Not at all. And i am 25+ in and going. Not everything ended up the way I had dreamt, but with time, you have to take it as your fate. When you think of what did not turn put according to your wishes, also think about everything that could have been far worse. Besides, once you have kids, and if you manage to bring up the most wonderful lods who grow up to be the most respecting and respectable adults, there is nothing more gratifying in life.
Marriage is effort. Marriage is tolerance. Marriage is give and take. Marriage is responsibility. Most important Marriage is DIFFERENT role for man amd woman. Its that thought of EVERYTHING equal and same that has killed the institution of marriage, besides hookup, easy sex, open fornication, animal culture.
Definitely would not. You only get out of it what you put into it. Most people think that they're going to have the fire and the Sparks like a brand new relationship. But it is more like a bonfire if you don't keep adding fuel to the fire it eventually Burns Out. Keeping your love alive it is maintenance and definitely worth it
I know one guy who regrets getting married, he was 35 years older than me and begged me to be his friend because he had no one to talk to at home since his wife is always angry and controlling. I turned him away cause I was busy and we were not at the same stage in life.
Being married for more than 13 years now (I can't remember the exact year), I'm going to have to say it has slowly destroyed who I was as a person piece by piece. Time has not made her all that better of a person and it has forced me to become a complete dick that basically does not like women anymore on the whole. I could go into a giant laundry list of reasons I feel that way now, but just imagine every negative stereotype of a woman there is slowly coming to light as real... time couldn't hide anything. You're either going to have to become a complete dick that keeps all forms of retardation at bay which is a constant chore, or you're going to get trampled with the constant wants and needs and the unattainable task of making them happy. Note: Please don't hit me with the "not all women" or "I'm/my woman isn't like that" stuff... Yes, I know, and I believe you. Unfortunately in my reality and in my lived experience, none of that happy sappy bullshit became true for me. For me I've finally got to the point where her cheating isn't a constant threat, but only because she's getting old, fat, growing a damn mustache, pees on herself, and she's starting to realize she's been the main problem the entire time... and I'm finally getting remarks from her about how lucky she is to have me. Me... I'm resigned from a sense of living for myself or getting to fulfill any of my own personal dreams.
Marriage is a weird societal thing with all sorts of nuances, which vary greatly depending where you live.
From what I've studied of human history, it's a pretty silly concept that (obviously) didn't exist for the majority of human existence, when early humans were focused on living in smaller groups/tribes & simply protecting themselves & hunting & gathering to be able to literally survive to the next way, which of course also involved biological sexy time amongst these relatively small tribes in order to keep the line moving, so to speak.
Anyway, back on point, marriage eventually came along like lotta other religious customs, and it's now to the point where marriage has moved in front of stuff like personal survival and health and happiness to something we're supposed to aspire to, in order to meet some societal standard, just because it's how things are supposed to work. And yeah, 50/50 chance it lasts, and then of the 50% that "last" how many of those are healthy blissful relationships? Yeah no.
But... it doesn't make marriage meaningless, obviously. There are some folks who can't possible think outside the paradigm of society and who literally *need* to be married or they can't view themselves in a positive light. So yeah, get married!
But in plenty of other cases, don't get married!
The cool thing is each generation ebbs & flows and in my opinion the current younger generation is starting to figure out the marital cycle for what it is.
Not at all. I had girlfriends from the time I was 16. I never wanted kids and was careful not to sign any contracts until I was sure that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with my partner.
I didn't even start thinking about finding a life partner and settling down until I was in my mid-30s. I finally met the right woman when I was 40. She was 37-38 and had never been married but, like me, had a full life to that point. We got married two years later and have been very happy for the last 25+ years. We've built a great life together and have had SO much fun.
@madgoat. She earns a decent steady income. Not as much as I did before I retired. But now my SS and pension are about equal to what she currently earns.
Anyway, our incomes have been combined since we got married.
Yep, sounds like you're living the dream, my friend. With only each other for companionship and money enough to travel and for toys. Most people go the family route. Long term benefits but definitely more complicated and stress. Glad it's worked out for you.
Nope been married for almost 7 years and have no regrets about it. I love my husband more and more everyday that passes by.
I think marriages can go either way. You either love each other more over time or hate eachother more overtime just depends on the couple.
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I've never been married and I never will be. Marriage today is a very bad choice for most men. Half of marriage end in divorce and women file 70% - 80% of them. I have watched as most of the men in my family and circle of friends have gotten married and subsequently divorced. Some of them were due to cheating, and in most of those cases it was the wife who cheated. Some were due to other challenges and the wives were just not committed enough to try to make the marriages work. And in every case the husband was treated unfairly in divorce court and, when children were involved, got nothing more than the infamous token child visitation rights. I honestly don't know why men continue to get married these days. I won't be making that mistake.
No, I have been married for 26 years and I spent today with my wife hanging out by the ocean. we went shopping and had lunch and it really was a nice day.,
Seperated for 6 years and divorced from 2 years, was married for 9 years... I regret it only for one thing, it's because i believed someone who never kept her promises, someone who makes you believe that she has the same views and ideology and in the end turned out to be or changed into a totally different person!
Well that must've been a lousy written article without peer review or empirical data to back it up. Seriously look up the latest research on these differences: Age Social economic upbringing Career Salary differences Religion You'll find some truly fascinating facts
So it’s a mistake if you aren’t ready. But it’s good when you are. Problem is it’s expensive to get married. And not fun if divorce. Good and bad, mostly bad since you can still be married and do the same things but not legally married.
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