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So, I was just kind of thinking about all of these things today and decided that I'll post it...
I think that a lot of people sort of assume that skinny people wouldn't have to go through much like bigger people do. But as a skinny person, that's very incorrect and I had to face constant mockings for my weight.
Note that I'm 5ft and 88 pounds which isn't that bad at all. I look very normal as well.
My doctors aren't bothered much by my weight and thankfully I don't have major health problems due to it.
Yes, it IS technicallly underweight (BMI of 16 while the healthy range is 18-24) but my doctor is happy with it at the moment.
1. Some people look at me weirdly because of it
I remember when my great grandmother saw me after a while we haven't met, she gave me really disgusted looks. I knew it was because of being skinny because she told my mom that I'm "way too" skinny and it's not normal. This thing happens with a lot of other people for me.
Like, one time, a girl in my class looked at my arm for a while and then she was like, "Wow look at how thin your arm is!! 😳😳"
2. Being called "anorexic"
I remember once I was walking down the street and a random lady called me anorexic out loud, infront of everyone.
That made me feel so ashamed, because my mental state is doing so well, especially compare to people who struggle with anorexia, and being compared to a person who's dealing with that mental illness is NOT something I'd want to be associated with.
I've been called like that quite few times before, and my own grandmother thought that because of how skinny I am I'm probably in a very bad mental state and starving myself.
3. Constant mockings for my weight
Sometimes I hear people saying stuff like, "look at how skinny she is...." as if it's super shocking and terrible. Like I have 3 extra arms.
I find it rude because they're not trying to even be discreet about it.
Even my own mom said to me once that I look like a Jew in a concentration camp. It wasn't even jokingly. It was kind of funny, but then I keep thinking she really thought that.
4. The jokes
I admit that I don't mind these jokes too much *from certain people* (like my father), but from others it's just rude. Like if they're not people who are even close to me.
Usually it's stuff like, "you should put rocks in your pockets so you don't fly in the wind!". Thanks dad, but even that doesn't work. I still fly in the wind.
"Gosh, I'm scared to hug you because I don't wanna break you." (From randoms) Oh feel free! I got used to breaking in half every two days.
"My little chicken quarter!" I love you too dad.
5. Random people thinking my diet is their business
"Do you even eat?" Do I live on air?
"You should eat more!" How on earth do you know how much I eat?
"You're not eating enough." "EAT!!!!!!!!" (People who are close to me enough and aren't annoying can tell me to eat, but if you're constantly gonna look at my plate and tell me to "EAT!!!!!!!!!!" I'm just not gonna be able to tolerate that).
6. Random people thinking my weight is their business
"You need to gain weight." Oh really? Hmm my doctor told me otherwise.
"You need to be thicker. You're too thin." Too thin? For who? The guys who enjoy looking at my body at the beach?
"How much do you even weight?" *sigh* 40kg.
"I think that's unhealthy/anorexic." Again, my doctor said otherwise.
7. Looking even younger than you actually are
Just like baby face, having a smaller frame (short + skinny) can make you look younger.
I've been mistaken for a 13 year old and I don't have that much of a baby face. I'm pretty sure it was because of my more petite frame. That sucks lol.
8. Seeing all these "curvy" Instagram models as a younger teen
I think these "curvy" women and all the mockings for my weight were the main reasons for why I was so uncomfortable in my own skin for years.
I haven't went to the beach/pool for 4 years because I was thinking I'm too skinny and that I'm super unattractive for wearing a bikini. This year I finally let go of that though.
But seeing all these women with big thighs and butt, just made me feel like I have to be thicker to be attractive. I kept trying to gain weight. I started working out a lot. (Then stopped because I used to lack motivation...lol). But the point was, I felt ashamed being skinny.
9. The body positivity movement isn't for you if you're skinny
Because you can't possibly be self conscious if you're skinny. (Have been told that personally). The body positivity movement is for bigger people, because, skinny was considered the most attractive for ages, so, who needs to promote skinny bodies as beautiful too?
Usually I never see skinny bodies when it comes to "all bodies are beautiful!"
And when the people who are all about that "positivity" want to make a bigger person feel good about themselves, they'd try and drag down skinny women. By saying things like, "skinny is so boring. I know how to eat instead of ordering a salad 🙄" or "real women have curves!" (When reffering to "curvy" women only).
First, skinny =/= curveless! Everyone has some sorts of curves. Also, you can still be a hourglass figure and not be "thick".
My body measurements are literally 31-22-31 (31/30) which counts as a hourglass figure, but it's still a thin one, due to being 88 pounds. And even if you're, say, 28-25-29 which is more straight down, you'll still have some sort of a curve.
I'm pretty much done here lol. I hope my writing was good enough and please let me know what I could improve in! I want to become an editor on here 🙂