3 Things I Hate and Love About Being Female

[evm987]

This is just a random list of things that came to my head. It's all opinion and personal experience, I'm not claiming that this is the case for females in general, this is just my life.

3 Things I Hate

Let's start with the unpleasant

1. Periods

So many awful things.

a) cramps

why the heck does it have to hurt so bad? I'm just trying to live my life here. And yet my back and legs and belly hurt and I don't want to move. I didn't do anything to deserve this pain.

b) the price of pads/tampons

absolutely ridiculous. It's not like I chose to need these things. No, they are definitely a necessity, but they are expensive, and why on earth are they taxed?

c) leaks (and the fear thereof)

or what my mom calls "embarrassing clothing issues". Yeah, that about sums it up. I've had several rather difficult/embarrassing situations that have caused me to be paranoid for the first couple days of my period every month

2. Boobs

Yes, I said that. Why? Two main reasons. First of all, bras are expensive! I didn't choose to have these things on my chest, why do I have to pay for things to enclose them? And before any of you guys go "we'd like it better if you didn't wear a bra", yeah right. Any kind of movement more intense than a slow walk hurts when they bounce around. I need the bra. Second of all, the size. Again, not something I get to choose. I've got a decently large cup size and it's nearly impossible to find bras that fit. Also, there are a lot of stores where I can't buy clothes because everything is made for A and B cup girls and I don't stand a chance of fitting properly. (button up shirts especially). And sometimes I'd like to be able to dress myself without having my boobs be a prominent feature (or so it feels to me)

3. Social Acceptability

of eating. Apparently I'm supposed to be ladylike when I eat? And eat slowly? And have a small, ladylike appetite? Well I'm sorry, but I have a solid appetite. I don't eat slowly because at home I'm the slowest and as much as I try in public I still end up being faster than everyone else. And as for being ladylike, well, I sure don't know how to be dainty while eating, but I assure you all that I avoid making a huge mess of myself.

3 Things I Love

To end on a pleasant note

1. Periods

While the monthly occurrence may be a bit of a frustration, I am very happy that this is part of my life. Because of my menstrual cycle, one day I will be able to become pregnant and have a child. I am very excited for the day I become a mother. I know that emotional bond is something really special and I can't wait. (but I will because at this point in my life I'm not ready for the responsibility of a child)

2. Boobs

They're attractive. That's all. Sometimes I look at my chest and it just makes me feel sexy and I like it. My boobs are one of my favourite features for that reason.

3. Social Acceptability

of emotions. I was trying to avoid comparisons between genders but here I can't. It's a whole lot more acceptable for me to be sad or excited in public (for a justified reason) than it is for a guy. That's a freedom I am very appreciative of because I am a very emotional person and I can't hide the way I'm feeling.

That's just a few thoughts. I tried to make some parallels but I kind of failed on the last one. Probably nobody cares, but that's how I feel about me.

[Justsome30YOgirl]

Maybe to change your mind about what you "hate"
I have A cups. I have to eat to have fat to have more breast fat. But then, this is with backing of science, extra calories go to the breast least and to the tummy first! I actually have to maintain my tummy because can you imagine a BIG tummy with small breasts?
And you have a fast metabolism, get to eat much, and keep your breasts. You look at your breasts and feel sexy. I look at my body and don't feel sexy at all! I have to convince myself.
The rest, cost of pads/bras, girl I am sure you will have many more options for a husband than I would have, so find yourself one who has decent pay (and loves you, if I need to say it) to help you pay for them!
No hate here, I want to give a different perspective that's all. I hope you happiness.

[Aspiringdr]

I’m with you, it’s hard to be accepting of ourselves especially since in our society we don’t match the norm of what is attractive. But at least we don’t have to deal with the pain and other annoying problems 90% of girls have to.

[evm987]

Hey, thanks for that. I appreciate people helping me see different sides to the story, and you are one of the few who has done so in a friendly way. Just... all the thumbs up for you 😊

[Angelina25]

Girl, I feel ya!
The point on boobs specially!

