe if a person mistreats another they should give compensation but I think the compensation should be financial and not domestic. I know a guy that cheated and he was not jailed or publicly shamed, but he had to relinquish his joint portion in all their marital assets and donate all his life savings to his wife, but I believe it’s because the cheating had existed over 2 decades in their marriage and was not a singular event.
If it's in the marriage contract and he breaches it, then there should definitely be consequences. But the relationship he has with his kids is different than his relationship with his wife, so he should still get joint custody in the divorce.
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And what if she cheats on her husband? She then willingly gives up her kids to her husband and never sees them again?
This is wrong on so many points.
That’s not up to her. It’s up to the courts.
any man who would sign that is a bigger idiot then the one who thought it up, tbh. kids should never be used as pawns no matter your relationship with the father, or ex
Not sure what laws she thinks apply to her, but no parent is legally entitled to "take" their kids away from their mother/father without proper custody. If she gained custody, it would be because the boyfriend was a deadbeat or irresponsible, and no court would rule "cheating" a valid reason.
It shouldn't be up to her at all.
Custody should be default 50/50 with no child support payments.
Unless it is legally proven a parent is a threat to the child the child should automatically be with each parent equally.
You act as if it is up to you. Like they are YOUR kids and they aren't HIS kids. F that.
I don't blame her. Can't let a man that cheats be a father. What will happen is that the kids will see that and follow in his footsteps because they think it has no consequences. Better to punish him and raise those kids right
That is wrong. He is still their father. He does not get off the hook on this because his kids will know that he cheated on their mother and the relationship will never be the same but kids still need to have a father in their life.
Parts of that, signed or otherwise, aren't legally enforceable because the rights of the child, though limited, are impacted despite being non-signatories.
But I agree with @shesrad80 that the guy's an idiot.
Marriage contracts rarely last that long in divorce court. Prenups are for material goods. Judge thinks of what’s best for children when deciding custody and visitation.
Unfort women do have the advantage here. But deadbeat (and cheating) dads aren’t helping the situation. The judge shouldn’t be swayed by that shit, just by the evidence in court. But they’re human…She isn't thinking clearly. When she leaves, she's a single mom, i. e. she just disqualified herself from a relationship with half of men. Considering 80% of men she wasn't interested in the first place and then20% left are probably the top guys who can choose to be picky, they are likely apart of the half of men who disqualified her.
Good luck:)No, it's not and even if it's in their marriage contract, it's likely unenforceable because the children have a right to see their father.
What kind of marriage contract has this clause? Is this in the prenup or did he promise in the vows “for better or for worse…or else you’ll take away my kids”? Unless she has the same clause if she cheats, this is doomed.
She can't do that firstly and secondly she sounds like horrible bitch. Whatever happens between adults should never make kids suffer. naturally they miss and want to see there dad.
Well, if he signed the contract he's just as much to blame as she is. Both are chumps.
Sadly kids are used as pawns in a lot of situations by both parents.
It ends up hurting the kids more than anything.Interesting predicament…I mean he should not cheat nor should she take away his kids but her revenge is worse than the crime in my opinion (even tho the crime is really bad)
"It’s in her marriage contract."
Doubtful, and even if true it is an unenforceable clause that violates public policy.I agree it's a very selfish and bitter thing to do because it's obviously not what is best for the children and she would be doing it out of anger, not logic.
That's not uncommon woman are painfully insecure and like to use kids as leverage
She’ll suffer for it when the time comes. Let find out on her own
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