I'm in my early 20's and I have Asperger Syndrome, never had a girlfriend in my entire life, should I give up? (Page 2)
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The honest answer is: it depends on your level of disability and functioning. I'm of the opinion that only the highest-functioning make it.
Although there are websites, books, and blogs about this topic, they probably won't be enough. As some posters have recommended, professional assistance from someone experienced in ASDs would do you the most good -- if only to come to terms with your disability and its limitations. It's possible to have a satisfying life without romance, but your priorities will have to change.
Good luck!
my case is high-functioning
NEVER GIVE UP! You will meet the right one, It just might take longer for you to find a girl worthy of you and your aspergers. It takes a very special type of girl to match up to you. Cos not all girls are good enough to be with guys with aspergers. it takes a lot of patience and understanding which most girls lack. My guy has it :)
but you don't get it, it's different for me since I'm a guy, I always have to be the one to initiate
No you don't. if a girl likes you enough she will initiate contact with you. no matter how shy or whatever she is herself. You just have to suck it up. However having aspergers you don't get the whole sucking up and grow a pair thing like you can say to most people.
It's different for guys with aspergers. You will find someone I am positive of that. And I know it is frustrating and hard watching other people have gfs.
yeah it's not a matter for me being scared, it's a matter of not knowing how, so are you saying a girl will ask a guy out?
Most definately. I know plenty that ask a guy out. But like I said its all to do with timing and being at the right place at the right time. Have you tried smiling at a girl you like? cos that would hint to her you are interested without any real emotion or effort from you then if she likes you she may say hi or something and you go from there
I have asked girls out before, but I only get rejected
It seems like you just want to complain and complain but you don't want to do anything about it. What do you expect, everyone to tell you that the world is going to change and girls are suddenly going to start asking you out? Maybe all of this complaining and lack of taking any advice is part of Asperger but if you want to really and seriously get a girlfriend you need to seek help from someone who is familiar with Aspergers, instead of just complaining.
Well that's because I have been rejected too many times, I hate how you think all I do is complain and whine that I never do something about it, well for you information, I have done something about it, and I keep taking charge in order to do something about it, but I never get the results I want.
Good, keep taking charge and stop complaining that girls don't ask you out. No amount of complaining about that will change it. A lot of people get rejected over and over before they meet the person they end up in love with. And guess what, Aspie girls don't have it easier. Just because someone starts talking to you first doesn't mean they will keep talking to you if you have trouble with conversation.
Not many people on this site are going to be able to tell you how to have social skills to interest most girls because they would have to understand Asperger's and know what is and is not possible for you to learn. You need to look for advice from websites that do understand your situation and how to work with it.
Why do you think Aspie girls don't have it easier? Duh!!!, all girls have to do is wait and choose, waiting is better than being rejected and getting teased or lead on.
Again, with the complaints. It is so much easier to imagine someone else has no problem and dwell on that than move forward dealing with your own issues. I guess you think guys love to date girls without social skills they cannot talk to. Girls get judged on their social skills to. Guys most definitely can approach a girl and then end up walking away because they don't think she is "cool". Worse, they will have sex with her and then dump her.
Stop whining. I see so many posts on here where people give you good advice and all you do is try to contradict them. What would you rather hear? Do you want people to tell you it is hopeless? Do you want people to tell you to give up? It seems like that is what you want. Maybe it is your negativity that is affecting your ability to meet girls, Stop contradicting everyone who is trying to help you and start saying "yes, maybe that would work".
Yeah well if you were in my situation, you would feel the same way too
No I wouldn't. I know, because I have been in your situation and I listened to people and I took their advice and things are better now. If all you want to be on this site is a total downer that contradicts everyone, well I guess that is your right, but it won't fix anything for you.
Whatever, you can't change my opinion
You are right, I cannot change your opinion. You should keep your opinion and accept the reality. If you don't want to try anything to help yourself, then all you can do is accept the outcomes you will get. You are not actually expecting anyone on this site to tell you the world is going to change anytime soon.
find a woman that has the same condition...maybe it will work
Hey I've got aspergers too. Same problem although I'm 16, I don't see anything changing for me soon.
You need to find someone else with Asperger's. I doubt a normal girl will date you, no offense
Yeah, since a girl will never ask a guy out
who the f*** are you to speak for all normal girls? I would date someone with A.S. so f*** off
Dont listen to that bitch. No normal guy would date an anonymous narcissist like her anyway :) being naricissist is a mental disease too by the way :D
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