[Benedek38]

1) WE GET IT! Periods suck. Can we get over it? You can take contraceptives if the cramps are bad. It helps most women who try it.
2) Boobs. "I didn't choose to have these things on my chest, why do I have to pay for things to enclose them?"
If they are such a bother to you, you can do what ScarJo did - breast reduction. Girls below C cup rarely have the "bouncing boob problem. If you care so much, get rid of it. Take out a sizable piece of fat tissue from. under them, and boom, boon problem is gone. I wonder how many women would. actually go along with it.
by the way breast reduction costs rougly 6000 dollars - as much as a boob job. Yet more women get boobjobs than reductions. I wonder why?

3) "Apparently I'm supposed to be ladylike when I eat? And eat slowly?"
I don't believe I have ever seen anyone complain that someone was. eating too fast for a lady. My parents told ME to eat slower, too - and I am a guy. So this is not a universal problem.

by the way if these are your biggest issues in life as a woman, I think women by and large have it pretty good.

[evm987]

Yes, yes, I get it, I'm complaining about really shallow issues that have solutions. I just wanted to put out how I was feeling.

[Benedek38]

Not only are you complaining about problems - you are complaining about non-issues. The reason your boobs are uncomfortable is the same reason you get free drinks at a bar. And why people open doors for you. And why people are willing to look sideways when you make mistakes.
The fact that you recognize this, and still complain makes you a hypocrite.

And the stuff about eating... come on.
The only legitimate stuff on this list was periods, and we have an abundance of methods to solve that.

[evm987]

I'm sorry, but I don't think you get to say that my feelings are not legitimate. This is my opinion. As well, writing a pros and cons list does not make me a hypocrite. It just means that I see two sides to the story.

Because of complicated family situation (not worth explaining) I can't really get a prescription for birth control. If I'm complaining about the price of bras, do you think I can afford breast reduction surgery? And I have had several people tell me, and many others imply indirectly, that I was eating too fast to be ladylike.

[Benedek38]

"I'm sorry, but I don't think you get to say that my feelings are not legitimate."
Fair enough. But we can both agree that with the lack of actual substatial problems, your post. can be described as 'whining'.

"As well, writing a pros and cons list does not make me a hypocrite."
You wrote one throwaway sentence about why boobs are good, and several paragraphs about why it is bad. Yet since you still have them, I have to assume your throwaway sentence was a more substantial argument.
Based on what you wrote, and considering you KNOW of solutions to your problem, any person would come to the conclusion that they want a breast reduction. Either you are completely irrational, or you like complaining about stuff, but then doing it anyway, and enjoying it. That's an inconsistency. That's calld hypocrisy. So you are either completely irrational, or inconsistent with your own reasoning, and a hypocrite.

[Benedek38]

"Because of complicated family situation (not worth explaining) I can't really get a prescription for birth control."
1) You can actually get it specifically for period pain. Visit a gynecologist, and ask him/her. You'll get the prescription.
2) But I think it is importabt to talk about it. I want to understand the widest possible range of arguments. Your situation could potentially change my mind about the whole issue. It would be a pitty if you didn't explain yourself.

"If I'm complaining about the price of bras, do you think I can afford breast reduction surgery?"
That's not the question though. If I offered you 6000 USD specifically for breast reduction - would you take it?

"And I have had several people tell me, and many others imply indirectly, that I was eating too fast to be ladylike."
Well, I was told as a child that if I eat the way I did, people will hate me, and will leave me because of it. I think that's a bit worse.

[evm987]

Okay, sure. I was whining.
On to the medication question. Simply put, my family doesn't believe in medication unless it's really necessary. Like, life and death, or so much pain you aren't functional. Given that I have never been completely out of commission because of my period, there would be no reason in their minds for me to get meds. Yes, I'm an adult, but I still live with my parents part time and they tend to know most of what's going on in my life. No, they aren't completely controlling and technically I probably could go get meds but I would then be faced with disapproval and questioning and my parents' belief that I have made a morally wrong decision. That's really not something I am prepared to deal with emotionally.

