Is proposing in public romantic or just unnecessary pressure?

[Anonymous]

[Miristheiss]

Irrelevant. Marriage in the west in the last 60 years has become a JOKE.

Who gives a shit about all of this stupid pageantry and corny stunts.

Marriage used to be about the actual LIFE TOGETHER. It was a joyous occasion but those going in were often committed for the long haul and they both knew there was work and duties and responsibilities tied to it.

Then some famous royal people got married and people wanted the grand ceremony for themselves. Huge events, expensive dresses and decorations, expensive rings, outlandish proposals, now you've got destination parties... insane amounts of money... all so 50% will choose to divorce in 7 years because they got bored, fell out of "love", started fancying someone else that they had no business hanging out with so much.

People are obsessed with all the pageantry and expect to just feel love and romance and excitement and fun all the time and as soon as they don't feel it, there vows don't mean shit, it was all just a sham.

Who gives a shit about the stupid proposal.

[Finchie40]

Unnecessary, a proposal should just be the 2 of you and no one else around , I thing a wedding ceremony should be the same way , then the 2 of you go on a romantic honeymoon , then when you come back throw a big reception party and let everyone know you are now married

[7Phoenix7]

Hmmm that's a great question...

Honestly I feel like it just depends on the couple and their personalities. Some people would love to share that moment with others around...

And then some people prefer a more private and intimate thing.

For me it was private, up high on a mountain 🩷

[PBandJ_Nerd]

It could cause unintentional pressure if other people in public are around & watching the proposal, especially if the one being proposed to is unsure how to answer. I'd say just make sure very few people are around if you propose in a public area.

[Agape93]

Unnecessary. Everyone around is wanting to see you say yes, and that peer pressure might sway her away from no. Personally speaking if anyone did that to me, I'd embarrass the fuck outta you for it. Just one simple "dude I'm you're sister" will suffice. @Ez-Bri-Z_v2

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Oooh, nice try, but I think that would only encourage the crowds in the deep red states.

[Agape93]

Oh god true. Then for them "um dude, not until you stop wanting triple income taxes on blue collar jobs"

[MannMitAntworten]

Funny thing is, the deepest blue state is rank 9th place as of this year for being the most inbred state. California. Here is the kicker, Alabama being first at 0.3% being inbred whilst California is holding 9th place at 0.2%. The margin is so thin between first and ninth place. Still, California with the largest population (roughly 40 million) in the Union with its percentage just under Alabama with its significantly smaller population of roughly 5.2 million … think about it. That is California’s 80,000 number of inbred versus Alabama’s 15,600 number of inbred. That’s a lot of banjo playing going on in California … our by far deepest blue state in the Union. This isn’t a purely red phenomenon. By the way, number 10 was another blue state also at 0.2%. Colorado.

[Agape93]

Why am I not surprised with California xD

[MannMitAntworten]

It’s the banjos … it riles them up!

[Agape93]

Lmao xD

[Agape93]

Even Appalachia is like... ew no

[alice55]

Depend on the person, if a guy propose to a girl that get easily overwhelmed then it's gonna be pressure her to say yes (at least on the moment).

While if she's self confident it would be ok without pressure. It really depends on the personality of the person that get proposed to.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Unnecessary pressure for sure. It's the ultimate way of feeding one's ego when trying to say "nobody is more romantic than I am... so let's do something that's been overdone a million times and embarass my partner into saying yes."

[Dongie]

Really?

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Really.

[Dongie]

Umm, I thought it was liked.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Well, guys like it because they get to show off in a way. For women, though, it's flattering to some, but to others, it's pressure to say yes. They may not be ready yet but don't want to hurt their boyfriends feelings or embarrass them in public.

[Dongie]

True this.

[Dongie]

This question reminds me of one I saw a few weeks ago where the guy was turned down, and then she added to his embarrassment by telling him it was because he had a little wee-wee.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Oof, yeah, definitely not something you'd want shared publicly i think

[Dongie]

He probably still has not emerged from his hide-out. It was all over the internet. Millions of views. Poor kid.

[bddddd]

Which goes to my point that I think most couples talk about it before formalising it.

[beenherebefore]

I think this is such an intimate moment that should be lived by the two people involved only. Recently I randomly witnessed a guy proposing to his girlfriend in a restaurant at a shopping mall full of random strangers and while my initial reaction was surprise and felt genuinely happy for them I also thought it was a bit cringe like couldn't you wait until you got home LOL.

[Shiprex]

I did it and it worked. I got my whole team involved in it too. The spectators thought it was nice as did my now wife and she did an even more obscene move by planning a surprise marriage without telling me, but that's another story.

[AMS700CX4u2]

I think the concept was one of numbers, Public proposals meant a lot of people heard you proclaim your undying love. Made it harder to back out of I think. I don't know.

[bddddd]

I proposed to my wife in the ruins of Glastonbury Abbey. We had already talked about marrying, so it was a formality but a nice formality. She liked it too.

I think that is normal? You talk about it before you formalise it.

[bddddd]

I did get grass stains on my knees. Occupational hazard, I guess.

[KostasKouvalis]

Yeah, the second one. I find it a little cringe to be honest. Like why can't I casually just say in conversation, "Would you like to get married?" or something along those lines.

Certainly doesn't need to be public

[Nonamez]

It is absolutely personal choice of individual, I think it is nice and romantic, no pressure should be put on any proposing of any side 🧘

[Nikki1989]

I was proposed to on a stage in a crowded restaurant in front of about 100 people, and it was perfect.

[NordicInScandinavia]

Depends on the indivual.

Had my partner asked me publicly it would've been a no.

[QuestionObsession]

It is cool if you are not making a show out of it. The going down on 1 knee in public is fucking lame. As long as you are not looking for an audience, propose anywhere in public all you want.

[Dongie]

Uh, the knee shit is necessary. Whether in public or private. Tradition!

[QuestionObsession]

Fuck No. Because - fuck tradition.

[Dongie]

You heard me!

[Sachem]

Such public displays are absolute nonsense. Dumbest idea anywhere.

[DCVsMarvel]

As a guy who doesn't want marriage, I wouldn't know however, my guess would be that it's unnecessary, seeing as how the whole world doesn't need to know you're "getting married"

[LiamJHayden]

It can be wonderful or disastrous depending upon the couple and the response.

[Dongie]

It's showing off. Being proud of the one you've chosen. That makes it romantic. 🤓

[BonnieMoonclair]

To me unnecessary pressure, it's like u are pressing the girl to say u yes in front of everyone

[Eempriyanka]

I don't think marriage is good. It shouldn't exist in my opinion

[rebelkid]

There is no pressure as long as you know for an absolute FACT that he or she will say YESSSS.

[Anonymous]

It can be romantic if the setting is so if not its just clinge and overdone

[TheSpaceGnome]

Unnecessary pressure.

[AndrésC64]

It's more stupid attention seeking.

[Staximus]

I think I'd rather propose in private

[kaucky1]

Just unnecessary pressure

[Anonymous]

I think it can actually be romantic.

[Manuelwe]

Both. Easier to get a yes than no answer

[chocolatetwopointo]

unnecessary pressure for sure

[serious]

It is romantic

[eliegia]

it’s WAY too much pressure

[eclipstics]

Depends on person to person, i prefer private.

[DrPepper12]

Both

[jahaims]

It's for attention

[Charliefretz329]

I think so for sure

[beefcakebradybatson]

BOTH !!!

[Kelly6]

Useless

[Dongie]

Awe, Kell.

[Dongie]

I can relate to your avatar. 😇

[EmmiL]

Unnecessary