My boyfriend wants to buy another girl a present for her birthday.

[Anonymous]

It wouldn't be such a big problem, but I know for a fact that he's attracted to her. (I've asked him up front about it.) She's very pretty and talented, and has many things going for her. Thing is, he's only known her for a few weeks as he started a job recently at the place where she works.

Also, he asked me a few days ago if I wanted to hang out with them on a certain day, and after I had agreed I realized that particular date was her birthday. I am curious if she had asked to spend time with him, and he wanted to go but didn't bother telling me that it was to celebrate her birthday.

One last thing. He's failed to make it a point to go to church anymore, but he said to me today that "We're still hanging out on Monday and if they schedule me I'm going to switch it around so that I work every other day that week to cover for it." Must be one important holiday...

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OK, after all that he ended up not getting her something (as far as I'm aware of) and we hung out with her on her birthday today, had dinner and a movie. She brought along a guy that she's probably going to date/is already dating and we had a lot of fun.

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Also I think that I was being hyper-sensitive to it, because of my sometimes distrust of him. And now I feel bad. BUT! All turned out well, and I'm glad that it did, for the sake of her birthday.

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(And my relationship!)

[Alaskaman]

Seems pretty obvious that he's trying to work from you to her. But what is the question you are asking?

[Asker]

Sorry! I didn't quite remember to word it as a question. However, I guess you could say it is "How likely is it that he will break up with me for this girl since he is showing interest in her?"

He's specifically asked me if he could get her a gift, but I feel that even if I had said "no" he would've gotten her one anyways. Also, how important are long term relationships with guys? I'm so worried about this because I've been with this guy since high school, and we've shared EVERYTHING together.

[Anonymous]

He is so into her.. and he is only hanging onto you until he gets with her.