I personally don't believe in bodily modification. So no, I probably wouldn't take the money. I just wish I had a slightly smaller size. But yes, I think they are a good feature. You know what would make me happier? Being able to buy a bra for less than $60

[evm987]

I'm not claiming nobody has any problems that are worse than mine. I didn't even intend for that many people to see this. I was just feeling a little frustrated and needed to complain, and then wrote the positive list to make myself feel better

[Benedek38]

1) You have a problem with ridiculous anti-science parents then, not with you being a woman. They should live in the 21st century. Wikipedia is free.
2) Then you have to grow up emotionally, unless you want to be weak your whole life.
3) "I personally don't believe in bodily modification. So no, I probably wouldn't take the money."
OK, then I'll ask differently. If you had the chance to change something about yourself withou any kind of medical modification - say, a magical being changes your past and your DNA - would you get smaller breasts?

"You know what would make me happier? Being able to buy a bra for less than $60"
www.amazon.de/.../ref=sr_1_2
Available up to J cup size.
24 Euros.
That's around 30 USD.
And that's a fancy bra- there were cheaper ones.

[evm987]

Yes, if there was something like that, I'd take smaller breasts.

I couldn't buy a bra without trying it on first. Also...24 euros is about $38 CAD, which, while better than 60, is still a whole lot more than my B cup friends pay when they just pop over to Walmart, which will never be an option for me

[Benedek38]

Yeah, 38CAD is still bullshit, but look at itthis way: I live in a country where our average salary is 4 times lower than yours, and my boxer shorts (which are probably the cheapest if you don't want itching) cost 8-9CAD. Women's undies are 2-3 CAD a piece. It sucks for everyone in some way.

Anyway, I misjudged you. You are a nice person, and I was needlessly rude with you. I am just cranky because there are so many "sucks to be a woman" posts in general.
I honestly apologize for being rude.

[evm987]

Thanks for the conversation. Even if you may have been a little rude, it's good for me to encounter people who aren't perfect all the time :P
I get that my problems are nothing compared to a lot of other problems people face... I mean, the problems I presented are nothing compared to other problems I face, which are way less significant than other peoples' problems. These just happened to be the problems I was thinking about yesterday when I put this Take together.

[Kyōryokuna]

OHHHHHHH

[XTropicalchickX]

I agree completely with the periods and boobs kinds suck because of bras, but thankfully I'm a A-B cup so I can buy cheap ones from target.

At least I'm not the only girl that agrees with the eating thing. I had noticed that. I've gotten in the habit of just moving the food around before actually eating it. One of my friends got a little upset because of that though. He knows I tend to not eat in front of people and he hates that.

[evm987]

I'm always jealous of the girls who can buy bras from target/walmart/etc.

[XTropicalchickX]

Yeah I understand that. I used to be a D cup and holy crap those bras are expensive.

[evm987]

Yeah I'm a DD and it sucks. But one of my friends, I literally don't know how she does it. She's a 32 DDD and I've literally never even seen one of those in any store.

[XTropicalchickX]

Same with my friend. She's somewhere around DDD or bigger.

[newPython]

3 things I would love if I was a woman:

1) I can get sex anytime with anyone I want. I never have to worry about getting a pregnancy, because I can abort the little bitch in case I get pregnant.

2) I can sweet talk a guy into buying me a free dinner, flirt with a professor to get a grade increase, and get guys to do things like fix my computer, fix my car, whatever - easy to find a loser guy who thinks I like him and get him to do stuff for me

3) Lie about man sexually harassing me and the judge would automatically believe it.

3 things I would hate about being a woman:

1) Can't fart as freely as guys can.

2) Can't brag about all the guys I would fuck.

3) Can't take a piss on the side of the road, without making a scene.

[Kyōryokuna]

The good parts are making us out as sluts.

[newPython]

@Kyōryokuna Being a slut is not a bad thing at all. Fuck what society says. Are you going to let society dicktate what you can or cannot do.

[Kyōryokuna]

Nope. But you were saying good things about being a woman. The only good thing that came out of your mouth was the fact that you can now be labeled as a slut.

