I Don’t Know If I Like Being Married Anymore?

[Anonymous]

Lately, I’ve been feeling really off in my marriage. I don’t even know if I like being married anymore, and that’s hard to say. I feel like something shifted after our second child. I’ve been holding everything together kids, work, home, trying to still feel like myself but emotionally, I feel alone. I want to feel loved, desired, appreciated… but it’s like I have to ask for it, and that just makes it feel less genuine.

There have also been trust issues that cut deep. After our second baby, I found out my husband was looking up escorts some even in Panama, where my family is from. What hurt even more was the timing: I saw he was looking them up around the time my mom passed away in January 2024. Then in May, while I was pregnant, he took a solo trip down there. He said he didn’t do anything and was “just curious,” but that didn’t make the pain go away.

He told me looking up escorts made him feel nasty… but then he went on a dating website and looked up Panamanians. I keep asking myself why Panama? Is it just some fantasy to him now? It feels so twisted considering that’s where my family is from and where he learned about it through me.

I found messages between him and other women and they would just talk about everyday life and he would send gym/food pics and ask chatgpt to translate every single thing. He blamed it on my postpartum moods and wanting attention.

I’m not innocent either. In 2023, my boss messaged me in a flirty way on LinkedIn, and I played along. I didn’t shut it down. I think I was just craving attention. When my husband found the messages, he was hurt. But it showed we were both lost in our own ways.

I love him, but it’s frustrating how we can love each other and still not feel in love. Counseling feels exhausting and awkward. I’m just stuck. It feels like a cycle of not being happy and then happy so what is the point.

Has anyone else felt this? Is this just a low season… or something deeper?

[ohsheeT]

Well you both know things and you know that either one is very happy so to bring back spark why don't you one night come out of the bathroom dressed up like a naughty girl and no matter what he says you answer like he just paid you to get fucked and that's what your going to do . get on top of him straddle his thighs sit down gentle tell him you have been waiting for this for a long time slid your hips forward slowly lifting here and there tell him you can't stop thinking about him in you and tell him all the naughty thing s you want him to do all of your fantasy if you want thing to change them there are so many thing you can do call him by a new Name and has to be that guy get on. line role play with him before you go to bed you can learn a lot when role playing

[NoDecision]

If he loves you, then why is he cheating on you? I see no love in that. Did you by chance gain a lot of weight after you had your children? That is a lot more common than people think. The first thing you should do it seek marriage counseling. But even before that you should have a heart-to-heart conversation with him and ask him if he still loves you. If the answer is no, then you know it is time to move on in your life without him. If he says yes, then ask him what you can do to make your relationship better He may not understand that your children come first, as they should. Tell him you don't feel secure and you feel he doesn't love you anymore. If you don't get good answers then as a last-ditch effort, get marriage counseling. If that also fails, it is time to get a divorce lawyer to make sure you get child support and anything else you need, like alimony if you are not working and are a full-time mom.

[Anonymous]

Leave him if he obviously doesn’t respect you and make home pay child support , I’d also take as much as you can in the divorce since he cheated

[Opinion Owner]

thanks for mho

[chocolatetwopointo]

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