Do I bring my date some cupcakes for his birthday?

[Summer-Sun]

Went on a date with this guy last week, meeting him again this week :) everything is going well, and we are texting all the time :)

Our next date is the day before his birthday, he hasn't told me its his birthday... I've only seen it on Facebook. I don't want to buy him anything, but I'm really good at baking and thought I could bake him some cupcakes? A few of my friends said no don't do it, so thought it ask on here! Thanks :)

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+1 y

thanks for all the answers :) think I'm gonna do it... however, not heard off him for a few days and I've text him with no reply... so... I might not be baking them anyway :/ xx

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+1 y

another update... I'm not going to bake cupcakes, infact I won't even be seeing him... his ex girlfriend wants him back so we arnt going on our 2nd date as he doesn't know what to do... x

[xxxmegan]

I love cuppycakes more than anything, believe me! But they do come in numbers, which can be awkward when you two can't finish twelve, in which case he might offer them around, leading you to have a moment of irrationality where you think "omg he hates them..." To avoid this, think maybe a single cup cake just for him, lavishly decorated. Or two, one for you and him to share. Or four, for bulk. I wouldn't go any more than that. That being said, a lot of hassle can be saved if you just make a giant cupcake/mini cake. A small cake is more intimate, made for two (or one) and can give you more creative room. Also, the extra batter is wonderful for indulging in cupcakes of your own before and after the date...Or making another one when you accidentally smudge the entire back of the cake during your frosting endeavors and have to start over. If you don't have a mini cake pan (4inches wide, five inches tall), you could always go a little smaller than that by filling two cupcake cups, bake, then slice each in half. After that, frost the layers and stick them together for SUPERCAKE! *cough* If you really want a pro look to it and want to use fondant, I swear, use a homemade marshmallow fondant. SO easy to make, color, and use. It does take a little practice, but hey, not you have extra batter! And make sure to wear gloves when adding the color, or you'll get tie-dyed hands on your date. I found that little edible pearls (in many colors) look really cool... same with edible glitter...so fun! (don't get it in your eye.Effing HURTS)

Anyway, enough ranting for me, good luck! :) If you want any help, hit me up!

[xxxmegan]

Oh. And yeah, I think you should. :D The fastest way to a man's heart is through his sternum...*cough* I mean stomach... Try to do some snooping and make sure it really is his birthday... if you're still not sure, just make cupcakes with his name on it and play it off as random awesomeness if it isn't his birthday.

[CoffinWolf]

i love how you think ;)

[wicksjm]

I think it's a great gesture :). However, it's tricky. It's really your call. If he never mentioned that it was his birthday the day before your date, I'd say don't give him anything until he makes a comment about it being his birthday. Also, if he does mention it on your date, you can bake him cupcakes on your following date. Like a previous person said, people do put false information on their Facebook. I know this Guy who did that and I suggested to the guy don't put anything if you want it on Facebook. I'm the same way, I'm great at baking and enjoy baking for others. Good luck and have fun on your next date! :)

[Eiffelgirl21]

I said yes. Why not? I think it is really sweet. And, perrfect. Not a gift..but, kinda is haha.

It also shows you thought about it and I do not know..it's really sweet! It kinda gave me an idea for mine ha ha <333

@update: Maybe he is busy? Well, either way, do not take it to heart..he could be

just playing the catching game..he might want you to be into him..so he plays hard to get.

Just play even harder to get! <3333

[Summer-Sun]

he text me saying his ex girlfriend wants him back :/ and he doesn't know what to do as he likes me too, I won't be baking any cupcakes... x

[Eiffelgirl21]

Ouch...Wow. Well, in that case..If he picks you..I would tell him that you want him to FULLY be over his ex before you guys move into a relationship. I am sorry. Those things REALLY SUCK. Been there...done that. :(

[KBMC1]

Texting each other is good, but don't over dot it ;-) You'll find out why..

Some piece of advice: "I was sick when it was my birthday (once) and I didn't want anybody to bother me..., suddenly the doorbell went and there my (ex)girlfriend stood, she had made me cupcakes with a card, get well soon..." My illness dissapeared rather quick! ;-) SO, IT'S A GOOD IDEAR!

[ImALuvrNotAFighter]

While that would be a sweet gesture, it's too early for something like that; I wouldn't do it. You want to base your actions on what you hear from him, not what you read on FB. Besides, some people put false info in their FB profiles because of privacy concerns, joking around, etc.

[Summer-Sun]

I never thought of that, about the false info! Thanks!

[wicksjm]

Thank you for updating us :). Every-time I offer my little bit of two cents I sometimes wonder what the outcome's are. I am so sorry to hear about he and his ex. Well, on to the next one and continue to baking those cupcakes, there are MANY who love them without any ex-girlfriend drama. Be well.

[Summer-Sun]

Thank you :) x

[MWalsh89]

It's sweet, plus who doesn't like to be shown that someone cares for them? And it's a couple cupcakes, not like you're running off to get married.

