Lately, I saw a couple of people wanting to know on 'how to deal with a bully'. So, here is my effort to explain it to them. Hope it helps.
You should know that it's them with which something is wrong and blah blah blah.
This take is for those who believe that making friends with is not an option anymore.
Let us get to the point.
1. Know their level of intensity:
Before you react, try and observe on what basis do they billu you. Do they mock you for your health? Your condition? You stealing their girlfriend? Or any thing out of jealous or insecurity.
Observing is the tricky part. For example, they maybe jealous of for being good in studies, but bully you for being weak. And some other shitty things like that.
2. Ignore:
If you're comfortable ignoring, all well and good. You shouldn't react to them if they tease you by just saying things.
But if they get physical with you, here is what you should do.
By the time you ignore, try getting more and more stronger. It'll be worth it. It doesn't only means going to gym. Instead, you can exercise at home, eat healthy food, try making your PUNCHES harder.
3. Inform the authorities:
It would be a good idea consulting the authorities before you take an action. You don't wanna get into more trouble. If the authorities take an action against them, alright for you. If not, then they have been at least notified about a problem, they shouldn't mind any ruckus that may happen.
Even if the authorities do take an action, there is no guarantee that bullying will stop, then you have to take an action.
4. Take an action:
Be blunt enough to say it DIRECTLY to them.
Now the following two cases may occur:
A. They stop bothering you (rare)
If they stop bothering you, all well and good.
B. The situation gets worse (common)
Hold your ground, the situation got worse.
4. The last resort:
It'll be pretty obvious that you got yourself in a fight. Now, I would never recommend hitting anyone among them. Let them start it.
You know what you've got yourself into, don't be afraid, it's to end it all, to make things better for you. Know that it may lead to anything, you can break your bones or make yourself bleed. They won't hesitate beating you up so you too don't hesitate breaking their jaws. If you are weak and skinny person, put on some weight and strength then do it. Bitter but true. No one's gonna fight for you except you. Fight it.
If it's only one guy, beating him up will be much easier. Make him regret.
If it's more than one guy, you gotta let yourself get bullied. Hell no.
Either take on them all at once and concentrate on one of them. Give him the bruises he'll be feeling for months. Seeing him, most probably others will stop. If not, try your level best. Let your frustrations flush out from those punches and kicks. Let them pay a price.
Or
Take on them one by one when they're not with others. This won't be that easy because finding the right time and taking on them one at a time can be too time consuming. But someone's gotta do it. Do it.
Even if you get beaten up, they'll know that you dare to fight back and most probably won't bother you again. But make sure you succeed in the first place by preparing yourself.
Feel good to do so. You ignored enough, you endured enough, no other way was left. Every man has his limits. You had your own. They had it coming, they should have thought it earlier.
If you considered it worthwhile informing the authorities, and the things still didn't change, then you have a strong argument to support you. They must not trouble you much.
I had a similar situation but it was way too complex. If you wanna go in the details you can ask me either in the comments or through PMs. I'll help you the best I can. If not possible, I'll share another take solely on my story.
Thank you for reading it.
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