[newPython]

@Kyōryokuna I can't think of a higher honor than being called a slut. If you called me a slut, I promise you I would have a smile on my face all day. Pussy = Power.. everything else in life is secondary.

[newPython]

Perhaps you can tell us what are the 3 things you love as a woman.

[Kyōryokuna]

Gladly.

[Kyōryokuna]

As a woman, and can relate to the other woman that are feeling offence to this post, we are able to be a part in reproducing, and that we are just woman. Wouldn't it get boring if everyone was a man? I'd say it might. We had to spice things up in this big soup of a life.

[TonyMetal86]

Nice take, if your going to become a housewife, your husband will buy you all these...

It's lovely that you want to become a mother, i think that this will bring you also closer to your man who gave you this baby and who is already your everything, at this point you will have your man hugging you and the baby together...

One of the good things while being pregnant is that you'll have your man to spend more time with you, to take care of you more and you can't say no to a pregnant wife when she crave for something, even if it's in the middle of the night... the man must feed his wife and his baby inside...😄

[Paultripps]

The eating thing is really all in your head. Guys actually prefer when their date actually eats on the date v having a salad and water. I don't know where girls get this notion but it’s not from men...

[evm987]

No it's not that people tell me I should hardly eat anything... but I have a larger appetite than all of my friends and I often feel pressured to eat less when I'm around them

[Paultripps]

Who are these “people”- women? Cause guys like when a girl actually eats. Seriously if you are convinced of this, you need to ask more men about it. Be it peer pressure among women or whatever the motivations, it’s just not something men look for or care about

[evm987]

I literally had a conversation this evening with my boyfriend... he thinks I eat too much, and not because he wants me to be skinnier. I have what I would classify as a very large appetite and a very fast metabolism and that comes across as strange to most people given my build.

[Aynsof]

Well while I cannot speak for men as a whole I can say that the whole "ladylike appetite" is just silly and I for one would much rather see a woman if on a date or something get what she wants and eat to her content than her getting a salad or something just because it is supposedly feminine if you have appetite for more go for it

[FunkyMonkee]

Absolutely!! Order an extra large pizza with everything on it, throw a few towels across the floor, strip down to your underwear and dive in!

[Wolframium]

Totally agree. Women are also living things, laws of thermodynamics apply to them the same way. If some girl want's to eat (not overeat), society shoud shut up.

[evm987]

I would never go to a restaurant and order a salad. I eat about twice as much as my friends (very fast metabolism) and I sometimes get... somewhat impolite comments

[FunkyMonkee]

At least you eat when you eat!! My niece will LOAD UP her plate with EVERYTHING at the table, then eat one bite of a few things and throw the rest away!! Not only is she skinny as a stick, she also has no tits! (I accidently saw them once out on the front porch. They look like a pair of Hershey's Kisses!) I'm pretty skinny, too, but MY tits are about 3 cup sizes bigger than hers!!

[Aynsof]

Well I certainly would never comment on impolite or otherwise on what or how much a woman eats
I understand that it is a thing with some people but not all of us are like that

[goodlongman]

I don't know your age or relationship status. But, you and RedRobin need to allow your man to help you during your cycle time. You are very horny just before your period and after, so I would be good for your man to help you. Making love during your cycle time helps to reduce your cycle to about 2 days instead of 7. It helps the blood flow and cleans the uterus. It is a little messy but that’s OK and I assure you that it feels great for you.

[Trashbagover9000]

1 okay periods yeah they seem awful i guess i don't know cuz I'm a guy so yeah

2. bra's well you don't have to wear them but as you said that could hurt so yeah you should just have some like 5 i donno i mean like you only need new bra's when your boobs get bigger or something right?

3. Well honestly I don't give a damn about how you eat like why do people complain can't people just look at their own food

[evm987]

Unfortunately, bras do wear out and need to be replaced. The elastic stretches over time and is no longer functional

[musicbrain5]

Boobs don't continue to grow after puberty, but as @evm987 stated, bras wear out just like any other item of clothing and have to be replaced.

