My boyfriend's friend did not invite me to her birthday party, should I be offended?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend is friends with this girl and has known her for a really long time . that's fine and everything I trust him completely , and she is also in a relationship and the guy lives with her . I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now and I've never met her . It just makes me wonder , why wouldn't she wanna get to know me ? she invites my guy d to hang out with her and her boyfriend and usually he will just say you don't know anyone who is going and so that will just be my hint that he doesn't want me to go. so the girl was having a birthday dinner and I'm just assuming no one mentioned me ,and I feel left out. I only have a small group of friends , and I'm trying to overcome my self esteem issues . I really would rather not confront my boyfriend about this , so how do I get over this?

[SimplyLexi]

Well I was invited to a party way later then when my boyfriend was. So I get the invitation and since my boyfriend hadn't told me about it I figured I'd go with him (invite him) Then he tells me he figured I wasn't going to go and he was already set up with another girl by his cousin (when I'm still his girlfriend). So he went to the party with another girl and ended up sleeping with one of the girls at the party.. He also said a ton of sh*t behind my back and I ended up not going, because I didn't want to see him. I found all of this out after he takes me to Chick-fil-a and tells me he cheated and dumped me in the car.

(I'm not saying don't trust your boyfriend) Just don't be offended if you're not invited.. Sometimes it's better that way hahahaha Well it was better that we had this whole thing so I could find out how bad of a boyfriend he was.

Ex boyfriend btw.

[rachiee]

You really should talk to him about it. You deserve to be seen and introduced to the people who your boyfriend cares about. It sounds like the problem is more with him than his friends, they don't know you. You can't expect to be invited somewhere by someone you don't know. Although I do think that it would have been polite to invite you but your boyfriend may have told her not to or it just slipped her mind. Talk to him though. Its going to eat you up inside if you don't. You can only deal with the same situation and negative feelings towards it for so many times.

[tayterkinz]

Confront her. tell her how you feel, and I know what you mean about selfesteem issues, I have plenty myself, I'm always the quiet one in the corner, but anyway maybe try to become friends with her! She could be thinking the same exact thing right now about you, so you make the first move! ask her to go dancing or to a movie or bowling with your group of friends, or ask you boyfriend to introduce you guys!

[Honest-Matt]

You say you don't know them and feel left out. Well that's normal, but you can't wait for people to invite you into their lives. You gotta go in there and introduce yourself.

[madiocre]

If she doesn't know you then I would espect it would be your boyfriends responsibilty/ decision whether you come. perhaps his crowd of friends are different ot you and he thnks you won't be able to blend. My boyfriend was alittle like this about his work friends cos they are all male and very masculine, but I eventually met them and got along really well. sometimes it just a bit scary to mix your social groups...