Does anyone regret getting married?

[Akam93]

[RebelinSteel]

Not married so not really fell into that bit of regret or not

[Anonymous]

Yes, lots of regret tbh.

[Messiah89]

Yes i Regret it even though I love the person an want the best for them buy they gotta want that for themselves I thought she was strong minded, but its kinda a front an now I feel as though things are headed in deep water an we are getting ready to go. through a long distance in our relationship an I think. its gonna break us, but I have always tried to. leave but I'm quilted into staying like I will work. I'm not the best husband but I do try to change but I'm just a new better version of myself that is annoying to her now. Maybe I should have been alone I'm to hard on myself an hard on her cause we met she was in a rough place still is but doesn't seem to want to get out of it an do the work to heal.

[midnightmoon05]

This is my second marriage.

I was very hurt/heart broken… family broken when my first marriage ended…no child support and no alimony from him when he makes almost double than me.

still … I picked myself up for the sake of my children and myself… I am happily married again…

one might think… I would be bitter and angry and blame my self/kids… no… I learned and am in a much better place … marriage is good for the heart the souls and our children.
life is good when you make it!

[SolitarySolace]

Marriage means nothing

[midnightmoon05]

@SolitarySolace
Agree with you 💯 when I walked into that court house to fight for my family…I learned the hard way… that there is a thing call no fault marriage… that day I sunk even further…for 2 yrs… I was so sad… they wanted to give me meds… I refused…
Guess what… I am in a much better place than single… alone. Marriage is a piece of paper… but life is good to me… because I give love… and receive love.

[SolitarySolace]

Good for you I have so much love and Al I receive for it is cheated on and falsely accused guess life favors good and bad women over good men and just wants all men to become bad

[midnightmoon05]

@SolitarySolace I will have to disagree with you here…

I have learned my lesson about life… that it is not fair. However…I do live in the past. I don’t allow the bad to dictate my future.

I had the perfect life, family…all that taking away the day I noticed he took out another woman on a date and spent over $300 to the restaurant I wanted to go with him.
Anyway…the past is the past…I had to take care of myself and the kids to accept the unfairness and work on being able to stand up again after being beat down.

The roll model you received isn’t giving you the strength to face the future… I understand that…

You can make the changes… if you want.
We are all here for a short period of time…it’s up to us how to pave our road.

[midnightmoon05]

I do not live in the past … sigh.. how one word changes my idea…

[SolitarySolace]

My road is already paved by God. He knows I shouldn’t bother with a relationship with a woman. Women aren’t worth it. They’ve gone the way of the devil. At least the women in my generation. I live in the past in order to never forget what I went through in order to live a better future for myself.

[midnightmoon05]

@SolitarySolace If you are here…I would give you a long 10 second hug… when was the last time you got a real warm hug?

All I can say is if we don’t learn from our past… it will repeat.
If this is your choice so be it.

I vowed to myself that I will not allow life to beat me down…this however was a 10 years making… that vow was made 10 years ago… when I “woke up” from my misery … that feeling of life is not worth living… all in my past…
Now…I am a happy woman with two amazing kids and my second hubby is graceful to be in our lives.

[midnightmoon05]

Want to know why I married again? After all that?

[SolitarySolace]

From my mother on Easter. I don’t hug women who aren’t in my family. I don’t like being touched.

I could honestly care less why you married. I don’t consider marriage a good thing at all. Which is why I don’t plan to ever get married nor have children. Gotta have sex to have children and I’m asexual and aromantic.

[midnightmoon05]

@SolitarySolace I already shared if this is the life choice you wish to live… that’s all that matters.. I didn’t say…you are happy… therefore I wish I could give you a hug..
I have hug plenty who didn’t wish to be hug… or feared to be closed to… it’s okay… my arm has been extended… the choice is your and the life is for you to live.
I believe I can change and I did. I believe I can make a better life and I did. And that’s what I did.
I am sad…you are one of the many who did not have a good role model…

[SolitarySolace]

I don’t do role models it’s wrong for a Christian to have role models

[midnightmoon05]

@SolitarySolace your plaster should be a good role model for you. My hubby is a Christian ;)
I sometimes attend his church and I support his way of living to serve his god.

[SolitarySolace]

Plaster?

Good for you

[midnightmoon05]

@SolitarySolace
Pastor. 🤦‍♀️

Are you involve in your church?

[SolitarySolace]

I go with my mom sometimes when I visit and I went to a friend’s church once so far. So I wouldn’t say I’m involved in any churches no. I don’t want to be.

[SolitarySolace]

If I were I’d meet people and I’d meet women and I hate women

[midnightmoon05]

@SolitarySolace do you think your mom was a good role model for you?

I can’t say I like a lot of women 😂… I do know there are still a few good ones…

[SolitarySolace]

Honestly I hated my mom growing up. I just walked out of her house one day and didn’t come back till I started college and eventually got my own place. Now I visit sometimes but I can’t stand her for longer than a week.