[Mont1989]

@musicbrain5 Mammals expect to be signs and signs of female hormones.
The breast continues to grow after puberty, in the case of weight gain or high hormone milk or estrogen or in the case of pregnancy and lactation

[BrianMerritt]

You seem very upset that you have to pay for things that you need.
We all have to pay for our necessities, because tampons and razors and spare tires do not grow on trees.

[evm987]

Yes, I am upset about it, because the prices are ridiculous. Also, do men need bras? Nope. Do men need tampons? Nope. That's my point. Men need razors, yes, but so do women.

[John_Bouff]

Women's razors are cheaper. I can't shave my face with the shitty little thing girls use to keep their legs purty. My beard is like razor wire. Feel my pain

[BrianMerritt]

You are making this a gendered thing when it is not. Plenty of people need products that other people don't, but just because you need something you didn't ask to need doesn't mean you deserve it for free.
I need glasses to see, I am near-sighted. I didn't ask to need glasses, but I need them now and that's reality and that's that. Not everybody needs glasses. But I don't think it's unfair or unjust that I have to pay for eye appointments or lenses. I am NOT upset because being upset over the harsh, unchangeable reality that I am near-sighted is simply a waste of energy. You really need to take a chill pill and stop talking like you are the only one who has to bite bullets.

[Kyōryokuna]

No. She's just saying that they're to God damon overpriced.

[Kyōryokuna]

Agreed.

[BrianMerritt]

@Kyōryokuna I agree that razors are overpriced. But so is deodorant. I invested in a re-useable razor to cut down on having to re-buy razors.

[Kyōryokuna]

doesn't everyone?

[BrianMerritt]

@Kyōryokuna No, a lot of people buy "expensive" razors not realizing how cheap they are.

[MScifiwriter]

O... k? So you love and hate the very same things about being a woman... but for different reasons?

I suppose in a sort of way I can understand that, but it's also rather confusing.

[evm987]

This was me presenting pros and cons of a few aspects. It wasn't meant to be confusing, so I apologize if it came across that way

[MScifiwriter]

Ah! I see! My bad! I completely missed how it was more of a Pro's versus con's. I can see that now! :)

[Darvodo217]

Go on!

[Wolframium]

Yeah, mainly point 3. If you're female, society cares. If you're male, then…IDK, go die or something. :-D
I could use talking point form 2. I didn't choose to be male. Yet, I have to suffer it's drawbacks.

[Anonymous]

I hate periods as well. The cramps, mood swings and craving of food.

I wanna have boobs cuz my friends keep making fun of my flat chest but one of my friends feel jealous of my boobs cuz it’s easier for her lmfao.

I don’t give a damn about how I eat

[Anonymous]

I love how you did that thing where you pointed out the good and the bad for each points.

[evm987]

I was trying to balance out my thoughts because there are good and bad sides to all of them

[5yrup]

you must have it good for a woman if all that bothers you is these surface issues

[5yrup]

also the appetite one? huh? i eat like a normal person and nobody cares

[JimRSmith]

Interesting, but slightly difficult for me to relate to, as a man.

[evm987]

Yeah not really designed to be relatable for men... I was just ranting 😂

[FunkyMonkee]

Try relating to it as a woman and see how you do.

[musicbrain5]

Just make a girl profile here and you'll be able to miraculously relate to everything in this MyTake ;) ;)

[JimRSmith]

@musicbrain5 Hahahaha, now why didn't I think of that, lmao?

[John_Doesnt]

I would hate to have boobs flapping in the way when I'm trying to jog. But I would enjoy getting my first abortion.

[evm987]

I'm sorry, why exactly would getting an abortion be a positive experience?

[ATuairiscean]

Female logic, got to love but don't try to understand it :)

[Kyōryokuna]

Don't ask unless you want a whole book about it.

[Logorithim]

Glad that you can share both pros and cons- thanks!

[Q-tip-boy]

A lady must eat more because she has to suffer blood loss

[Kyōryokuna]

That is true.

[Kyōryokuna]

And I mean a lot of blood loss depending on the type.