My husband and I have been together 16 years. We are still very much in love and still have passionate,energy-draining sex. Needless to say I was shocked,hurt,and felt betrayed when I found a Playboy and Penthouse magazine hidden in an old pair of jeans in his closet. Why does he need to do this when we have always had an awesome relationship,and a wonderful sex life? Now I feel ugly and worthless and don't want to have sex anymore because I feel like he wants me to look like those women,and I don't. I'm so hurt and angry! When I asked him about it,he just said he was just looking and that was it. I don't look at naked men!
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It's nothing against you whatsoever so try to avoid making it all about you. It's merely the male mind at work which was designed by evolution to seek out and look at other women. Men were programmed to want to see and look around in order to find better partners for offspring, although that doesn't happen anymore in society, so he was simply looking at it because he was seeing what else was there.
It was most likely purely for satisfaction and he doesn't even see them as people or anything, just as things to keep his mind interested and primal urges suppresssed. The same way men look at p*rn, do their business, and then stop giving 2 flying sh*ts about the people they looked at.
The reason you don't look at naked men is because you do not have a males mind and are programmed differently, you don't need to look because women are less visual than guys. I'm sure you've had fancies of being with other people. Well guys are visual and seeing other bodies makes it easier.