I’m told there are good ones but my experience they always end up bad. Always. So I don’t trust women unless they’re my mom or sister or nana or aunt. Women are hypocritical bitches full of double standards and extremely condescending

[midnightmoon05]

@SolitarySolace you have picked some bad apples…
Many are like that… some just pure evil!!

Well since you don’t want to be with any… it’s all good.

[SolitarySolace]

You say it as if it’s my fault when all the options are rotten

[midnightmoon05]

@SolitarySolace it has to do with how we pick… based on how we were raised… till we break that pattern.

[SolitarySolace]

I’d rather not break any pattern. I’d rather stay single. Show people they don’t need some pointless relationship to be happy

[midnightmoon05]

@SolitarySolace okay…

[SolitarySolace]

I’ve never been married but I’ve met a lot of men who seem to regret it because they tell me never to get married. Seems those men have been living under the boot of their wives for a long time and are afraid to get a divorce knowing they’ll lose everything they worked so hard for. Doesn’t want the bitch to take it all. So thankfully, sense I don’t plan on ever getting married, I won’t have anything to regret. 🙂

[exitseven]

No, I have been married longer that I haven't been. I do not regret it.

[MaybeTony]

You don’t seem very happy in your marriage lol

[Akam93]

We have our moments. Lol

[MaybeTony]

Fair enough. You think have more good or bad moments at this point?

[Akam93]

Bad moments.

[RHK36]

My marriage failed hard, but no regrets. I don't have any in life because that's pointless. There's no telling that by making different choices it would work for the better or worse.

[rosemilk]

no. also some of the guys responses on this are ridiculous.

[laly520]

not married yet

planning to

planning very carefully for it so I dont regret anything

[SolitarySolace]

You may not regret anything. He will though

[laly520]

@SolitarySolace doubt
u may find this odd but we dont plan on getting a divorce ever UNLESS its a case of cheating
both him n me regard marriage as a lifelong commitment n a sacred bond, it may sound bit complicated but thats how it is for us
the moment we got engaged was the moment we were 100% sure of being able to commit in the way I described above
if u want to mention the unfair law which is indeed unfair I would want to add that it doesn't apply to us n we dont go by its rules
so yes there won't be any regret even if it will end between us

[SolitarySolace]

The moment you got engaged you both were filled with infatuation in the moment. Things are said that are promised but things always change. Marriage is essentially just dating now due to no fault divorce. That will always be an option until it is abolished. Doubt women would allow for the abolishment of no fault divorce though 🤷🏻‍♂️

[laly520]

@SolitarySolace no it wasn't a moment filled with infatuation, it was a decision we made from the very start, a belief we both held before we even got together
not a decision we took while we were drunk on love or hyped
the time we took before getting engaged was used to make sure we r the right ones for each other n to make sure we meant what we believed in, marriage isn't a game or a tool to destroy someone, it is a sacred bond, to acheive peace n build a healthy family
I am sure what I said would sound funny n ridiculous to many who gonna read it as the majority stopped believing in family core values, marriage as whole but it is what it is n we do aim for such type of family to have together
life is too short to waste it cheating on ur spouse or humilating em in court

[SolitarySolace]

Whatever you say… doesn’t change the fact that things change and what you think now won’t be what you think later in life.

[SolitarySolace]

And you can’t honestly tell me you think he won’t change just as easily as you will. Immediately after the marriage things will already begin to go downhill especially for him.

[laly520]

@SolitarySolace I am aware that changes happen but our core values would never change
its big part of who I am

[SolitarySolace]

Doesn’t matter if you’re a traditional woman

[SolitarySolace]

He will feel like he’s doing everything for you and you’ll complain that you’ve been doing more than him and that’ll just escalate until one of you wants a divorce and I’m pretty sure it’ll be you and the divorce will end up messy and you’ll end up taking more than you originally thought you would from him

[laly520]

@SolitarySolace um no, we had this sorted out
I have my part to do n he has his part to do n we have already been trying that for more than a year n its working so smoothly n fine
I am comfortable n happy doing my own part n he is comfortable n happy doing his own part, we both dont feel like we r getting used by other or doing more than the other
not going to lie, we set boundaries when we decided on the tasks, parts for each of us to do without forcing it, we both were totally fine with it n agreed on it wholeheartedly
he knows his reponsibilities well n so do I moreover it isn't anything new to us

[SolitarySolace]

Than why are you so defensive

[SolitarySolace]

And don’t say you’re not being defensive it’s obvious

[laly520]

@SolitarySolace am I?
defensive about what exactly?

[SolitarySolace]

Your marriage, and the future. You’re so sure everything will go exactly the way you planned it. Marriage isn’t perfect. Things never work out. My parents divorced. My grandparents divorced. Multiple aunts and uncles of mine have divorced. Everyone I went to school with has divorced parents. You think somehow you marriage will be any different? Please

[laly520]

@SolitarySolace yes there is no perfect marriage n I get what u tryna say
what u said is valid tho, I have seen lot of marriages fall apart but I have also seen long lasting healthy marriages such as my parents marriage, some of my relatives marriages, few of my friends marriages so its possible for the same to be true for me
n my point is its very possible for me to have a long lasting marriage like them, chances r too high for it to work out

[SolitarySolace]

Why do you think they have “healthy” marriages? Is it because the man believes in “happy wife happy life?” He’s just putting himself under her boot and hoping she doesn’t have reason to antagonize him or leave him. That’s not healthy. That’s fear.

