When you’re no longer happy in your marriage, who do you share your issues, concerns, and worries with beside your spouse?

[TheLovelyWoman]

My husband and I discussed our marriage issues many times. We had tried marriage counseling nothing work.

[Summeroflove]

I think marriage counseling it’s a dangerous road because what may start as genuine venting can turn into degrading very fast.

If nothing else is working in my opinion if you’re married unless there is abuse, adulatory, or something or that level. You should stick it out to the end that’s the vows you made to each other even during the worst of times.

Based off past questions though it does seem like there is at minimum emotional cheating. If at the end of the day you’re just not happy divorce. Maybe you both need to find someone who will be a better fit for you both.

[TheLovelyWoman]

It is easier to say than done when my husband and my ex are friend.

[Summeroflove]

It’s easier said then done but doing the right thing even when it’s hard will say a lot more about you then taking the cowards way.

Whcih is sneaking around and lying. That’s only going to hurt not only you but everyone including your husband and ex. If you don’t care….. then it says you need to be evaluated for some type of anti social personality disorder

[CuriousHubby]

Well we both tried advice sites and she found hers and I had friends to talk with. It was going south bad till we both decided we wanted to be together and to work... Work on dating each other again.

Think this site helped her till she left and recently I was curious about trying it.

Having a vent is a huge help. Anger builds and well even friends it's hard to open up and vent everything.

If you need I'd be happy to listen. I know my wife would be happy I'm helping even if it's just hearing about how he can't even take out the trash!

Ours was working on loving dating and working on things not just the issues driving us crazy.

Talking when your less mad and frustrated helps. So easy to run in a circle together.

[TheLovelyWoman]

I feel like so empty in this marriage like nothing to look forward to, like a dead end, can’t really see the light at the end of the tunnel.

[CuriousHubby]

It's so hard even having a light! Constantly together forced and the constant lift just walking on!

What light would you like? What would brighten your day?

What do you feel might help to e you something to look forward to tomorrow?

No wrong answers even if you say that you don't know

[TheLovelyWoman]

I don’t know. Something that create a spark between him and I. Something that makes me want to be with him, make me can’t wait to see him, something that makes me can’t wait to be in bed with him. Something that gives me meaning, but right now it is just dead, empty, and loneliness.

[CuriousHubby]

That sounds great and it's a need we all have! What made you so excited in the past? What gave you that spark? Right now if you were face to face with him... What would you directly ask for him to do!
Or wish he would do without you asking?

This was hard for us also!

[CuriousHubby]

Your doing great and is is such a hard thing keeping that going and finding it again.

[LadyKitty]

You either Divorce or stick it out trying to work on your problems. Your choice!

[DannyUk2017]

That's why i love being from Europe, In our country is Not such a thing "marriage counceling" bs... Is Finished, Is Finished... No turning Back, no more "licking ass" if that "ass become stinky"... You don't Love me, i don't love you anymore... so is... Done! We part ways! Simple as that... if the "flame" has flamed out, then That Is It, you go left, i go right... and Good luck... This "trying to work out" It Will Not Work! It will only "force us" to get back in to the TOXICITY, nothing else... No one can "rekindle" the fire that has been put out by "toxicity water", is in our brains, souls... so yeah! We just try after that to just..."catch the next train" before are "all gone"...🤷‍♂️

[nolabels]

After 30 years of abuse by my wife, I've finally opened up to a couple of my siblings about it.

I wouldn't have but for us having had many recent traumatic events in my own family's lives.

Letting my siblings know about it doesn't fix it but sharing a burden with a loved one can sometimes relieve a bit of stress.

[jahaims]

No one. Your marriage is in-between 2 people not 3 . If it doesn't work, you divorce.

[MasterKS]

That is why some secret friends need to be there to share everything!

[MasterKS]

@TheLovelyWoman Some of my friends share so much with me, if i reveal it, it would be big bang! LOL!

[Anonymous]

The most common answer for today's women is a divorce attorney.

[EnjoytheDay777]

My therapist