I think it's a great idea. It's thoughtful, shows you care enough to take the time, and may even lead to him thinking more about you than a simple fling(should that be what you want, I don't know, don't want to scare you).

I'd say, if it's what you feel, in your heart as best, then go for it.

And best of luck to you. :)

[MWalsh89]

@Update: I'm sorry to hear that hun, though if he's feeling conflicted, perhaps that's a good thing. Because since it'd only be your second date, I'd say the fact that he's even feeling conflicted is a sign of a good likely hood of things going well for you(though, I don't want to get your hopes up 'cause I'd feel horrible if it ended up being the opposite. :(. I really hope things work out though for you guys, whatever happens.

[blufrenzy93]

Sounds good to me(: If you want, you can let him know... "Hey, on our next date, I have a little treat for your birthday(; " Or you can just completely surprise him. Either way, it's nice you want to bake him cupcakes.

[blufrenzy93]

@2nd update...wow, what a douche !

[Summer-Sun]

yep! he picked his ex anyway x

[shapeshiftgirl]

I don't see what would be wrong with it, even if it ended up not being his birthday (the next day). I don't acutally know why anybody would really put a false birthday on their personal website but I suppose it's possible, especially if your paranoid enough. The only real thing I see going wrong is that he doesn't like cupcakes or certain flavors. But, no matter what-like slipslender said- it's a SWEET gesture.. HAH... get it?... pffft..

Good luck!

[JohnnyBlaze]

Many guys may see this as moving a little too fast. Personally, I'd think it was incredibly sweet and I'd have that goofy little grin on my face for the rest of the day!

[JohnnyBlaze]

@2nd update: sorry to hear that. Are you going to stick around to see what he does, or are you going to cut bait and move on?

[Summer-Sun]

he told me he is going to go out with his ex again, so... won't be sticking around haha

[JohnnyBlaze]

Oh. Yeah, if he said he's going out with her again, then I guess that's it. Sorry. :(

[xxxmegan]

@Update:::

Owh. :(

Still bake the cupcakes, but instead write on them, "Man I look great today! ;D" Cupcakes are ten times better when you don't have to share! <3

[Summer-Sun]

maybe ill bake him some if he picks me? lol x

[xxxmegan]

Oh dear :/ Don't make him a priority if he's only making you an option...

[Summer-Sun]

yeah I know :(

[Hey-you]

i love cupcakes. you can bring them to me instead. and then I can bitch about him with you if you like as repay. he sounds like a naive douche.

[Summer-Sun]

haha sounds like a plan! thanks :) that made me giggle! x

[Hey-you]

glad I could help :D

[Longshot]

2 cupcakes. 1 says Happy and the other says Birthday. Small box with wrapping paper & bow. You would own me.

[Eiffelgirl21]

aww lol

[westman74]

It's sweet and classy... I love the idea. One thing to keep in mind... Girls love baked good some men don't... Please don't be crushed if doesn't have a sweet tooth. I don't that's why I threw it out there. Good luck :)

[xxxmegan]

If he doesn't have a sweet tooth, try a honey cake! It's not as sweet as a lot of cakes if you do it correctly! :D

[justlilly]

If he hasn't mentioned it is his birthday, don't do it.

[Summer-Sun]

Yeah, that's what my friends said! thanks!

[CarelessWhisper]

if a date did that for me I'd be putty in her hands, can't think of a nicer and sweeter sentiment

[CarelessWhisper]

If he doesn't respond then he really missed out. Any girl who's willing to bake you something on your birthday is quite the catch

[CarelessWhisper]

His loss, you can still bake me cupcakes :)

[Summer-Sun]

haha will do :P x

[Beastieboys95]

That would be sweet do it! For me and my boyfriend's one month annv. I made him a superb breakfast :) he loved it! haha

[BeerME]

Do it. If he get's upset about something like that then he's probably lame anyway.

[probabilist]

last update is wack. I say go on the date anyways, tell him no pressure to choose right now either way, give him the cupcakes and you'll be his goddess...

[Summer-Sun]

he choose his ex xx

[probabilist]

his loss

[xLuana]

Yep you should! It might make you look uncaring if you don't, and its a really nice thing to do ^^

[CoffinWolf]

you could bring me anything and my birthday would be freaking awesome. ;)

[olylowlife]

Yes! Most guys love when you cook for them, and guys like receiving gifts too! :)

[whydogirlsmesswithme]

Well, some could see it moving fast. But to me it is just sweet

[Ugliness]

It sounds so romantic, thrilling, delicious, oh wow it sounds like a wonderful idea!

[Visionaryxx420]

I hate cupcakes but it seems like a sweet thing to do.

[Visionaryxx420]

@update. Wow... What the f*** dude.

[Summer-Sun]

yep... he choose his ex in the end x

[Visionaryxx420]

Aww :(. I'm sorry