[laly520]

@SolitarySolace no thats not how it is for em n none of those guys including my father would agree or allow his wife, girlfriend to treat him in such toxic way
none of those r under any women's boots
those guys r genuinely happy
for example I dont ever remember my dad, not for once getting disrespected, yelled at or ignored by my mother n vice versa
they had lot of respect n love going on, ig u got the general idea now, a smart gag user like u won't find it hard to understand
she died years ago, he decided not to get married again, he is still by himself, her pic is always in his wallet to look at from time to time, do u think if she ever mistreated him or if he was under her boot he would do so?
fear is destructive to any relationship especially marriage n as soon as its a thing the relationship stops being healthy n soon would end, being victims not lovers

[SolitarySolace]

Good for them that’s not the generation we’re working with today. You can’t honestly think things are still the way they were when your parents met? Please…

[SolitarySolace]

Your dad is smart to stay single. Know why? Women today are just condescending bitches in it for themselves

[laly520]

@SolitarySolace reasons way I was called a regressive person, he was called a stone age guy
we had lot of hate on us n for sure mocked by people who r in the same age group as us
I had a certain someone we knew who called us retarded just because she prefers casual dating n sleeping around etc etc
its with no doubt I feel that we dont belong to this generation but do I care? nope.
if thats how they think it should be then I dont want it at all in my life

[SolitarySolace]

🤷🏻‍♂️ if you say so but I still don’t believe you. Your opinions adapt to the conversation based on who you’re having it with. You’re a very dishonest person in my eyes and it’s sad no one else can see that.

[laly520]

@SolitarySolace u could check my opinions regarding any relationship question
u would notice how I be commenting n expressing the same ideology which I've expressed in this post
its fine if u dont believe me or think of me as a dishonest person cuz u dont have to solitarysolace
whats more important that we were able to have a conversation without using bad names, unlike what happened in past ^^

[SolitarySolace]

I would if my account weren’t constantly frozen

[SolitarySolace]

While you women get away with being misandrists without having accounts frozen

[SolitarySolace]

I reported so many accounts when I got mine back and they didn’t go anywhere

[SolitarySolace]

I even told GAG that they were being misandrists by freezing my accounts but not those women and they immediately gave me my account back

[laly520]

@SolitarySolace so u r mad that they get away with it altho u urself do the same? shouldn't u stop doing it so when u report em u won't be as guilty as em?
I won't mention what I've been seeing u comment n say to other users in here but u gotta rethink about whole topic again
not blaming u, just giving u a friendly suggestion despite u claiming u would have called me bad names if u werent gonna be reported for it

[SolitarySolace]

You seriously didn’t understand something so easy? This is why I don’t have female friends you’re all idiots… let me dumb it down for you…

I say words.
She say words.
I in trouble for those words.
She not in trouble for same words.
She no deal with frozen account.
Double standard.

That dumbed down enough for you?

[SolitarySolace]

And you’re getting married? What does the guy even see in you? Lol

[laly520]

@SolitarySolace I knew well what I said
I keep saying n u know it that I won't reply to u in same manner n imma be a better person than u so
have good day

[SolitarySolace]

Better person than me 🤣 yeah cuz that’s so easy to do being a woman who gets everything handed down to you on a golden platter

[SolitarySolace]

Meanwhile you’re considered a minority what bullshit

[SolitarySolace]

Women deserve no love

[Anonymous]

Yes, my wife wants me to get another wife or girlfriend, and I don't know how I am going to deal with two women without getting a heart attack.

[Akam93]

Have lots of sex it's good for your heart.

[SolitarySolace]

What about those who don’t ever want to have sex? Like asexuals?

[Akam93]

Eat healthy then.

[SolitarySolace]

Then why do asexuals say cake is better than sex? Lol

[SolitarySolace]

Cake isn’t healthy

[Opinion Owner]

@solitarysolace

You can just get a professional cuddler and let her hug you for an hour or something. lack of physical touch is bad for you. Or you can get a massage once in a while or something like that.

Your brain knows it's your hand when you touch yourself, so you need someone else to touch you to get the full benefit from it. But you don't need sex for that though.

[SolitarySolace]

I don’t like physical touch. Makes me uncomfortable

[Metalbarbie]

Why would someone regret it? Not married, not engaged. Just curious into why you think someone would regret it.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes yes, sometimes no. I think the woulda, shoulda, could've is perfectly fine THINKING but talk about it in therapy. If you don't have a counselor, get one. EVERYONE should have one

[Anonymous]

with divorce being at 50%, i would say half the people regret it

[JayBones2469]

With every fiber of my being. I've begged for a divorce every day for 14 years now

[BCRanger10]

I most certainly don't.

[LazerBean]

No, being married is so much fun

[Mangospacho]

I don’t regret it. Some people do, though.

[annabananna]

No regrets