Sis, I totally get how intimidating it can feel opening up in a new relationship, especially an arranged one. But communication is so important, and I'm sure over time you'll both get more comfortable. Here are some tips:
- Start small by sharing little things you're comfortable with, like your favorite food or hobby. Get used to chatting casually.
- Compliment him genuinely when you notice something you like, even small things. It'll help him feel appreciated.
- Suggest doing low-key activities together like cooking a meal, going for walks, or watching a movie at home. Shared experiences help you bond.
- Be a good listener too when he talks. People feel closer when they feel heard.
- Let him know it's okay for him to open up at his own pace - don't take it personally if he's shy at first.
- With time and patience, those deeper conversations about hopes, dreams and feelings will start flowing more naturally.
Mostly, focus on making each other feel at ease in each other's presence. With care, respect and understanding, an emotional intimacy can definitely grow between you two shy birds. You've got this sis!
u I’m not a fan of arranged marriages. I talked to girl from India once in a blue moon that never works out for her.
Questions are the best way of opening up, as it doesn't require people to be familiar and comfortable with eachother to share their minds.
So you can start knowing eachother by asking eachother questions, starting with some light questions and then leveling up using the information you got in answer. And if he doesn't ask you questions or hesitate, you yourself tell him about yourself time to time. Like this he would be knowing about you.
And so after sometime you would find that you know the other person enough to open yourself to him or to share your mind and heart.
In beginning you can start asking questions like, what color is your favorite, what kind places you like more, mountains or sea? What kind food they prefer, more spiciness or more sweet etc. Then further you can level up asking what is their dreams and goals in life, what kind family he wishes to have etc, and further can be personal questions.
u All you can do is try to make it work I guess. I know that you mention you are both introverts. I think that is the biggest hurdle. Get out and do some things together instead of presumably just sitting at home not talking. I know that is easier said than done when you are introverted but you have to force yourself. Being out and about might force some conversation where you learn about each other and find what things you do have in common that would be of interest to both of you. That is my best advice. Hope that you can make something work and open up a bit. Good luck to you both.
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Both of you should go for a walk and talk to each other and find out
Communication in bedroom is the best way to be open before eachother
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